European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 12, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse Ann Landers the stars and stripes 11 letters dear Ann Landers Over inc years i have seen great Many kids go haywire. It s often difficult 1o determine of incl by what went wrong bin once ii happens every Effort should be made to learn Why in order to straighten things out. Here is a pretty Good formulator turning out bad recipe for becoming a dropout take one child who has had some Lough Breaks. Mold into a Chip on the shoulder. Press firmly into a Lough Shell of refusing to accept guidance. Add a heaping cup or hostility. Fold in equal amounts of arrogance and anger. Mix Well and take the easy Way out. Add regular dashes of the wrong Friend. Sill in the refusal to listen to peoplc4 who know whal they re talking about. Stir vigorously with shortsightedness excuses for not doing Homework and refusals to accept help. Sprinkle with a thick coating of caring More for what school than for what s right. Finally cover with a thick layer of blame. There is always plenty to go around this casserole is called adolescent Surprise. If you re surprised you Don t gel it. If you get it you Renot surprised. Dew s a lot of wish him in that essay the key fact an Are self reliant and the willingness to Ducept help. I believe it s a lot harder to grow up straight an Strong today than k was when 1 thu � teen Ager the Stone age of course. There weren t As Many permissive panne in those Days nor was there the easy availability of drugs guru and extra in ency. And we did t spend thousands of noun to front of a to set. If sound Uke a museum piece i apologize but this is the Way i tee it and Vit been a close Obser for Avery Long time. Dear Ann Landers i read the letter from the girl who held a grudge against her father because she Felt he had t Tough hard enough for his visitation rights. Actually her Mother hated him and did everything in her Power to keep him away. I thought of my own son "Rob.1 he was 9 when i last saw him and would soon be 16. It was no big dealt the time but As the years passed i began to realize How much i missed that boy. I thought often of contacting him but decided it would be awkward because i would be a stranger to him. That letter in your column changed my mind. I decided to write to Rob and i sent him a copy fit. I said 1 did t want to cause a major upheaval in his life but if he wanted to see me 1 would meet him any place any Lime. He phoned the Day he received my letter. We set Adale to meet. The last time i d seen him he was a Tittle boy and i bad to squat Down to Button Bis Collar. Now Here stands before my very eyes a 6-foot-tall person a terrific human being we spent the Day asking each other questions and becoming reacquainted. He met his grandparents who adn t seen him since he was a baby. They were thrilled. I ,. Rob came up to see me again last weekend and i sure we will continue to see each other on a regular basis now. Thanks Ann Landers for one Heck of present. m.t.s., fort Worth. Tex As de Arteus Don t thank me. Thank Rob s Mother. She s the one who turned Tret that terrific human i m thrilled for All of Yon and delighted that my column brought you together. Writer questions paperwork processing i just completed the third year of my third Lour in Germany. I have begun to serve on a one year tour Extension. It certainly is a Good place to be and work. On this anniversary i was reflecting on just Why i submitted that request for foreign service Lour Extension some 10 months ago while the Dollar was in Retreat i recalled that one of my motives at the time was the Nightmare Prospect effacing the Oul processing came to mind vividly As i mentally tried to reconstruct the reverse trauma of what soldiers go through to gel in processed in one of our typical Susareu r communities. I m willing to bet that Many other Usa eur sol Diers and families include this Factor when adding up the pluses and minuses of sticking around. It s Worth remarking upon simply because it really should t be significant Factor at All. Wading though our bureaucracies to get in proc Essed or out processed can never be made enjoyable but irritants can and should be reduced wherever pos sible. For example How Many forms did you fill out asking for name rank san. Arrival Date unit Etc., a every scattered Community Agency you were required to visit should we count them or just say several pounds Worth did you Ever wonder Why they need this information even though it s ready on Hie locally in your personnel records How Many copies of your pcs orders did you have to personally distribute to All these agencies if your experience was similar to mine the 50 copies that you received before departing your conus unit at Best Only got you to second base in Germany. Why ii that the Caw a Hwy do All these copies have to go into the National archives As permanent re cords to Back up every separate entitlement received 1 doubt it. No folks they go into every separate Community Agency s temporary file Cabinet attached to every redundant data form they required you to fill out As you moved in slow motive through this Nightmare. Soldiers civilians and their families should t have to face this ordeal in our communities. Most tragic fail is the affect on soldiers and their unit s readiness caused by this would not be far from the truth if one maintained that the biggest training detractor confront Flag army leaders today is the insidious bureaucratic Maze that we ourselves perpetuate. It s More than exasperating it s sad. Betcha this if you would add up the Cost incurred by the government for having in soldiers and civilians Hoof it around Lawn for Days simply to get routine entitlements you d probably have All the economic justification you d need to buy and install fully net worked automation in every Community. Perhaps one Day soon Well gel there. In the meantime i la try not to think about out processing and enjoy the test season. Chief warrant officer 3 Paul roles. Schwet Zingen West Germany editor s note chief warrant officer 3 Ca. Lee Chatt personnel management assistance team military personnel operations Branch he usar eur replies the writer is Correct in staling that there most by an easier and better Way of completing the Rigours of in and out processing. In this regard the commander in chief Usa eur and 7th army has charged the personnel and other communities to reduce what he Lemu the hoops a Soldier goes through and eliminate excess Iraq Al away from Bis tuber unit. There b currently a Tell being conducted in a usar eur Community using a mini computer to bring Agen cies throughout the Community on line for the express purpose of sharing information. This sharing of information should reduce the requirement for sold Len Aad their families to provide documentation la various Agen cies and reduce travel. Obvious Gay a successful lest Wilt Benefit All Usa eur soldiers and their families in the future. Smokers told to clean up their acts this is not an anti smoking letter. If people choose to smoke that s their right. But smokers do not have the right to throw cigarette bulls out of their car windows. you smokers do not have the right to pollute the German Countryside and cities. Even though some germans follow this ugly practice we As guests Here do not have the Choice. 1 travel in Wiesbaden every Day and every Day i witness thoughtless americans littering the streets with their garbage. I m sure this applies to other american communities As Well. pen pals w in your pm inti column. Joy Pir Tungon Mboli Jirtle. Pc stung. Rerun ton .ca141ta in Ltd kingdom t would Nha Noma Fumii pah in Ovar tha world. Keumja Numor. J70i ism Sibo 44j i in a Dong. Trimmon. Mine ind spurn r in 17. Molly now m�9t. 1 Hope the smoker Drivers in Wiesbaden and else where see themselves in this letter and change their behaviour. I Don t believe reporting these people to the military police will be productive. They have other matters to hindi. So Lake it upon yourselves to clean tip pour aft. A suggestion for people who arc trying to putdown quit smoking this would be an excellent time to do it. By not smoking in your car you la help keep the Community clean and help clean out your lungs. Staff sgt. Mark Lindsey As West Germany help for crash victim this letter is in reference to a recent article about the Ramstein air show victims. 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