European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 31, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Al disinterest i Factor in marital breakups 19 lid loss at sexual interest May also Stem from other sexual problems such As premature ejaculation or erectile difficulties to protect himself from embarrassment a Man having these problems May subconsciously suppress his desire Lor sex. For women inadequate sexual stimulation Lack of Romance or intimacy difficulty reaching orgasm at feeling pain during Intercourse sometimes a result of a vaginal infection May Lead id inhibited desire for either partner repealed pressure trom the other to have sex More Ofton can tag get even greater resistance since what is regarded As a duty is rarely desirable. Either partner May lose interest in the other Hough not necessarily in sex in general because of physical or behavioural changes that Are a sexual turnoff Lor that person. Marital conflicts Are another major cause. Anger resentment disappointment loss of personal regard Money Battles or the discovery of extramarital activity can stifle sexual interest. Ironically some people who have what might to considered the worst marriages nonetheless maintain a very Active Mutual sexual interest while others who consider themselves happily married Are Only rarely sexually intimate. Still another cause is past sexual or psychological trauma. A Man who thinks of his wife As his Mother May be inhibited by a Strong incest taboo a women who was sexually accosted by her father May generalize her discus to her male. Many women who were raped report subsequent impairment of sexual desire and women who were raised with strict sexual prohibitions May react with desire inhibiting guilt even after marriage for Many couples simple Home remedies can revive sexual interest and pleasure. Ii for example boredom is the cause introducing variety is the solution. As Phillips suggests treat the relationship As a Brand new love Allair make love at noon in the living room on a Mountaintop. Try necking and petting without Intercourse if you re too lived at night Sel the alarm Lor an hour earlier in the morning " others say a simple vacation or a weekend away can help a couple rediscover their sexual intimacy. To dual career couples. Avery Clark suggests that they apply some of their time management skills Sil Down the first o every week and schedule in some physical time together at least 15 minutes three times a week aimed at increasing sensual awareness of one another Don t assume you need to be in the mood beforehand or that the encounter will necessarily Lead to Intercourse the psych Dogil said just focus on pleasing each other through touch and Lei nature Lake its course. For couples in which one partner desires sex More olten than the other Avery Clark suggests that both participate while the More interested partner achieves sexual release through Means other than Intercourse such As Maslyu Balion or perhaps Oral genital Contact. Phillips urges women la recognize that their sexual response pattern is Likely lobe different from the pattern found among men. She explained thai Many women rarely feel sexual desire before they Are actually involved and so May think their level of desire is Low compared to their husband s she suggests Ihen that women do More to arouse themselves in Advance of sexual involvement through fantasy relaxation techniques Sef stimulation or sexy books. When medication is a cause of lost sexual appetite or ability such As Otten happens in the treatment of High blood pressure the solution May be a change in the prescription. If depression is the undo flying cause treatment of the emotional problem to the usual solution. Of course some couples require the Aid of a sex or marital therapist or psychotherapist to help them recognize and Deal with hidden conflicts and emotional obstacles to sexual responsiveness. Sometimes there is no underlying psychological cause and no obvious physical Causa for sexual disinterest. Or. Harold Liel marital therapist Al the University of Pennsylvania has had Success in simulating the libido in women by treating them with the male hormone testosterone once a month Side effects which occur Only occasionally can Sas photo problems arise if couples Don t totter Romance. Include slight hair growth and acne. For men Wilh an underlying sexual problem treatment of that problem usually restores libido. Sometimes Avery Clark said therapy is simply a Mailer of education she said thai for the husband who thinks the couple s level of sexual activity Falls Short 0 the Norm we educate him about the realities of sexual frequency in the context of a committed  it s Normal for sexual frequency to decline with increasing length of marriage she said in other cases she lesson is one of Leeh Muu according to or. Helen Singer Kaplan a psychiatrist and sex therapist at the new York Hospital Cornell medical Center who called Public and professional attention to the problem of inhibited sexual desire nearly a decade ago some couples simply need to learn How to please one another sexually and How to communicate their needs and desires. For others what is required is a belter understanding of the mechanics of sexual response Iho need la create an emotional and physical climate thai permits sexual feelings to emerge. As Phillips put it sex needs an investment of Lime Energy and creativity it is nol jus the result  falling into