European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 29, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Letters the stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers army s child care regulations discussed will someone please Tell me Why child care Kaj All of a sudden become a very complicated and frustrating thing 1 think it s great that training ii available for people who want to open child Tare Center in their Homei. Bui Why is it required Why can t we leave it up to parents like we used to to decide where and with whom they want to leave their children unsafe Homes and Sloppy inconsiderate care givers won t Jet any business. Of i know there s this Issue of liability. Will some one please clarify this nebulous Issue Why would a commander be held liable if something happened in housing if the provider weren t certified who is held liable if the is what dots it have to do with the com Mander what does in have to do with government quarters then there s the Isicc of running a business in government quarters. So we re not living Here for free we pay our rent even though it s got a different name. Why does the government have to control what we do in our own Homes is it because we re making Money ii it because other families an involved then there s the Issue of abuse and neglect. Let s Sec some statistics. How bid was in before certification and Twining became mandatory How bad is it now Are we kidding ourselves training in t going to eliminate abuse and neglect. Even common sense ways of handling children can l be trained into an adult by idling them in a course How and Why i be heard certified providers Call children names raise their voices tease in a demeaning Way Etc. And those things Don t even qualify As real abuse. So what s the solution if we warn to be sure our children Are raised right and cared for safely we should Liaise them ourselves. We should be allowed to decide whom we arc leaving our children with without government control. We should be allowed to keep children for our friends for a Tittle extra Money with out government controls. If we want to open a child care Center it s great if the training and certification Are available. But Dun i Force us into a business if we Don t want one. There  a Middle group Here Why was 10 hours per week set a the limit for non certified cart givers any Way keeping one or two children even every Day could hardly be called operating a child care Center also certification training assumes that All parents want their children in a preschool Type situation where activities arc planned and the schedule is structured. Why can t we let our kids be kids they la be going to school most of then a is yen s. Why bum them out Early i fed like a Long Arm of the bureaucratic monster he reached into our lives where it does t necessarily be Long. We Are being regulated and frustrated in a major aspect of our lives and we feel helpless to Stop it it leaves me frightened to think what other area this could happen in nut. I vote for deregulation name withheld. Elcenia Italy editor s note Penny Schneider family child care coordinator Usa eur Community and family support Agency replies your comment about child care being complicated and frustrating gives me a Chance to clarify the Many Points Yon mention Aboul family child care. You May hear that the fortification and training pro Cess is complicated and frustrating Bat providers find thai this process helps then in Many trays. They say that icy become belter parents and Are More professional and efficient in i hair business practices. Parent can and do decide there and with wham they rant la leave their children however the commander Mast decide whether or not to Hare an acc program. If he chooses to Bate acc then certified Homes on Post mint be nit and suitable for children. Unfortunately we be found thai Nina be Home and Sloppy Naiu Derale care often do gel business Mil became they re Good but because they re cheap. I be personally a slated Boffin where unauthorized care was being provided by intoxicated. Incapacitated and even abusive baby litters. Children should not be nude in nay the Price for a poor Choice. When people operate a business from their quarters. That becomes Ibe concern of the commander. Iii 1982 the minimum than Danes by which acc programs oper ate were established As directed by the department of defense. Where regulatory guidance exists and is not being followed the command can be held liable. There fore there b a need to ensure the care being provided meet minimum Tea Edards. You can incidentally ban friends watch your Chil Dren in your own Quarter or take the children to off Post baby Sitters. Thus Are two forms of baby sitting that the army Don not regulate. Cut giver who Call children names raise their voices or tease in a demeaning Way an counselled by acc staff. Corrections like that could not be made without the required Monllor shop of these care givers. And be calling children asian and demeaning them Are forms of emotional abuse and Are very damaging to children. A lathetes show that More eases of child Abate and neglect Are being reported by acc providers. We really Dent know How Many cues were occurring before acc was established. These current reports Are a credit to the mining acc providers receive became now they know Bow to report. Ten child boors per neck was set As the limit for uncertified ot�-�l7trs because a person who spends More than 10 boors per week with child on regular Bull can Hare significant Impact on Hal child s life. The army wants that Impact to be positive. Therefore everyone who care for children More than 10 child hours per week must have As minimum an under standing of bask child growth and development and the ability to resound to a child s health emergencies. The solution you propose for parents to rear Chil Dren then eyes is not always possible. Twenty two percent of patrons of child development facilities and programs Are single parents or dual military couples who Are on Active duty. Many other parents also must work. They want the Assurance that the care their Chil Dren receive will be helpful to their growth and development. Acc certification training does t assume parents want Belr children in preschools. Instead acc provid ers Are trained la give children the Chance to select from a variety of play  that they enjoy and from which they also Irani. Example an solving pales playing with blocks and drawing. Parents Are reassured that they can look to the army for the Quality of child care associated with certified providers who know the value of age appropriate activities that help children grow and develop. The Quality of care your child receives in the Early years a critical to future development. Not Only is the army committed to ensuring this Quality bul it is also dedicated to uphold ing the standards that were developed on he half of Chil Dren. You May choose deregulation but last year the parents of More than 18,000 Usa eur children chose Quality acc programs for heir children dear Ann Landers i m in my trouble and i Don t know what id do or where to him 1o for help. I m so worried that i can t sleep or eat. My husband n becoming concerned about my weight toss. What i be done it criminal and t Pray thai i can turn myself in without going to jilt. Here s the vary i lost my Job several months Neo. Filed for unemployment benefits and received them. I got an other Job a few weeks later but continued to collect unemployment compensation for three months i told my Selnt was of because my husband s income barely coven our utilities and House payments. My husband does t know what i be done. My nerves Are shot. 1 look like hell. I la pay the Money Back. I la do anything to get this my straightened out. Please Tell me what to do. Jean in san Jose dear jeans1 called the head of unemployment compensation in Sacramento Calif end explained the situation. Me used that you phone him. You will be instructed to Send i Money order for the a Moon or compensation you received unjustly plus 30 permit penalty. This it California Lair. The penalty varies according irate keep the receipt. If the bookkeepers catch tip with you Down he Road the evidence that Yon have pud in will put y w in Ibe Clear. I m Sun other who Are Reading till hate done the tame thing. If to fend in jul noun owed to the depart ment of  compensation in your state Capi Tal. There will be prosecution or Public exposure. Dear Ann Landers pc been going with this Guy Tor Dene to a year now. I take a lot of abuse from Hank both physical and mental. Friends Tell me i should leave him but Whit they Don t understand ii that i really do love the Guy a few weeks ago he tried to throw me Over a Bridge because i said i loved my Uncle. If it had t been Lor the rail that left an ugly bump on the Back of my head i would probably be dead now. I m Only 17 and know there must be belter fish in the sea but i can l bring myself to dump Hank. When he does t bit me he s a neat person. He says he really loves me and needs me to hang in there for him. The problem is i m afraid logo and afraid to Lay 1 need your help. Ann. Maine problem dear Maine women who put up with being knocked Armor have Low self Steem. They accept huh because they Don t think they Decrv better treatment. You need Gnu uding. Check out the mental health facilities in your Community and let me know you ire pelting help. When you dump this creep youll feel lot belter about yourself. 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