European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 20, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday. May 20. 1988 the stars and stripes Pago Arin Landers dear Ann Landers i have been Reading your column since i was in Grade school and i Hope you will find it in your heart to address this concern. The problem is bound to grow and there will be a gnat Many More victims As time goes on. I m talking about aids. I am i 28-year-old male who tested his positive. My doctor prescribed the drug Rel Rover in an attempt to help control the virus. Every time i take the prescription to the pharmacy i m a wreck. The dam costs about 5400 a month. The expense i can handle but the attitude of the pharmacy employees i cannot. When the clerk rang up my first prescription she shouted at the lop of her lungs. My god 1400 what is this stuff in Woyt the Neil month i changed phar Macies hut the clerk s reaction was the same. I am Only round pharmacy and looking for a fifth. Ann. Will you please ask All pharmacists to instruct their employees on the proper behaviour when dealing with customers they should demonstrate the same confidentiality that one expects to find in a physician s office. Sign me a Reader in the nation s capital dear renter the kind of  you describe ii inexcusable. You should hive tint to the no Burtn of each of thine drugstores and reported the clods. I Hope thai every person who works in � pharmacy till pay attention id your letter did from Here on in treat each customer with consideration. Dear Ann Landers yowl to Cecily published a letter from sad in Decatur describing nursing Home visits with an 89-year-old  woman was confused argumentative and unpleasant. Sad complained that it was draining and de pressing yet she could not fail to visit her Mother because her conscience would t let her. Since this letter represents the feelings of a great Many renders i d Tike to offer a few tips on How to improve the Quality of those visits. First remind yourself that you will never again havea real visit with that wonderful Parent because she or he is not the some person you oct knew. Stop trying to Force logic and historical truth on an individual who is not rational. Your Mother is probably easily distracted. Change the subject. Walk or wheel her Down the Hall. Have things to show and share that you have brought from Home. Try to activate her memory by talking about events that happened in the Distant past. Older folks often remember with amazing clarity what happened 60 Yean ago although they cannot Tell you what they ate Tor breakfast or who visited them yesterday. You May have to give up on your Parent s Menia acuity but you can can still share love and Good feelings which Are far More important than keeping ducts Tira ight. The depressed feelings you experience when you visit your aged Parent will give Way to peace and Well being when you revise your expectations and accept the realities. Helen West. Ph.d.,associate professor department of gerontology and geriatric services University of Texas South Western medical Center at Dallas dear or. West hiring far the elderly is going to be one of the Princi pal problems in the coming decade. We need to under stand their units and Deal with i him in a compassion ate manner. Thank Yon for writing. Dependent spouse wants More respect i d like to address this letter to the almighty superiors on behalf of All at poor Little peons the military wives. I m sure this feeling is shared by All dependents As we Are sometimes called if not All the time then a majority of it. 1 have this worthless piece of paper in my posses Sion called a Power of attorney. It gives me the right to act on behalf of my husband. The last Lime i used this Power of attorney was at the personnel and administration Center Pac at fun Campbell ky., to have his orders amended for him. He was Al fort Sill at the time in school. Well my Soldier went to the Field yesterday and left me with a list of please  so today i went to the Exchange to give them the paperwork for App. It was just an update changing his Dale eligible for return from overseas Deros and adding my name. I was told t could t hand them i Csc papers even though 1 have a Power of attorney that says basically i can do what i wont. 1 was told 1 have to have an Safe Power of attorney proving thai my husband of 13 years wants me to do these things. Evidently he docs or i would t have a full Power of attorney with a Seal Onil. I can t pick up my mail either unless my spouse signs my name to a mail Cord. 1 gel my Sham of mail from the department of the army too. For eight years now i be been a reservist. Don t want some one telling me i can t pick up my mail addressed to me As far As i can see the military wife is treated badly sure there arc a lot of benefits but Only with the holy signature of a service member. You want u make our lives better Cut some of that red tape. Cut the ecu pcs. Treat us with respect. After All we often Are the reason our husbands arc soldiers. Without a family 10 defend there would he no need for an army. Please Don t say. Well some soldiers Don t wont their dependents dealing with  Why make the rest of our lives miserable because of a few jerks i know n whole lot of men who depend on their wives to Lake care of everything. A Tot of soldiers Don t have time to Deal with the finances and All the red Lane. They Nel As angry As we do when we Are Lold Only your sponsor can do  the Only rights i be seen so far is the right to re main silent. Well i m tired of being silent and kicked around like i m nothing. Wake up and join the rest of us humans in the 20th Century. Dannie Denstell Augsburg. West Germany editor s note John i Simmons chief. Lengl assistance div office of the judge advocate he Usa eur replies the writer May be answered in accordance with paragraph two concerning the acceptability in Powers of itto Mefs Only. A Power of attorney authorities a pc Sim to net for Yoo. However it imposes no Legal duly in third parties to accept it. Agencies Walliin the military Community May set different hut reasonable and Eanolf tent Incles on what Type of Power at attorney. If any they will accept depending an � he is to be accomplished. Kids should sleep with parents says mom time. All the tensions of growing up and working arc postponed until the morning. The quid night sound recently you published an article that described the wrongness of allowing Small children to sleep wit i their parents and gave suggestions to remedy this problem. I disagree with the premise that it is wrong for toddler to sleep part or All of he night in the parents bed. Life can be scary and overwhelming to kids when they Are tiny and know so Little. In another recent article the writer said that a child sees the parents As the closest thing to god that that child knows. Being the Parent of two Smalt children 1 was struck with How True that statement Felt. How can god shut that child out of 10 hours of his life Why must the child Deal with All his own thoughts and fears alone in our House nighttime is a very special precious i allows Only for sad talking and listening warm cozy blankets and most importantly closeness. It is pure. Crystalline Tove. You can t scream or spank when you re gently falling to sleep. In my opinion Icse experts missed a far More important Side of the Story. The Beautiful magic that spins in the dark in the atmosphere of Security and love can t be replaced with daytime hugs. Dennis the menace said it the very next Day. Snuggled securely Down Between his sleepy parents he declared in know what i love  you got it Den Nis. Valerie far Ringlon Frankfurt visit to Berlin clarifies american s Mission i know rationally Why 1 am Here. My Mission is la Aid in the Protection of the Sovereign airspace of the Central Region of Europe. Now that 1 have visited Ber Lin i also know emotionally Why i am Here. I am Here As a member of the United slates armed forces to provide the people of Western Europe with the Opportunity to choose their own destiny. If the citizens at Europe have no use for us Here then per haps we should Bow to their demands. Let us remove our aircraft our nuclear weapons and our soldiers. Leave Europe to in destiny. Before we leave however i would like to present the free people of Europe with a scene from Berlin. I went to East Berlin through checkpoint Charlie std the Wall. The people in the soviet sector stared you must be in uniform to enter East Berlinrut no one was rude or violent and no one told us to go Home. 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