European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 22, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers monday june 22, 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters Pear Ann Landers a  just celebrated father s. Day i thought you might like to rep nil an item Iran Laird from a dutch Magazine. This nostalgic Gem appeared in the Danbury Conn news times. I have cherished it for Many Yean and Hope you win share it with your readers. Donna w., washing ton . Dordo Muk Lon ill i us myself to rms Iroe and Tun certain Olben will my blk Yon far fending it on. Father 4 Starc or daddy on do us thing. 7 Yean my dad know a Tot whole Tot Yean my fatties docu4 know Osite everything 11 Yetra of Welt re Holly father does t knowl Haf tuber. U Yuk father Hope Twer of by cloned. 21 Youw of hit my b not of Dale. Whit did Yon expect25 yen it know Little bit about but not ditch. 30 Yean maybe  it to find oat what Darth Tiki. 35 year a Tittle patience. Let get Dud s assess ment before  do anything. So year i wonder what do Wank have thought Boot that lie was pretty smart. 60 Yean my dad knew Abu lately everything 65 Yean i d give anything if dad were Here so i could talk thai Over with him. I really Mats that Man. Dear Ann Landers i feel As if i have been Hil by a 10-ton truck. Please ear with me while i try to gather my thoughts. My husband and i have been married four Yean  have b 3-year-old and a baby 6 months. Malhew and i get along very Well. We be never bad any serious fights. He i a great father and loves the  week i found some undeveloped film in his fishing tackle Box. 1 was cd Ivain they were pictures he had taken of the kids and dropped them offal the drugstore. Yester Day i picked them tip. My hands Are shaking As i write this. I Hope you can read it the pictures Are of Malhew and another Man very handsome in fond embrace. There were about a dozen photos. 1 to few at once that this was More than a Friendship bul it made no sense. There is not one thing about Malhew that would Sug Gest be is not totally straight. We went together for two Yean Odbre it married. He is borne almost every Nii Dit Ori am with him. The Only time he it away from me is for an occasional night of Bowling or a weekend of fishing. When Malhew came Home i waited until the children were in bed and then i handed him the pictures. He locked at them paused and said i m relieved thai you know.". It items that Mathew and this Friend have had an ongoing relationship for seven years. He married me be cause he thought it would cure him. He wants o keep our Home together bul he says he cannot give up this Man. I love my husband and want to nay married to him. He a a terrific husband and father and i think i can handle it. Am i crazy please advise. Nell in  it can work if Yon an a Strong woman. Counselling Cam help. Ear whatever Cut fort it might be the vast majority of wha in four spat choose la stay with their husbands new fable they ill me tour an ecu cred Kat to signify cml other is a nun and not a woman. Surprised i urn too. Tot Knitli Tan Gand Chat of Keimat Lauri us come for  can Only a he h Art of tin Sun and str Tom. Apo Wilt. . Community Bank charges discussed Here it is another payday. Soldiers running around with their pockets full of Money to spend and Bills to take care of and at the same time facilities placed Here to service the Soldier not really doing that in a fair an reasonable Means. This deals with the charges the department of de sense established for the Community Banks to offset expenses incurred part of which Are 1. Money orders. These Are issued in amounts up to $1,000 at a charge of 50 cents for the first s100 plus 25 cents for each additional si00 or fraction Hereof. Thus a $1,000 Money order will Cost 12.75. 2. Bank checks if you need a Bank Check in either dollars or Marks it will Cost you $5 unless you Are getting it for sales lax Relief then it is Only $ i. 3. If you must Cash a personal Check for Over $500,and you do not have a Bank account the Cost is j5. As � Farmer Bank employee i feel these charges Are not Only excessive but arc to the Point of being a crime. Money orders and Bank checks cast fractions of cents to be printed. Thus it costs no More to Issue one for $100 than for $1,000. As for the Check cashing charge i would like to know the exact amount the Bank is charged to process a Check for Over $500 As compared to one for under $500, for which it does not charge. Since they already impose a Sis service charge on returned checks i would appear to the average person that any additional Cost that they May incur if the Check is returned has already been covered. If american express wants to offer a banking service to the . Forces in Europe then the Cost for them to run thai service is their responsibility not Dod s. I thai our banking options Here Are limited by the sofa accords and Dod 1 feel it is totally out of line to allow such unfair Rales to be installed. There Are fair Means to recoup and cover one s reasonable expenses. Bul these fees arc neither fair no reasonable. If someone can justify these fees without double talk i for one would appreciate hearing from him. Sec. Gerald j. Boucher baby Haahn Germany editor s note Betsy Robinson  affairs Amer in express military banking division Europe replies your letter provides american express Bank Ltd. And Usa eur the Opportunity to address two key to Ian the pricing of services and the responsibilities of the contracting parties. As Yon slated the department of defense with advice from military commands and the contractor establishes a pricing Structure which attempts to recover of Ratlan cuts. The question you posed h whether or not the prices Are reasonable in terms of the services Ren dered. Since Dod reserves the right to approve and establish san ices Anil prices  have asked appropriate Usa eur presen Lanfra to contribute to ifs re fat use. Col. . Gilford a vhf finance and a count in t do Talon Usa eur is therefore provided the following Coiner rest Dod provides banking services via contract with Amelco in an Effort a maintain anal Ltd of Tife Stan Dards for is. Military and civilian personnel. Customer charges or fees Are axed in the contract and an generally equal to or less than those Ilat Side. Example from consumer federation of american guide to the new financial marketplace include the following average fees a. Money order and cashier checks l Money order $-$10. 2 cashier checks similar to Money orders but the higher values yield higher fees too diverse to aver a. Check cashing most Tarry Tulton Cash checks Only for depositors. If social Security or welfare checks an cashed for non Custaney lets Are up to $7 per  with regard to your comments on incremental pricing higher prices far higher nine transaction the print ing Cost of paper is not the sole criteria. Additional cacti include processing and directly Asse daled costs along with the risk Home by the Gorem Rabat. As far your suggestion that american express Bear the Cost of operations Yon should consider that a Talatta nit Banks Are an integral part of the military communities they serve and Are not private commercial enter Prises. They Are government Banks operated Dod behalf by american express. Therefore All costs an Revenue associated with operating the Bank belong to Dod. 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