European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 14, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday june 14, 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i have been dating a very Nice Well educated Man for almost year. A few weeks ago we went on a ski trip with another couple. The other fellow s brother and sister in Law invited the four of us to dinner after our Day on the slopes. When we arrived at their Home she said we could Wash up so we took turns going upstairs to get ready for dinner. My Friend stayed up there so Long we began to worry. When i went up to Check i found him taking a Bath. I was mortified to say the least i made him Promise not to say anything about this and proceeded to Dean of the bathroom. The problem is that he does t see anything wrong with what he did. I believe that because we had never met our hosts before and were not overnight guests my Friend was totally out of line. To like your opinion to Settle the argument was it or was it not a tactless act on his part mortified in  my tact esst re say it was gauche. Sounds As if the Guy Dott it around soap and hot water my often. He Saay the to heated but where s us common saw Yob win thai one Honey. Deaf Ann Landers t have been a construction electrician for 22 years. I am terrified the Way some people disregard the Poten tial danger of electricity. No Nutter How often folks Arewa Raed they insist on jeopardizing themselves and wone yet others. For example they break off the prongs on Extension and appliance cords use electrical appliances in or near bathtubs stick Metal utensils in toasters and use electrical equipment outdoors without proper Protection. Electricity will work for you night and Day. It will protect you keep your Bouse warm in the Winter and Cool in the summer Wash and dry your clothes and dishes provide you with entertainment education the latest news and much More. Electricity can also be dangerous. It does t car who Yoo Are or How much Money you have. If handled carelessly it can and will kill or cripple you. I strongly urge your readers to Contact a licensed electrical contractor a qualified electrician or thebe Udot department and inspection personnel i i your area Tor advice on wiring requirements for code compliance. Paying attention to this letter could save your George t. Flanagan local Union no. 38, International brotherhood of electrical workers Cleveland Dew George the to you for letter that Coal prove immensely valuable to millions of readers. I m glad you look the time and table the write. Dear Ann Landers i am a 60-year-old woman who is married to a Lov ing generous kind Man. I have a 23-year-old son who is not my husband s. This boy is the result of a Brief interlude i bad with a passing  Doc my son have the right to know who his real father is front want to Hurt my dear husband or my sob but this has been on my mind a lot lately. I cant talk to anyone i know about this. I will bewitching your column for your answer Ann. . I should mention that the Man i had the affair with and a wife Are close friends of ours. Ashamed of the past in Ohio Dor Ohio Tori oozy a a Natac Trace b bothering Jot and you need to get Tail off Yaw Chest talk to my priest a Wasler or rabbi. Do not repeat do not Tell your Hus a or yer my. � would he terribly upset thai to both Aasi won serve a vend Par Pace. Marital problems leave Soldier frustrated there is army Community services for the spouse. There a red Cross for the spouse. There is family advocacy for the spouse. Win somebody Tell me what there is for the Soldier to protect his rights As a father and As a Soldier in the event of a breakdown in the family Structure divorce separation ? i am stationed in Frankfurt during my tour my spouse and 1 have had my blotters which i thought constituted reason to have the family extracted from the command. After the second incident i was ordered by my command to give my spouse an the keys to the Quarter. I was also ordered to not go to the quarters unless i was escorted by a senior Noo whether my spouse was there or not these Moarten i Render $316 a month for. Yet i have no right to go there nor do i have control at to what goes on there. There were times that i went there and my Sooae would be there with a Mafe comp Amon smoking drags. I reported this incident at Well As other to my command but to no Avail the whole time a a form 4187 a submitted but As we a know paper work win get lost the form 4187 was set fitted again this tame by the walk through method. The form 4187 was kicked Back on a Small technicality. Now i am told that he Fol be another four 1o six. Weeks before orders come Back. My biggest station is Bow do i the Soldier get her to leave we Sci Cru y time i turn there is someone to help her these organizations Are to protect her Only if she does not abase them. If you Are saying of Wen this it the Soldier s problem Fine then let me the Soldier take care of the matter. Maybe sometimes Thi army cares just too much to even be Able to help the troop. Name withheld Frankfurt editor s note la. Col. Christopher c. Cole chief of Start Frankfort military Community replies there an resources available in the military to help both spouses when a marriage terminates. The housing office and toe Legal assistance office can offer valuable and time saving advice on the Best Way to proceed when a Soldier wishes to Send his or her Fasoly members Home. A Soldier seeking Advance return of dependents Suomu be aware that Here Are two types of Advance Irons b cases of misconduct the command May direct and Vasice return m order to avoid embarrassment to the Conan and or Cam Unity. Comm who directed return b rcsei1 Ted for cases when the command can no Laager tolerate the continued misconduct of the spouse or child in the Community. Ahe naively the Soldier May req int Advance return of  members through command channels by sub aritti�gadafonsi4187. When Advance return of dependents is desired due to Kartell or other personal problems the matter is Usalj treated1 a a return at the request of the Soldier. The request Saust he documented with a separation Foffi Flaat or a statement which shows thai the Byj triage has broken up. An unsupported retest  he denied. In this Case the Soldier submitted a req Cost Lor the let aim of us spouse. The request was erroneously sub Ess Tutsi is the Frankfort military  mall co which returned the request although the Mil com a Saiid have independently initiated a command tree sol return in this Case the evidence did not support it the request was later submitted through proper Chan Nels. The request went to 1st personnel come and travel  was approved. Some time was lost when the ass stat was erroneously submitted to the Mil com however normally the process shooed take Only two to three weeks to Complete. Once orders Are received directing Advance retain dependents an no longer entitled to live in government quarters. At this Tine the Soldier May terminate quart ers through the housing office soldiers living in government quarters Are urged a consult with both the housing office and Legal assist Ance when contemplating separation or divorce. Army wife wants some changes made this letter is All about changing army regulations. Feel it is time for a few changes first there is Field duty. I know there Are a lot of men going to the Field to pull guard and maybe if they re Lucky shoot a few rounds. These men Are gone for three weeks. Why the budget is Low but on the other hand they need the training. What training my husband Calls me from the Field and tells me what movies he s watched and How Many been be drank bit night what about the wives we did not go through Basic training. The army seems to forget that. We still have emotions and that s allowed. There Are Many wives who need their husbands while they re in the Field. Forget it no one can get your husband unless it is a life or death situation. Hey but we can talk to the commanding officer if he s Here. 1 did t marry the commanding officer. Yes it s time that the army makes some Minos and or major changes. I m beginning to speak up be cause i won t get an article 15. If there is a reason for the Way the army regulations Are i want to know it. If not 1 want it changed i think people should get involved and write Theus. Government about their feeling and concerns. No problems will be solved if the government does t know about them. Take the first step and speak up Naan and location withheld divestment in t working Reader says what s with this so called divestment Campaign against South Africa to bring an end to apartheid Why so called because the fact is Many of the companies that Are supposedly pulling out Are not really pulling out at All. The technology the product and so Forth Are staying in South Africa. Meanwhile stateside someone is collecting a part of the profit that the new South Africa business shareholders Are making. Correct me if i m mistaken but what is the use of divesting out of South Africa if these companies Are still maintaining ties with them in january 1987, Oliver Tambo president of the outlawed african National Congress said and i Para phrase apartheid must go. This is not the time to improve its efficiency because that s the purpose of Reform to improve. Let us put the squeeze on. Let Al the american people come with us. . Wee Hahn a Germany  cc4. Jeffrey m. 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