European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 2, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes pflfl9 11 Ann Landers letters dear Ann Landers a number of my friends work so Many hours that they rarely Sec their children when they finally make inc Lime they discover that i hair children Are grown up and have no time for them. I wrote the fallowing piece and you Are Welcome to share in with your readers if you think it s Goodenough. Sign me lonely. Anywhere . Dear lonely it s excellent. You be zeroed in on one of the principal problems of parenthood in the "80s. Thinks for tossing ii Ray Way. Where do due years go i remember talking of my Friend a number of years ago about our children. Mine were 5 and 7 then just the Ages when their daddy Means everything to them. I wished that 1 could have spent More time with my kids but i was too Busy working. After All t wanted to give hem All the things i never had when i was growing up. Moved the idea of coming Home and having them sit on my Lap and Tell me about their Day. Unfortunately most Days i came Home so Laic that i was Only Able to kiss them Good night after they had gone to Steep. Ii is amazing How fast kids grow. Before i knew it they were 9 and ii. I missed seeing them in school plays. Everyone said icy were terrific but the plays always seemed to go on when 1 was travelling for Busi Ness or tied up in a special conference. The kids never complained but i could see inc disappointment in their eyes. I kept promising that i would have More time next  but inc higher up the corporate ladder climbed the less time there seemed to be. Suddenly they were no longer 9 and 11. They were14 and 16. Teen agers. I did t see my daughter the night she went out on her first Date or my son s championship basketball game. Mom made excuses and 1managed to Telephone and talk to them before they left the House. I could hear the disappointment in heir voices but i explained As Best i could. Don t ask where the years have gone. Those Little kids Are 19 and 21 now and in College. I can t belie veil. My Job is less demanding and i finally have time for hem. But they have their own interests and there is no Lime for me. To be perfectly honest i m a Little Hurt it seems like yesterday that they were 5 and 7. I give anything to live Hose years Over. You can bet your life i d do it differently. But they Are gone now and so is my Chance to be a real dad dear Ann Landers a Reader asked you Why people sometimes get up in the morning feeling Down in the dumps for no goo reason and other times they get up feeling terrific even though they have n lot of problems. I think 1 know the answer. Everyone has two brains in his head a yes brain and a no brain. When you get up feeling Low and depressed it Means that the no brain is operating. When ii happens you should tic an the other Side for 15 min utes and give the Yos brain time to Rev up. Then you should get out of bed on that Side. Without fail the Day will be a Good one. This is known As getting up on the right Side of inc bed. . I did t learn this in school. I figured it out myself. Newark Star Ledger Reader dear slur your explanation makes As much sense As some of the other i hear its i be heard. Thank you for writing la ano4lt of Chat so Fedial Edum Nih Linda i w4leonu� your  an Mill Loh a in cirt of the Stan Mil bar Len. Apo fall. . For cwt to and complaints called waste of time this is in response to All of the people who have written about an programming. Frankly i am very tired of Reading these letters. I can agree with most of you. An is certainly not perfect. There Are Many programs i do not care to watch also. So what until last month we lived on the Economy and were Loo faraway to receive an. Believe me the first few months were rough. I never in my wildest dreams believed i could survive without tvs for Ray Hus band it was t so bad because he was at work Allday. But i stayed Home with my baby and the Days of very Long with no television. Not to mention the act that All our neighbors were German and 1 had no car Etc the radio was Pur entertainment and we rented movies a couple times a week. I never thought i d make it through the year until we could move int government housing. But t did and now i m so glad of that we experienced in. In the states our television was on from morning until night and i never realized How much time we wasted in front of it. I feel we Are Lucky to be in Europe. There Are definite advantages and disadvantages. But make the most that you can out of what you be got to work with if you Don t like what j on an turn in off there is so much to Sec and do Why waste your time sitting in front of inc to and then complain about the shows this is crazy. Play with your kids go out for a walk listen to the radio read a Book Volunteer your Lime take pictures of this unique and Beautiful country and for goodness Sake learn something you just might be surprised How much More fun it is than Silling in front of the television. Donna rink Wiesbaden help available for overweight soldiers after Reading the recent letter about help for Over weight people in inc military i decided to write you. My husband got discharged from the . Army in August 1987 for an overweight problem according to a 600-9. At inc Lime he pot discharged there was no medical help for him available. Yes. He got a physical by physician s assistant not a doctor to see if he had a thyroid problem which caused him to be obese but that was it. His thyroid was of so the assistant decided that he could be discharged by a 600-9. Nobody gave him a Chance to lose thai weight even Hough t had just delivered a baby four weeks before his discharge and we needed his paychecks to survive. No they Jusi said a est Lavie after working out and jogging for eight months my husband lost go pounds. He just enlisted again to go Back on Active duty. All 1 wanted to show you overweight soldiers is that if you really want to slay in the service you just have to keep trying hard. Now that there is medical help Avail Able it should t be too hard on you. No pain no gain. Petra Burgess Wiesbaden parents warned not to leave kids in cars with the summer about to Start i would like to address the Issue of leaving children in cars. This is against regulation on military installations. Please Lake note of this All you newcomers or people with Young children. One experience last summer really scared me. 1 drove into the parking lot at the Post office to get my mail. While 1 was taking my child out of his car seat the child in the next car started screaming. Her mom has just run into the Post office for a minute leaving the 3-year-old strapped into her ear scat. The child could not get out but a Wasp had gotten in. She had been stung and was screaming. The was was buzzing around her and she could not gel away. Luckily the car was unlocked and i could get in. I stayed with her until her mom came Back. I also killed the Wasp. Bui the child had still been stung and was in pain and nearly hysterical by the time mom came Back. There is always the danger of the unexpected when unattended children Are left especially in cars name withheld Geilen Verchen West Germany american in Greece responds to criticism after Reading the recent writer s criticism of her fellow americans behaviour in the restaurant she was patronizing i could Only conclude that she and her husband Are new to Greece. Most restaurants in Greece arc quite different from american restaurants. 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