European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 28, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann Landers please i beg you to print this letter to my daddy. He needs to know How i feel and 1 can t Tell him. Dear daddy i love you so much and i know that in your own Way you love me. So please daddy Stop Yel Ling at me you Don t realize that i m a 36-year-old woman with a family of my own and when you yell at f me you turn me into that Little firl who used to hide in the bathroom with mom and is when you went into those terrible rages. I can still Sec you ripping the phone off the Wall and throwing a plate of Spaghetti on the Kitchen floor. Of course you were drunk. I know How hard it was for you to Stop drinking but you did Stop and we arc Alvery proud of you. But when you yell at me daddy All those awful memories of my childhood come Rushing Back and 1 have nightmares. So please please. Daddy Don t yell any More. Just  daughter dear daughter your letter demonstrates in a most dramatic Wiy that the memory of childhood traumas can forever Poison one s  often fail to realize the extent of the damage they do when they scream at and hit their children. I Hope that this letter will put in end to your father s Yelling and that other fathers and mothers who read this will take your plea to heart. Meanwhile please get counselling so you can Stop reliving those nightmares. Dear Ann Landers my husband is a musician and is on the Road about half the time. We have been married 20 years and have two children. Ours is not a perfect marriage. I know that my husband has had several affairs but what i found out last week from the Girlfriend of his drummer has upset me  husband is now involved with a girl is years younger than he is. He met her on the Road. She is a Nice girl who has never been married and still lives with her family. My husband has not told her that he is married. She corresponds with him through his agent s office. He phones her regularly. She believes that he intends to marry  arc some questions that the Young girl should find answers to How docs a Man get to be 40 years old and have no permanent address or phone number Why docs her Fiance always Call her from pay telephones Why has she not been invited to his Hometown so she can meet his parents if this letter appears in print and i Pray that it will the drummer s Girlfriend has promised to mail it to my husband s current victim. Please Ann print it and save my marriage. Jeannie one note in Nashville dear Nashville it s going to take More than this letter to save your marriage. Sounds As if it s been in very poor health for a Long  using the drummer s Girlfriend As a mole. Con front your husband with what you have Learned and insist that he Stop seeing that naive Young person at once. Tell him if he wants to be a family Man he must agree to joint counselling and work with you to build a viable relationship. If he is unwilling to do this you would be Well advised to throw the bum out. Gem of the Day author unknown honest criticism is hard to Lake particularly if it s from a younger person an older person a relative close Friend a casual acquaintance or a stranger. Page 11 letters Soldier comments on promotion system this letter concerns the department of the army s official photo. I Hope it will be printed before the army s master sergeant list comes out. If not it will just sound like another Bunch of sour  i believe not having a current photo docs indicate apathy. Apathy on the part of the Board members in that they can not even make the Effort to look at a Soldier s qualifications it is much easier to look at a picture. It Speaks of integrity. The Board members have no Confidence in the integrity of the rated Soldier or any one in the Soldier s rating Chain to insure the height and weight is Correct. With the new no evaluation report there is very Little Reading to do. Surely even with the Short time available to examine the Soldier s record the Board members could at least Check out past performance. I have always believed the army is on the forefront of equal Opportunity. I do not know Why they need to Sec a female Soldier in a skirt to determine if she has potential to be promoted. I have seen staff sergeants with impeccable records not selected. I can Only assume because of their Large frames. I say put on your Reading glasses and do what you arc supposed to do examine the total Soldier. As for myself i am 6-fcct tall 167 pounds. I score an average of about 290 on the army physical fitness test. If you need a picture because you Nave a hard Lime Reading that is your problem. It will also become my problem but i can live with it. I Hope you can live with driving Good soldiers who meet the body fat Stan Dards out of the army because you do not like their looks. Sol. 1st class Calvin j. Albers Heidelberg Vest Germany atm cards to carry valid thru warning beware automatic Teller machines arms arc cat ing cards. Check your atm card it has an expiration Date. Any other Bank is pleased to have your business and would t inconvenience a customer by letting any card expire. Here though you get no new card or even a postage free maps warning message just a note from the atm when your card s gone Check with your local Branch at least 10 Days prior to expiration to have your card replaced or you May find yourself without Cash when you need it. What s the excuse this time name and location withheld editor s note Yvonne Wise manager pub Lic Media relations merchants National Community Bank replies the Green machine does capture an expired card and when it happens the last thing you think about is the expiration Date. You Are right. Stateside Banks routinely Issue new cards prior to the expiration Dale of the old card provided the account is Active. Unfortunately our current system docs not provide for an automatic warning to customers who intend to remain in country beyond the Normal three year tour. A computer generated notice is on our list of things to do and we will get to it As soon As possible. In an Effort to make customers More aware of the expiration dates the new Green machine brochure Tell you How to read your card and new cards will have the words valid thru clearly marked on the front. Pen pals i would be to have pen pals. Prefer pals 35 years and older. 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