European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 27, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse Sunday september 27. 1987 the stars and stripes aim Landers dear Ann lenders 1 was seriously considering marrying a Man who once cracked my jaw and twice gave me Black Eye i forgave him be came i believed he was crazy about me and would change. A few Days before we were to go shopping for my ring 1 read an article in new Day by Jamie Talan. Ii changed my life. I broke of the engagement and vowed thai p i never again would i tolerate j physical abuse. Please do millions of people a favor and print the enclosed. Harriet o. In Garden City Den Harriet thanks Lor tending it Htit t an edited Erslon violence in marriage and before Barbara married Biro Eten though he bad slapped her head against a car window � hard that the Glass cracked. Now alter 11 Yean of being panelled dashed spit at dragged around by the hair and Ain Jaud in front of her children Barbara wants a divorce. Her Hope of changing the Man she lored Laded As she accumulated bruises scan and 20 Yean of verbal and physical abut that woman b not alone in her acceptance of Rio Lenee. Morny Straus professor of sociology and director of the family research Laboratory at the Una enjoy of new Hampshire estimates that one out of 12 Adalu commit at least one violent act against his or her part Ner every year. Sinus and other researchers Are finding that violence during courtship is As pervasive at violence within the marital relationship. Even More surprising Many Indi a heals who Are beaten slapped kicked punched and Seri Ondy injured with knives or guns go ahead and Many lie Abate anyway. Ctn Tarj to the popular belief that women an almost s the victims of Domestic violence one study showed no do Noce Between the percentages of men and Why do men and women enter into abusive relation ships according to James Makepeace associate pro Fessor of sociology at the College of St Benedict St John s University in Minnesota they believe in the Power of love to Reform a significant other Makepeace said abusers have a number of traits in common. Including a background of family violence a Low level of tolerance for strew and Lero self esteem. A Lack of it Guiott beliefs also was mentioned. Violence is triggered by a variety of factors among couples who Are dating. The major reason is often the result of argument Over children or quarrels about budgeting and housekeeping. Inability to control anger tops both lists As the main cause of violence. The inability to communicate is a dose second. Courtship it seems is a training ground for marriage unfortunately it can also be a mining ground for spouse abuse. Dear Ann Landers five months after my husband had a Vasectomy i became pregnant 1 could t believe it i thought i had Tomaine poisoning. My pregnancy was hell. My husband kept nagging me to get an abortion. I refused. We had three Lovely children and 1 knew t could handle a fourth. This child is the Light of our lives and has brought us closer to Gether than Ever. You Seldom print letters about women who chose not to have an abortion and were thrilled that they did t. Please print this one Nashville 1 love Happy endings. Thanks for sharing yours. I m . Page letters More on the Issue of weight allowances As a former military member who is now a civilian employee t share the concern of the writer who recently wrote about weight allowances for department of the army civilians. Yes we Are authorized up to 18,000 pounds while military member Are severely limited. However there Are some facts of which the writer May not have been aware. Military personnel Are allowed unlimited use of government furniture. Granted none of these will win any prizes but nobody has to go without. Civilians arc limited to a 90-Day loan out with the exception of curtains and appliance. Civilian personnel arc also not rotated As often As military and therefore May slay overseas longer than their military counterparts. Over the Yean a lot of furniture can be accumulated and it is Only fair that the weight allowance cover everything. The department of the army civilian Zed Many positions to gain continuity. To attract civilians to these positions certain concessions had to be made. The High weight allowance was one of them. Lastly military members took an oath to go any where Ai any Lime. This oath was taken voluntarily. When you add up All the benefits the military offers free medical care to name but one the weight allow Ance is something that you can live with. Also i know for a fact that military members who stay longer than one Lour can gel an increase in weight allowance when returning to the states they need Only request it in writing giving valid reasons for the excess weight. The writer of the original letter and i do agree on one thing however weight allowances for army per lower enlisted defended i am enraged at a recent article. Linda Rysch the new european Congress of american parents teach ers and students Eca pts president has called the lower enlisted personnel of our services morons. Quote Many of our parents Are lower enlisted who May not understand that education begins at Home and part of the problem is that Many of the parents can read Only at the fifth or sixth Grade level so we re looking at educating the parents As i m the wife of a specialist four. I read and write Well above the sixth Grade level. I come from the Home of a once lower enlisted Man. When my dad was an e-5 we had atlases diction Aries and encyclopedias. At Christmas time i got among other things Nancy Drew and Bobbey twins books. And wonders never cease would you believe i even had Library cards my father was lower enlisted 13 years ago. Since thai Lime the armed services have really upgraded their personnel. People Are coming into the services better educated than Ever before. Many lower enlisted that 1 know and i know Many read to their children and teach them their Colon and numbers before they get to kindergarten. I know there Are parents out there who Don t care about their children s education. A lot turn on the to and it runs morning until night. I have a secret to share with you though it s not just lower enlisted. How dare she condemn the lower enlisted now if you la excuse me i have children to Bathe. Hopefully since i m so feeble minded 1 won t drown them Teresa Shafe Baa Holder Germany so incl should be raised it would be the fair thing Todo. Nianne Poorker Frankfurt i was disappointed with the reply Given regarding the weight allowance for Dod civilians moving Over seas. The primary Point that i fed should have been included is this although on paper these civilians Are entitled to live on base in most instances they Are not Able to because the need by military precludes Avail ability. This is As it should be but it Means that civil ians need to ship heavy items that Are normally provided in base housing such As stoves refrigerators washers dryers air conditioners. On consecutive overseas moves items such As trans formers and wardrobes arc also Best moved instead of Selling and having to replace them at the next station at a higher Price. My feeling As a Dod civilian of More than 20 years is that there Are Many differences Between being a military member and being a military employed civilian. There Are advantages to each status consider the Cost and availability of medical care. The one thing thai should always be kept in mind when making we they comparisons is that no one difference should be viewed without looking at the larger picture. This is too often not the Case. 1 Hope you will Prim this to remind those who com pare situations to put them in context Jacqueline l. Newcomer Allan. Turkey family offers thanks on sept. 1b, our Little girl was accidentally left at an autobahn rest Stop while on a school trip. Needless to say this was quite an experience for our family. We would like to thank All involved in return ing our Little girl to us quickly and safely. From everyone the German police military police the bad Kreuz Nach and Worms military communities and an radio our daughter received the Best care possible. 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