European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 15, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse The dragon contained trom Page 13 problem and Ninf i darn f i Liny apr Al unsocial Wilt Piv a Vir Liim Streis Dis Orck f a Iryl of in is nor i Mon Suh Llu i see i As ,1 Pofi incl. Flip Yvo if Prol if is it inn top. And on fir men who have / every definition led military . Who have with a lol of Manta must o 1 Clown locked i in Rohll Kivi never worked through il50ir fillings. Never Sla Rcd the dry Jon in i to by no is Young age. They arc Road a to Rolirod. A Rinvil Loloei their military supports Slem. Tiey if in a very vulnerable period questions double pressures bubbling up. And the old still Down there Wilh its news open waiting for the Gate to Marrs says Many vels have never been Able to discuss Tho War with the people they should to closest to wives families. Old friends they say their families Don l understand Hal they won t Ever understand. That nobody who was t there can understand. So the Poison slays in. And if in slays in Long enough it can clo per Mannl damage the Poison stays in Lor other reasons 1 there s an unfortunate mythology in America Iho frontiersman thing says Neptune it s of for a Warrior to treat an abscessed tools. Throbbing like hell bul not abscessed emotion because see. Thai shows was Knees and he s supposed to be totally sell reliant Invulnerable so if you and a moment in combat whore you wore less than rambo. Fell ice his afraid filed Al something then Iacre must to something badly wrong Wilh you goes the myth and in you actually seek help Loril i Hen you must not be Worth a Damn so Lucre s All this Salhab film and Labelling by others thai has gone on. A lot Otil totally illogical take a who holds that Soufl inside Down deep growing Tor the next 20 years and he s got problems there s an implicit Hierarchy in a lol of vets minds of to in mass to have earned Iho right to even have a problem there Are Guys who never got out of Saigon who Are is ill telling themselves i did t do Good not when it coupled " Marrs recalls one Man who because of the intensity of his a penance had trouble acknowledging anyone else s experience " Neptune says the vast majority of Vietnam vels Are civilians out there alone alienated Lor years. Many have what i Call the Peggy Lee syndrome is of Fiat a a Ziereis Alier surviving with War and death and All around them. Iho rest of their lives can seem pretty tame hat dead hardly Worth Leeling much about " for All the problem laced by veterans however these psychotherapists see All but the worst problems As sealable in doth individual and group therapy sessions submerged emotions can be brought up 20 years later and Healing can Lake place says Tail. I Don t think memory slops but the conflict around in can let the Poison out Maars says. The most realistic goal is to let the open wounds become scar tissue Neptune advises. There s nothing wrong Wilh scar tissue. Ii holds together just line. In looks a Little ugly but really you can be Kindol proud of it he puts in another Way let the dragon come up. Look in in the Eye and kill it once and for All. Men who be done in Tell us they get boiler. Life gets easier to carry. They learn to forgive. Themselves and ass photos by Ken George remembering the War Ahtl won t end. The enemy within memory unresolved anger. Therapist sympathy enable vets to open i when t came Home. I did t talk Lor two years. Cavalry Man nervous. Walks into the building twice. Changes his mind turns and walks out this group Stuffins l for him. Or is in he wheels Heads Back in and sits Down Wilh Ranger and air same and big red Ono. I m sweating like a confesses Cav wan. A first Lime visitor. The therapist in this Vietnam Veteran s discussion group in Heidelberg is Nancy Tail a woman whose Magnolia soft Southern voice is in Stark and soothing contrast to the hard ugly images of Vietnam Hal rattle the room like incoming Shell fragments. Tail was never in Vietnam but she has counselled hundreds of men who were. The men Here iwo still in the army and Twu out. Say privately Hal her quiet empathy enables them to finally talk substance to someone who was t Tail guides the discussion through verbal minefields gently defusing the use of scare words like nervous breakdown occasionally inquiring would you like to share that she s helping to float up thoughts feelings. Images of Iho War and its Alt math Hal May have tormented them for years. Up from dark emotional dungeons and out into the Light where you can look Al it again and maybe Reova Luale the terrible thing see it Dildo really now. Make a different judgment Cav Man. Veteran of the tet Olfe Sivo. Several limes wounded plus two brain concussions. Iron Leeth knocked out and other assorted War injuries spent a year in the Hospital while they put me Back he Leils the group he feels anger anger anger. Ii really does l take much to trigger it and in s killing me. Sleepless nights explosive temper i be had to sit on my feelings to keep ram hurling somebody. Tho Onty reason i Haven i is because of discipline military discipline Ranger a two tour Vole ran went up in a helicopter nol Long ago and suddenly thought he was Back in Vietnam. Could t remember anything that had happened for Iho last 16 years hospitalized he underwent hypnosis and remembered things to had done and had done to him in the War thai made my wife throw up " airborne describes himself As a typical 19-year old who went to Vietnam right out of High school. The whole year i kept waiting Lor something bad to happen. Nothing happened no big firefights. When my unil prepared to pull out i volunteered to stay in Vietnam. No sooner had hell for a new assignment than my old outfit Gol hit 60 percent casualties. I still think about thai when 1 Camo Home i ddn l talk to anybody for two years. Talk about what a couple of years ago i crashed my military career my marriage came apart. I guess you can say something s still big red one. Captured killed with his Bare hands t smile no matter How Agort hair raising flashbacks nth insomnia breakdowns it Yards. Sometimes the vat to gloom starts to creep thro limes they spit it out Slack bursts of released tension Cav Man for a Long tit person s life meant very i big red know i would t be parsec Guy Gol into me Loo bad i head Oil. He s just Anolta Cav Man i wrote Only f in 1 Al months you re in it and kill like an animal Ane people die what Are you wore Here 1 Ranger i made a Aryl loft because i did t think Buck i did you want to Cornel i really did t care. I of 01 died. Sort of like Cav Man not afteme. Home i did t care How. If was Hal i d kill. An Yori from coming Ranger i did t have before i wont Over i got in judge said you go to the to Tail when i got Back a because you went to Haj does t make you a Man. Sit there and stay Cav Man when in angry violent dude. I d jul ass As look at you. 1 o old respectful people my in anything to say to. Ii a anymore. 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