European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 30, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Columns Down by the River singing Jimmy s blues by John Windrow Magazine editor the River main a like .1 dark ribbon under the Spring Moon and red yellow and Blue lights Hung River the crowded tables in the Beer Garden. The blues spilled Oul the door smothering the  murmur of voices and the sound of Beer mugs dragging across wooden tables. Inside the Ruckhaus on Lite South tank of the River a Hanau Germany one of the old timers  Shurling the blues big foe Turner the Man they called he King of i i blues called Jimmy Witherspoon one at his favorite blues singers. Witherspoon who Sang with Lay Mcshann Woody Herman and count Basle just to nume a few was onstage with a five piece band called icicle blues Power. The name of the group May not have been , but blues singers and bands have rarely Beun afraid of exotic names. The guitar playing of Jim Mullen wat Sweet indeed sounding much More like South Chicago or Boale Street than Scotland his Home Wutherspoon in i Ian three piece suit and lie belted out the lyrics that have carried him so far and for so lung pumping his Arm to the beat of the drum and the spitting rhythm of the saxophones. The crowd held Back a bit anyone but the Coffee dreg Are still warm when they leave. Whatever happened to the afterglow gentle Reader ii has sometimes been dissipated by the before glow. The Only thing that slops miss manners from agreeing that the custom of your Circle is certainly Peculiar is her uncertainly about How much lingering is done before dinner. What you describe 30 to 40 minutes Over after dinner Coffee is the Normal routine. But hat routine also includes Only a 30 to 40-minute cocktail hour before dinner is served. Nowadays it has become Only too common few guests to straggle in late hosts to schedule dinner even later to accommodate them guests knowing those habits to come even later and so on. Naturally people who go through this Are exhausted after dessert. There Are other possible reasons for Early departures baby Sitters Long rides to get Home inability to keep awake late or Early office hours. Since this is a Circle of Good friends. Miss manners suggests you talk Over what dinner schedules Are agreeable to fill of you and when you want to do your lingering. Dear miss manners throughout the seven years of my marriage and before i have been a supporter of animal Protection. My views ate Well known to my family and my husband s family. Whenever asked i have expressed my View on the use of animal Pells for fur garments i do not approve of it. To be Clear i do not approve of it for myself. My Mother has a Mink Coal and i certainly would not think of admonishing her Lor purchasing such an item but whenever the Coal has been offered to me for special of Caitone i have declined. A couple of Yean ago my Mother in Law knowing fall Well my feeling bought me Lynx coat an expensive Lynx coat and presented it to me at Christmas. Every Eye in the room was on me watching for my reaction to this confrontation of my convictions. I Laid seriously you really should t have and everyone laughed because they knew exactly what i meant. My Mother in Law Laid she expected to ice me to the coat often. After Alt it had been an expensive gift my husband told me it would be very rude to Aik Hli Mother to return the coat so i sold it and took the Money which i considered to be mine As the coat was mine and forwarded sizable donations to various animal Protection organizations. Frankly that was a great Christmas present for me. When my deed was discovered the dam broke. I am now the most inconsiderate ungrateful creature who Ever lived. Maybe i am but was t my Mother in Law a Tittle inconsiderate in her actions Centie Reader what we have Here is modern etiquette rarity the expensive present intended As insult in seems to be Worth thousands of dollars to this woman to annoy you. Do not succumb to the attempt to out the etiquette onus on you. It seems to miss manners that by refraining from criticizing the View and practices of others even though they Are in opposition to your own moral ,.and managing a fairly gracious response to this unpleasant gesture you have Liuji tved meticulously under trying circumstances. In any Case no present giver his Iny right to dictate How the present should be used. St Tipei nug Ulni poll 30,1987