European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 3, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letters dear Ann Landers i read your column every Day and have been Temple Many times to write but the Colum about exam nightmares absolutely floored me. I have had that identical dream for eight years Ever since i graduated from College. What a Shock to learn thai i Amons of thousands. I am curious to know if any of your readers share another recurring Nightmare that has haunted me since my father died is years ago. In this dream my deceased Tather shows up at our front door and i am the Only one who knows that he is really hiding out. Leading a totally different life with another family. I am very upset with him for trying to fool us All particularly my Mother. I try with no Success to get him to Tell me where he has been. I plead with him to admit that he really in t dead. He refuses simply leaves again and won t Tell me where he is going. Everyone else in the dream accepts his reappearance and departure without question. I Eccl that his dream reflects my unwillingness to accept death and my inability to imagine what the so called Oner life is like. Since 1 was brought up Catholic i thought i had some Strong ideas about heaven and hell but my father gives me no clue that he is in one place or the other and 1m baffled As to Why i Don t ask him. Your column really does link All humanity in one Way or another. Thank you for i. Introspective in Indiana do Randy All week i be been in or Tim land with my readers and it s been fascinating. Now Inck to my world anyone die have this Fella s dream dear Ann Landers fifteen years ago 1 started a business from my Home. Two years ago i opened a store. My oldest son works for me and Here Are a lot of problems. He acts As if the store is his and i am work ing for him. For example t want to sell a certain item for 112,50. He takes it upon himself to Cut the Price to$10. I be told him to be in the store by 9 30 a.m., but he comes in whenever he feels like it. This kid is giving me ulcers and i Don t know Watlo do. Firing him would make me feel guilty because he has two Young children to feed. Me has always been dependent on his father and me which i now realize was a big mistake. My husband and i have tried talking to him but we might at Well talk to inc Wall. He gels extremely defensive and downright Nasty. He is also Nasty to some of our customers. Is there a solution to this problem Ann distraught Mother . Yes but it won t a easy. Warn this Lummox that you re going to a to him his walking papers the next Lime he hisses at a customer or countermand your or Ders. And keep your word. Just because you made mistake of hiring him is no reason you have to live with that decision for the rest of your life. Pay his rent and grocery Bills for a while if you must but gel him out of your store and make it necessary for him id paddle his own Canoe. It could be the test Inlang that Ever happened to him. He might Surprise you. Dear readers four cheers to Maryland for being the first stale to ban plastic handguns. The Only justification for own ing these things is to circumvent Metal detectors. Of course the National Rifle association thinks plastic guns Are just nifty. They should get out of the handgun business and stick to rifles. We Don t need any More guns in this country. Asil is the United slates is the Killin est nation in the world. Service member applauds Gen. Gray Hooray for Gen. Alfred m. Gray or commandant of the . Marine corps upon Reading in the stars and stripes of his remarks towards the Secretary of defense concerning the general s decisions in regard to marines 1 could t help but chuckle. However it was a chuckle of respect and Admira Tion for a Man who obviously has the guts to express his innermost concerns. This is a Man who put his. True thoughts and feelings above any personal ambitions or false pretentious and is not afraid of inc consequences. When confronted with the bureaucratic decisions from above which affected his marines his reply was both Blunt and eloquent there is Only one person responsible for marines me if they Don t like the Way i run the Marine corps i Hen they can find a new commandant to use the words of a famous actor this really made my Day the secretory of defense should stick to running the bureaucracy of the Pentagon and the department of defense As a whole not Micro manage his commanders. Let a Marine Nin the Marine corps. Webster s dictionary defines Candor As unreserved honest or sincere expression Forth rightness Candor is supposed to be one of the Basic traits of sound military leadership. Today As in the past in inc traditional atmosphere of the military yes Man can Dor is neither encouraged nor tolerated. All too often the Rule is Don t Tell me what you really think just Tell me what i want to Gen Gray is a Gallant exception to that Rule. He is a throwback to a by gone Era when men like Mcarthur Mitchell fallen and Puller were willing to Lay their Careen on the line and say what they truly believed regardless of How Many leathers were ruined. They undoubtedly knew the risks they were taking be forehand bul put their betters ahead of their own Well being. History shows they paid dearly for their honesty. I just Hope Gen. Gray in t canned for his. I m sure the remarks made by Gen. Gray were not what his political minded Bosses wanted to hear. He had the courage to say them anyway. He is indeed one of a vanishing Breed � Man unafraid to speak his mind. He has the courage of his convictions and is no inhibited in voicing his opinion consequences be dam med. He has too much intestinal fortitude to be just another yes Man. He is an inspiration and a role Model for others to follow. Washington could use More Gen. Grays he s a National asset. We have enough Rosy picture painters and Sunshine blowers we need More leaders like him can did courageous committed. To Tor one am proud of him. Tell it like it is and give pm hell. Gen. Gray sgt re Jud Harris a Atzingen West Germany get the Lead out sergeant tells Drivers i Don t understand in i truly Don t. If you were Back Home in the Stales most probably you would be doing in. But you re not Back in the states so you re not doing in. Is this the Only reason you re not doing it because you re nol in inc slates the reason can t be the Cost because the Cost is Only pennies. 1 know How the Mili tary Community always comes through always rallies behind a Good idea a Good cause. I be seen us do it time after time. So i ask you Why Aren t you doing it Why Aren l you using unleaded gasoline in your car instead of leaded gasoline this is everyone s atmosphere this is everyone s Earth. It is not As simple As this is someplace other than Home and in does t Mailer Here or everybody else uses leaded gasoline so Why nol one More car on the autobahn spewing Lead into our atmosphere won Hurt this Altitude just can Cut it any longer. In is up to each and every one of us to do our part to keep our Earth clean. It is up to us to reduce to eliminate As much As possible our own personal contribution to our Earth s pollution problem. We Ore held responsible for our actions. Our Mother Earth has been telling us this for quite some Lime now. She has already Educa cd us in it is matter. By burning unleaded gasoline in your car you arc making a positive contribution. 11 is up to us people. It is up to you sol Steven c. Sohnre Rupper Weiler West Germany writer unhappy with tuition plan decision i recently read in the stars and stripes about a father who lost his son in the persian Gulf. Through his emotional request to Congress his family was Able to get Back the Money his son had put into the College fund and was never Able to use because he Tost his life while serving his country. I know that when he signed his name on the dotted line he was prepared to give his life fur his country As should any Soldier. The Money he put in was around ,200, which in turn would be roughly $22,000 to go Back to school $630 a month for every month that he is enrolled in school. So i Don l think that giving his initial invest ment in his education was enough. I in info that if a Soldier has been enrolled in an education program and if he Dies while in service his immediate family . His wife or child or sister or brother should be designated 10 be Able to receive benefits that the Soldier would have received had he nol died for his country. Spec. . 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