European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 13, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Daily straight from the heart by Sid Schapiro his Valentine s Day ladies can Lake Harl single men land to loss their advantage in Tho Modem mating game and yes love does bile at Tirol sigh As Ono researcher put it Tho balance of Power an the romantic playing Field is  and oilers same tads and figures men and women who wore born in the 1960s Are looking Al a demographic scorecard that shows women gaining a Strong advantage for those under-30 singles the girl glut docs not exist. There Are to the contrary Clear signs Al what a census Bureau analyst Calls an impending Bridge  this woman shortage which will become More apparent in the next live to 10 years ii was Noler is a flip Side or the same demographic quirk thai caused the current Man Shor lags namely the baby  in 1945,16 million Janc Ricson servicemen returned Home irom world War ii and were reunited Wilh their wives and sweethearts. And Between 1945 and 1947. The number of annual births jumped by \ million. Birth continued to increase every year and peaked at 4.3 million in 19s7 alter that year the number of. Babies bom began to decline gradually and Oiler t964, the last year of the Boom the decline became sharper. There were As Many Boya As Girts bom Between 1946 and 1864. Why then should either sex face a squeeze the answer lies in traditional american marriage patterns. Women tend to marry men who Are two Lottiee years older than they Are. Because births increased every year from 1946 to 1957, women born during these years outnumbered the poo of men who were born several years Belore them Man shortage. Likewise match up every Man born in 1964 with a woman three years his Unior and you la find yourself Wilh a Quarter million extra men. Woman shortage. Look Al iwo demographic a groups that traditionally could male suggests the census Bruneau analyst and you la Sec How the sox Ralio favors women in he 90s marriage Markel there we a 115 Man bom Between 1960 and 1964 for every 100 women born bal Wen 1965 and 1969 on Mother front two researchers pointed out thai love at first sight is not just a saying it s a scientific fact. In a recent news nem. Dale med Sla Wii Cim West Germany. Christians Doomer. A Scie tial at the Independent Max Planck Institute said she and colleague had proved the Louth of the saying with a series of tests we observed 300 13 and 19-year Olds Wilh a hidden a Jodo camera in a spontaneous one to one situation she said we found that within 30 seconds and ire Quelly sooner you could Tell irom the couple s body language whether 1hey would hit it  of Emir added a vey actor was the looks the pan gave each other mow Long they lasted who turned away first who gave the first look and so  Ash anyone who has been there. Love hey Wilt Tell you Means always having to say you re sorry. Feb. 14 is the Day set aside to Honor a slightly deranged wholly delicious slate of mind. Enter now the love scientists armed with statistics and Laboratory data and boasting a Range of disciplines irom chemistry to psychology to sexology All aimed at Laking a More objective look at that old Black magic. Rather in romantically the encyclopedia til Tunica explains thai is Valentine s Day As a lovers festival has nothing whatever to do with the iwo Christian martyrs who bore thai name. Instead. It seems to have g own out of the roman Fertility rite of Lisp Croatia or perhaps out of the february mating season of the Bra s. In his new Book. The nature of love the modern to tact Irving Singer slops into the modern world with a Wistful question does anyone still believe in romantic love in reviewing the final volume of Singer s trilogy for the new York times Michael Vincent Miller a writer and psychotherapist said Given a Century that has buffeted and battered Eros with sexual liberation narcissism behaviourism singles bars militant feminism sex therapy surrogates artificial insemination computer dating services and most recently a fatal virus one feels tempted to reply Only in a mood of desperate nostalgia " Moling Inal a Long immersion in he past May strengthen one s immunity to modern my Miller wrote Singer la a rare Bird an the contemporary scene a philosopher preoccupied with literature and steeped in Platon Lorn two traditions that Havo always treated Tove seriously. He not Only readily confesses his own romanticism he steadfastly refuses to give it up. For he sees romantic love As a saving remnant a viable end realistic Conception of what is humanly possible " while his new Book is the last in a series Singer said he would not abandon the topic of love. In the trilogy 1 mainly Deal with the concept of love in terms of is historical development. I would like net to tackle a much More personal work giving my own systematic analysis More fully than 1 have so  Singer who has taught at the Massachusetts Institute of technology since 19s8, described his own views As those of a reconstructed romantic i Don t believe in romantic love in that it has to be Sweet and  the Best one can expect he said is  Momen sol real  merchants love Valentine s Day because it has built in Appeal for practically everyone. Around the world lovers win be exchanging private tokens of affection cards Flowers and chocolates. And. Of course jewelry. Lovers of Al Ages line up in front of Valentine display Racks seeking the perfect word 1ho Catchy phrase or the seductive picture that captures the essence of each individual s emotion. All adding up to asking that age old question will you be my Valentine in new York s Flower District. Valentine s Day is a 16 hour Marathon starting with z pm. Airport deliveries irom to flared followed by the do lorning of thousands of roses for that red letter Day Lor sweethearts and lovers. By the Way 1988 is a leap year. Beware Guys the manhunt s on bearing in mind that psychologists and psychiatrists say love tends to Render humans helpless. Bio soup Flo. 1sivi in Sven int tort bump Ntim. � u Hurt one who died for love Balb Bragoli Mediterranean bureaus oneness liking desire at Calion tenderness passion tame Devotion Benevolence Fellowship humanity ail Are synonyms of love that Muu faceted compelling feeling thai people have lived and died for. One of the people who died for love was St. Valentine after whom Valentine s Day is named. Valentine was a Christian who fervently believed in the Power of love. He was born in the second Century in the Green Umbria Region of Italy that almost 1,000 years later would be the Birthplace Al another messenger of love is. Francis of Assisi. In the year 270, roman emperor Claudius launched a fierce persecution combing towns and valleys Lor what he called Christian  thousands of christians were brought to Home in chains to be decapitated crucified or devoured by wild animals for the amusement of the cruel emperor. Valentine who had always openly professed his Laith and had been Given Tho tide of Bishop of Temi. Allowed the prisoners to Rome mindless of what personal danger a might encounter. There he found his Way into the dungeons and minis Lared to the prisoners unfit he in himself arrested and condemned to death. Valentine was neither afraid not dismayed. He continued his Mission with unrelenting Devotion comforting his acolytes reminding them to love their enemies am claiming that death was but la beginning of a new Lite. Legend has it that some of Iii Jailer moved by the serenity and the pm that Valentine redi aled Lell their horrible work and ran away to join the underground Christian movement and. According to the legend the spot where Valentine was executed on a cok t4ih of february was suddenly covered with Spring Flowers. Saturday. February 13, ibis the stars and stripes Page 13