European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 22, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i disagree with your response to the woman who wanted to know whether her husband should ask his Mother if he was included in her will. You said.  i a. Why not a per son should be Able to plan. I quit my Job to nurse my Ter Minally ill Mother and lived Oft j a savings while my sister. Mom s  was not work ing and could have cared for her if she had wanted to. I was t reimbursed for one dime. So who did mom leave All her Money to you guessed it. Her favorite. I put in a lifetime of Loving that shallow woman and it did t mean a damned thing. I spent every Holiday with her. My sister rarely put herself out to come Visil but All mom Ever talked about was How wonderful she was. After listening to that garbage for the umpteenth Lime. I got on the phone to my sister and told her to come and gel her Mother because i d had it. I did not say goodbye nor did i go to mom s Fune ral. When she died. I did t shed one tear and i regret nothing. After a lifetime of rejection. I was Able to wipe it All away by rejecting her. That was How i finally settled the score. Parents can be despicable. My Mother was selfish and cruel. But Fate has a Way of getting even. She died alone in a Rooming House and my sister was not at her Side. She got mom s Money but i feel that i won be cause i had the satisfaction of rejecting that terrible woman. Columbus. Ohio  Columbus i Vemi some venomous letters in my Day but yours rank right up there u one of the most spiteful. If you Aren t in therapy when you read this i Hope Jou Mill Start soon. You Are so full of anger and better Nevi that you re a walking Lime bomb ready to explode. You must talk his Poison out of your system. Dear Ann Landers a year ago. My husband told me that he had been in love with a woman he worked with for two years. When he went to her and confessed his feelings she said she was not in love with him and to Cool it. Why my husband told me this i cannot understand. I was. Of course extremely upset but decided not to make a big thing of it. Because he is very Loving and Good to me. The woman no longer works in that office but they keep in touch through their current jobs. Since there was never anything sexual Between them my husband feels that it is perfectly All right for them to continue their Friendship. Every four or five weeks he pressures me to spend an evening usually dinner with this woman and her Boyfriend. I actually like her. And we used to be social friends but i no longer feel comfortable in her presence. Am 1 being unreasonable when i object to these evenings together my husband says i need to prove that i Trust him. He wants to invite her and her Boyfriend to our Home for dinner net month. Should i agree or not wanting to be reasonable dear wanting to be reasonable Kien family should have at least one adult and it looks As if it s going to have to be you. Obviously this woman is no threat and you Are to be commended for handling the situation in a mature Man Ner. B All Means have the woman and her Boyfriend to dinner. By cordial and pleasant. In Lime the Friendship kill probably fade and you will have behaved like a lady from beginning Reader asks who really pays in salaries fro beginning to end. As a local National in with 14 years working alongside the american forces. I was very interested in Reading the Usa eur policy on in pay As recently explained by John m. Brown personnel management specialist tfx Usa eur. In an answer to a letter to the editor. If the explanation Given is Correct could or. Drown please Tell me and Many other local nationals what happens to the funds Given by the Bonn government As part of its required support of the nato forces up keep which within the agreement includes the requirement that civilians be employed at local level and accordingly Are budgeted for. It has to be accepted that the Ami fur  Lohn  ministry for defense spending leave and earnings statement received each month by local nationals states your salary is paid from the defense budget of the . Military stationed  but my information is the salaries referred to come from funds received from the Bonn government and shared Between the nato forces stationed Here in Germany hence the reason Why payment is made through the Ami fur . It can also be an explanation As to Why there is a difference Between wages received by local nationals employed with English French Canadian forces Here in Germany but doing the same work. I have posed these same questions in the past and the replies have been very veiled. In addition my local co was very uncooperative when i tried to under stand the facts As they really arc. It would be informative to Many of us working with the american forces and also to our american super visors if the truth could be Given based on fact and not Assumption. As a local National. I would like to know who is really my Boss defined As the one who really pays my salary. Name and location withheld. Editor s note Anton , personnel management specialist. Compensation management Branch. Chilian personnel division office of the Dep Uty chief of staff personnel he Usa eur replies your letter creates an excellent Opportunity to Clear up misunderstandings on the relationship Between the is. Forces As employer of local National employees in Germany and the Federal Republic of Germany As Host nation. The question of who pays the Bill when it comes to salaries and wages of local National employees is often asked. First the salaries and wages for the local National work Force Are paid exclusively by the is. Forces. This includes All benefits and allowances As Well As the employer s share for the social insurance system. Confusion arises because German government payroll offices administer the payroll on behalf of the . Forces. For this service the is. Forces pay a service fee to the German government. No German government funds Are used to pay salaries and wages. The salaries and wages for local National employees Are regulated by the collective Tariff agreement which is a negotiated agreement Between the sending states forces United states United kingdom Canada Bel Gium and France and German labor Union ii. For most jobs pay Scales Are the same for employees of All Send ing states forces. However for a few occupations such As guards there Are variations in the pay Scales. These were negotiated in recognition of differing employment conditions among the sending states in such areas As employee recruitment and retention. Prices at cafes car sales Points discussed a creators Syndicate i am a department of defense civilian and arrived in december. I did not bring a car and am looking to buy one. I checked with the cafes new car franchise on Ramstein a and other . Spec car sales places also. In the states if you walk into a car showroom and pay sticker Price most people would Call you a fool especially for last year s Model new car. I know some popular models May go for sticker or even More. I am talking about the Basic car. Though. That is exactly what the . Car sales places around Here say is the general practice other than any manufacturer s rebate. They said most of their sales arc for delivery in the slates. I was under the impression that there would be a savings of some degree other than the lax savings when purchasing a new car from an cafes contractor. Patrick Shackelford Lan Stuhl West Germany editor s note master sgt. Dayton p. Strick land customer relations he cafes Europe replies i think your impression that none in the Usa pays Slicker Price is a source of confusion Here. Many buyers pay sticker Price especially on highly desirable vehicles. Anyway each car displayed at an cafes new car sales Point has two Price related documents displayed in the window the manufacturer s suggested retail Price Srp Slicker and the cafes new car sales pricing sign. The cafes new car sales pricing sign figure is the Price of a vehicle delivered in the Usa with the same equipment As shown on the Srp. The Price you pay under the cafes program is always lower than the Srp sticker. A lot of people walk out of a stateside dealer thinking they got a great Deal because they got x number of dollars knocked off the sticker Price. What happens a lot of Lime though is thai the customer paid for Manda tory dealer options like so called Protection packages for Palm fabric rust proofing and extended warranty insurance in order to gel this great  this is where the dealer makes his killing and that s How they can afford to give you such a great  cafes dealers do not have these profit centers to work with. In general All profit to the cafes dealer conies from the 6-8 percent markup to dealer Cost Price allowed by the cafes contract. This markup is consistent from the first Day to the last Day of the Model year which provides our customers a consistent savings throughout the Model year. 1 Hope this Sheds a Little Light on the subject. All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be signed. 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