European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 2, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday March 2, 1990 the stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after Reading the letters in your column from readers who have herpes. I knew 1 had to write. Maybe i can help others. I am a divorced 32-year-old Mother of two. After my divorce i did not Date for five years. I met a Man i liked a lot and we went together for three months before we became intimate. I made one big mistake. I did t ask a a brads to use a condom. I now have genital warts. Brad says he did no to know that he had them. After a few weeks i Felt some itching and thought i Felt a to a e?1 t0 my gynaecologist. He informed me that i had genital warts. I had no idea what they were he told me that this was definitely not a sexually transmitted disease. After five months of very painful and expensive treatments he s been burning them Oft still have the warts i now go to the doctor three times a week and it costs $ 15 a treatment. Ii they Don t go away soon i May have to have laser surgery this has been a real Nightmare. Brad saw a urologist one time and is Clear of lesions he does t understand Why in a having such a difficult time i cry a lot a and a or very depressed. Needless to say this has cast a pall Over our relationship. Am furious that he has gotten off so lightly when he s the one who gave these Damn things to me. Is it possible that he did t know he had them i lease answer my questions and give me some enc our a. S. Carolina \ is it is possible that Brad did not know he had venereal warts because they can be invisible and often there Are no symptoms. I suggest that you see another doctor. If this one believes that venereal warts Are not sexually transmitted he knows nothing about the subject. There May be rare exceptions i would worry about what else he does t know. A new a0lie millions of others share this prob pm. Ith proper precaution and Early treatment you can Lead a perfectly Normal life. I he lesson to be Learned dear readers is this unprotected sex can be dangerous. Its never Worth the Chance you take. Dear Ann Landers i know i m late with this but it has taken me until now to gather my thoughts. Here a my answer to Why i am settling for half of a married Man. I have the Best Nail. I Don t need to account for my time or Money. I done tic j Cook. Clean do the laundry or accommodate his kids. I have the Benefit of a companion a Handyman an Auto Mechanic and a fabulous sex partner. 1 Don t feel like a Home wrecker because i am not taking anything away from his wife. He gives her status Security a Home a car and All the financial benefits without her having to tolerate sex which she hates. A divorce would mean giving up half of his assets and retirement benefits. Since i Don t want marriage i pose no threat. He s always there when i need him and we communicate Well. I take an interest in his work and his hobbies. I am an enthusiastic sex partner something he never had until we met. He fills my needs and i fill his. Everybody s Happy. And nobody gets Hurt. I never realized How perfect the arrangement was until 1 wrote this letter. Thanks. Ann. Dear nil Ping hiring in san Bernard no a 1 Haven to heard from his wife and kids. I Lave you c creators Syndicate die  european edition col. Gene e. Townsend. Usan commander editor in chief it. Col. Suzanne l. Phillips. Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views of. Or endorsed by. The . Government the department of defense or the  european command. The appearance of advertising in this publication including inserts or supplements does not constitute endorsement by the department of defense or the stars and stripes of the products or services advertised. Everything advertised in this publication shall be made available for Purchase use or patronage without regard to race color religion sex. National origin. Age. Marital status physical Handicap political affiliation or any other non Merit Factor of the purchaser user or Patron. A Reader says army Over relies on set i to in a. Page 11 letters i would like to comment on the decisions of the command sergeants major commanders and first sergeants of the importance of set scores when it comes time to determine if a specialist is eligible to appear before the e-5 promotion Board. It things that should be taken into consideration Are situations such As when a specialist makes a Low score on his or her set since this Soldier has not worked his or her primary military occupational specially pos since Ait advanced initial training. Or if a Soldier is m that situation and is Only Given a two week notice prior to the exam. Is it fair to that Soldier who has served diligently in As to army t0 8>ve such importance to the set score this is taking under consideration that this Soldier has a clean record. Should he or she be denied the right of advancement and yet this Young service member