European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 13, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers dear Reader if your life is glorious your children absolutely terrific your marriage idyllic your Brothers and Sisters models of perfection and your sex spouses Are Gener Ous considerate and helpful you can skip the column today. Fro going in ill you about a Book nut was written for people whose marriages could us some repair whose children Are some when Between difficult and impossible who have relative that Are pain in the neck and whose in husband or sex wife is irresponsible mean spirited or just Plain nutty. Some of the topics covered Are. How to be a creative fighter learning to celebrate and Mutigli As a family Tri Angling Parent who Side with a child against the other spouse manipulation of family members when to seek outside help infidelity divorce sad separated parenting working mothers grandparent Are to love constructive ways to Settle children s fights Young Dutu Here today and Back Home to Morrow the Golden Yean your services Are no longer require the author Mary c. Dustin lecturer writer and Mother of seven Young adults holds a doctorate from the University of Chicago she writes in no nonsense Way about families and Haw to make them work. She Points out that american family life changed More Between 1955 end 1985 than in any 30-year period since Colon in Days. I can attest to the Validity of that statement because i began to write my column in 19i5 and 1 have seen the changes that the author writes shout. Here is a Sample of Purlin s advice. This excerpt deals with Steplar Enlind a Sec family is not a natural family it takes Lime to form Bonds. Your stepchildren might still be recovering from the effects of the divorce. Be prepared for disruptive behaviour. If your spouse is the non Custodi Al Parent make your stepchildren feel that your Home is theirs too. Impossible set aside a room for them when they out discipline guidelines with your spouse. Let the children know that you both agree on those guidelines and stick to i a of Thi suit us 5trn, to Trail us. Room All letters to the editor Mil contain the full printed me and address of the writer and must be signed. Wed read unsigned letter. M we will withhold your nine on a font and rated your piracy. All letters Are subject to dicing. Reader clarifies super baby ethic article the recent article the needs a response not because David Elkind is in error in describing the super baby phenomenon As a form of mis education but because parents school administrators and policy makers May Over generalize Elkind i finding and assume All Early education is harmful. Research and practice clearly demonstrate the Bene fit of High Quality Early education for at children including those with special needs. Department of de fee dependents school Dodds currently sup port seven Model Early education programs serving 197 children world wide and encourages school to provide programs for children with special needs be ginning to age 3, the bad news is that the demand for such service Isar Grater than the Supply. The Good news is that the Impact of these too few program should help convince policy makers including building principals that comprehensive educational programs should be made available to All children under age 5. The question is not whether Early childhood Educa Tion is a Good thing. Looking just at Cost effectiveness Spe Tittl cd Calion placement and retention in the Pri Mary Grade con be significantly reduced by providing Quality Early childhood services. The real Issue is assuring these services an of the highest Caliper. Programs for at risk handicapped an normally developing preschooler Are becoming the Norm in stateside communities and school districts we can take advantage of their trial and error experiences apply the lessons to our population and do it right the first time. The National association of Young children or. Elkind is the current president has developed a Poi lion paper on appropriate practice in Early childhood programs. Parents can use these guidelines in choosing programs for their children Dodds administrators an service providers can use them in developing new programs or modifying existing ones. The following elements incorporate developmentally appropriate practice As outlined by the Naevy 9 activities Are age appropriate and based on developmental milestones. Curriculum addresses physical social emotional cognitive and language development. Instruction allows for individual differences in skills cultural and ethnic Lacfi around. Interests personality and learning style. Play serves As the basis of Caming creativity is encouraged Hildren Are Noie peeled to adults facilitate rather than direct activities materials and equipment Are Mutti cultural and non sex Iest. Adults respond quickly and directly to the Chil Dren s needs and desire responses Are adapted to Chil Den s differing styles and abilities. Children Are provided with opportunities to communicate with each other and with adults. Trial and error learning is supported the environment and curriculum Foster successful learning experiences. Adults. Enhance self esteem in children by Demon Strating acceptance and respect. Adults use discipline techniques such As guiding children to resolve conflicts setting fair limits and redirecting activities. Adults Are responsible for All children at All limes. Parents Are Given the right and responsibility to share in decision about their children s care and Edu cation. Parents Are encouraged to observe and participate in All phase of the program. Dodds preschoolers should have Access to educational programs that would be available to them if they were stationed stateside. There could be no better expenditure of education dollars. Incorporating the elements outlined by the Naeye will assure our Good intentions Are translated into Best practice. Our Chil Dren deserve it. Martha s. Shearer spec education Jpe Ciallilo Raf cow Glim England customs charge on gifts questioned i purchased a Large number of handmade dolls in do by a service member s wife for Christmas presents and mailed them to friends and relatives in the slates. 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