European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 19, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers this is Only one of the million letters you will probably receive after printing the one from Washington state mom who knew that her children were being sexually abused by their Stepfather but chose to remain silent rather than face the Wrath of that monster and All that pm  i became furious when i read her words i was too embarrassed to say anything and let everyone know what was going on in our  How could a Mother s fear of embarrassment allow her to sit by while her children were being brutalized in the worst possible manner How could she be too embarrassed to protect her children from that beast of a husband who was ruining their Young lives i was eager to read your answer Ann and i agree wholeheartedly that the Mother was just As guilty As her husband because she did nothing to put an end to the abuse. In fact her gutless Ness made it possible for the hideous stuff to go on year after year compound ing the damage. My blood pressure must have shot up i so Points when she said piously i raised them according to the  what Bible was she talking about it can to be the same one i read. That miserable excuse for a Mother took what was for her the easy Way out forcing her innocent children to Bear the Burden of her cowardice a Burden fro which they will never be entirely free. My father abused me sexually for years. My Mother also knew and did nothing. I am old now and have  a Long Way from the mute terrified emotional cripple i once was. And i be come Moil of the Way alone. Remnants of that legacy from my parents however arc with me to this Day. I have never been Able to Trust a Man or have a genuinely Friendly relationship with another woman which is a terrible Way to live. Permanently scarred St. Louis dear St. Louis you Don t say How old you Are but it s never too late to get help. Please find a therapist and talk talk talk about your anger and feelings of exploitation and abandonment. Verbalization is the Best Way to get the Poison out of your system. In Lime your anger will be gone and you May even Beable to find it in your heart to forgive your sick selfish parents for what they did to you. Forgiving is truly the final step in Healing. It frees you from the tyranny of hating and brings peace and tranquil Ltd to the soul. Dear Ann Landers i d like to say a few words to third hand Rose the woman who resented sleeping in the same bed Thatcher husband s former wife and a few girlfriends slept in. She said he was too cheap to buy a new one Why does t she ask for a new mattress after All the sex wife and old girlfriends did t sleep on the Frame and Spring. Some people sure Are stupid. Simi Valley Calif. Dea Simi Ain t it the truth. Thanks for the suggestion. Dear readers from Lime to time i print a Gem of the Day. Al the moment i am fresh out. If any of you have one you d like to Send this Way i d be delighted to print it. The address is Gem of the  Ann Landers . Box 11562, Chicago. Iii. 60611-0562. In los Angeles times syndic and create Syndicate cafes gives policy on stereo equipment Ever since i joined the military something has really bugged me about cafes it s the selection of stereo equipment that is carried. Recently an advertisement in the Magazine audio video report finally pushed me to the limit. It showed lists of the top 20 stereo companies for resolutions of problems and product satisfaction. There were Only six companies from Japan that made the lists. This is not the first such list that i have seen showing that Ameri can equipment was Superior. My question to cafes is this Why Don t you sell More american products is it because the consumer demands it then Why do you Only sell cars from the states when i know the consumer would buy More from Japan i think it s simple to understand Why you would sell an inferior product from another country to your own military while american companies Are going bankrupt every Day. Cafes you have sold America out to Japan. Tech sgt l. Frenz Geilenkirche a West Germany editor s note master sgt. Dayton p. Strick land customer relations he cafes Europe replies do names like Mark Levinson Conrad Johnson audio research Sota Vii California audio labs Grado labs Maen planar and apogee ring a Bell with you if they do Friend you Are a fellow Anglo pile. But the reality of it is that 95 percent of the people Reading this hire never heard of these companies and that s Why Yon Don t see High end american audio equipment Avail Able in the Exchange there in t enough interest to warrant these and Many other american companies entering the military Market. No we Haven t sold America out to  we sell what people want and can afford. Customers Rote with their dollars. They Tell us what they want and How much they Are willing to spend. While there Are a few Ameri can companies that sell products at reasonable prices at least to us audiophiles. Their production capabilities Are usually limited and their mass Market Appeal Low. With the exception of loudspeakers most audio products Are produced outside the United slates. Even american companies such As a com Carver and sae have shifted their production to the far East. As for your comment about Selling automobiles. Con Gress directs that we Only sell North american manufactured motor vehicles. Yes owners of american audio products Are satisfied with the products they Purchase and satisfaction is a prime concern of cafes. Unfortunately we can t sell what in t offered and what people won t buy. No cure for alcoholism writer warns As a recovering alcoholic with 17 years of sobriety in february i d like to add a few comments and a precaution to the recent letter from the Well meaning self proclaimed alcoholic. I. Like this Soldier thought that i could recover from the disease of alcoholism on my own Power As have several million recovering alcoholics now staying sober through alcoholics Anonymous. Fortunately or per haps unfortunately depending upon your Point of vie willpower has no More to do with recovery from alcoholism than it docs with recovery from diabetes or the loss of a limb. There must be a willingness to do something about the problem. 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