is under the command of a command sergeant major who is Between the age of 33 and 39 years old. The Junior enlisted teels that the command sergeant major must have been granted some sort of waiver to have excelled at such an Early age. Is it a question of favouritism what is right what is fair in today a army you have the Junior enlisted who receive pats on the Back for menial things that Are not career related. Or you have the Junior enlisted who has to accept the fact that he or she is made to do things that Are not Mission essential related and because of his hard boiled command can to seem to receive pats on the Back. This Means even losing a Chance to appear before a promotion Board due to the army system technicality a for doing what is expected of him by his superiors standards As Well As by his standards. I feel that those who have excelled and who have what it takes to help others Excel should Stop and take a look up from the Book and Start to understand what the pages Are really saying. A name withheld ludwigs Burg West Germany note a Usa eur command sergeant major George l. Horvath Iii replies this Soldier raises some Points that need clarification. First i agree that we army unit should be giving our soldiers More than two weeks notice of an impending set test. That is something i can fix. I will also state though that All soldiers share in the responsibility of keeping themselves prepared and ready to be tested. We All know that the set test comes around once a year. Some Good news the army is in the process of revamping the set test. Some of the changes under consideration Are a every military occupational specially mos will have a test. A it will be a written test. A it will be Given once a year. A it will be equipment focused. By that i mean you will be tested on the equipment you use in the unit you Are assigned to. If for example you Are an artillery staff sergeant in the 3rd inf div and Are assigned As a 155 Battery Section chief you would be tested Only on that system. A it will include some questions from the next higher skill level. For example a specialists test will include some questions from a sergeant s test. 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The Bottom line is that the set As we know it now is on the Way out the next Issue i would like to address is the reference made that command sergeants major Are Given Breaks or that �?ofavoritism�?T7 plays a part in their selection. Having served on several command sergeant major sergeant major selection boards i can assure you that there is no room for a Luck a a break so or  master sergeants first sergeants Are selected for promotion based on Many things. To mention a few a previous assignments and positions held. A past performance. A military schooling. A set scores. A no enlisted ratings Over the last five rating periods. A a conduct and character. A potential to assume greater responsibility and the highest enlisted rank. Only the Best master sergeants first sergeants Are selected to be sergeants major or command sergeants major. Iff your command sergeant major is Only 33 years old i can Tell you that he must be one hell of an no i agree that we need to do better As an no corps in rewarding Good performance. I will continue to stress this in my talks with cos and commanders. There Are Many ways to do this a Pat on the Back with a a Job Well  a Day off Given by the sergeant. A letters certificates of achievement appreciation. A army achievement medal. A army commendation medal. These Are Good ways t0 wed Good soldiers. We should not promote soldiers As a Reward for Good work. We promote Good soldiers who have demonstrated the potential to assume greater responsibility at the next higher rank. Among the ways of demonstrating such potential Are a make a commitment to the army. A be an excellent Soldier. A qualify a minimum of Sharpshooter on your weapon. A score at least 240 on the aft. A demonstrate High character and morale standards on and off duty. A demonstrate leadership potential. While these Are not hard and fast rules or policy they Are Good  the Best should be recommended for promotion. Only the Best should go to Ploc or inc of. Doing of May be Good enough for a recruit private private first class or specialist but it is not Good enough for a sergeant. Lastly i would say to this Soldier a if you have not been told where you stand and when you can expect to be considered for promotion or no then you need to ask your sergeant. If he does not a play it on the line for you then go ask his sergeant. Thank you for your commentary. It is always my pleasure to answer a Good soldiers questions. Ickin9 pm her Gary Miller and Candida Sansone Les Italy Asa Box 56. Fpo 09521 Telephone Auto on 625-1110 ext Juljan no d1 Tco Abaft w ua1, Najj re Burgh Germany John Millar room 110, River building Apo 09036 Telephone ets 350-4704 or civilian 0931-71569. 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