European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 15, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Lutzic Iron West work 01 instance Don t up sol whom As much As they do of Hof men " to to euro women Loo. Iron re to feel morn Conli Donl in a finkral when icy have a secure relationship but the a Kcal lends to to stronger for Mon Vanwely Aboul intimacy according to psychoanalytic thinking can be traced to a Pooi relationship with one s parents in Early childhood such As an Overly intrusive Mol Hor or look look lathe. Such parenting can leave the child feeling either vary of emotional manipulation or tearful of rejection. Sufi an Cly Over intimacy can result m adulthood in people who ate clinging and dependent on the one hand or withdrawn 01 a Ven hostile on is a her. I lion pcs Between men and women in How they Deal with no Macy can olten help explain Grant do tensions according to research by Dame Sternberg of Yale act John get Man of the University of Washington women Lor instance. Share their be lungs much More readily than do men and it 15 u3t such emotional Sel disclosure that gives Ihm a at isling sense of intimacy Foi Many Mon however simply sharing enjoyable activities together rather Ihan sitting Over feelings gives a sense of closeness studies suggest thai men who Vilune intimacy end Lohi Primo betrayal cuts deep among women by Maureen Downey Cox news services Ary Queen of scots might have kept her head Rila Lavelle her Job and Donna Rico her reputation had they recognized that sisterhood has its limits so contends Judith Briles a California financial consultant and lecturer who has made a study of women and betrayal. In her now Book woman to woman from sabotage to support Briles maintains that women Olen undermine each other because of resentment Lear and Low soil esteem that realization first struck Briles after a Cunion with Lour old friends. As each woman reviewed the successes and failures of her career Brillos noted a Lemale co woj cars had played key roles in the setbacks in Atlanta recently. Briles said she was so intrigued by this coincidence that she decided to investigate further. She created a Survey on ethics and sen it to 2.000 men and women culled from no s who directories. The 340 responses and interviews with selected respondents revealed that women were More Likely to treat other women unethically than they were men. Mates and females also expressed different motivations men Are More fikely to do something  Ai i build up their  Briles said women or Iho other hand were More Likely to be motivated out o1  7ns Survey also found Iha while Malo unc Hica behaviour led to the loss of a raise or promotion the women s conduct More often resulted in embarrassment or damaged reputations one reason May be the More personal relationship that female co workers develop. Briles said. Women Are too open and the personal information they Exchange can be used against Ihm later she said so when the knife is stuck in it goes in with a Cork screw a i lacked to  unlike her two earlier books on women and horizon a fuss accepted it i received 27 rejections,1 said Briles. 42 who began her career As a stockbroker. They were All afraid of id topic lest Briles be cast As a hopeless misogynist it must be said she believes women can of supportive of one another. But a Complex set of reasons ranging from the general decline in values to the added pressures of family and Homo Osier these destructive pal terns she said. There is envy among  Briles said i Don t want to say it s natural because i by Sieve it s a Learned behaviour. It s Ptan led in our Heads to compete with Olirier women and it lakes a Long time to undo that. Women have Como a Long Way Over Tho last 20 years she said but i Don t think we can continue to evolve unless we recognize we have to Stop sabotaging Oiler women " the Book in amines several Case histories including poor Mary of Scotland who was beheaded by her Cousin Ett Aberli a More recent example is Rita Lavelle the former administrator in the . Environmental Prol Clion Agency who received a six month jail sentence Lor perjury. Bibles describes Lavello As a victim at Boss Anno Burford s need to Lind a Scapegoat or her own inadequacies and failings commenting on Het experience Lavello said "1 think Hal the fools a woman uses appear to be character assassination and backstabbing. Rather than direct  the Gonna Rice Gary Hart Saga unfolded after Briles finished her both bul she Calls the scandal a perfect example of whal happens when a woman does t pick her confidantes carefully slice detailed her budding Romance to a handful of women friends some of whom contacted the Media the Friend who tipped off the Miami Herald anonymously said she did so because of her outrage Over Hans duplicity Briles Doorn i buy in Voudy a l do something like that anonymously if you Are going to do schist la blowing you clo Crodie Laboc  blowing  you name on me line " for the i Oman v.0 idols she is by ing undermined by a Fema e co worker or Friend. Briles advisors a non Lovci Sanal Cornlio Lalion most people Don l   to hurl others so icy will tic willing to change i pm b he Cir As Long As they Don t ii til they Are Beulig accused of behaving sunday november 15,1987 the stars and stripes Page 17