European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 18, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday april 18, 1990 the stars and stripes a Page 11 an Landers dear Ann Landers i have been married to Rusty for six months. He a a great Guy and treats me swell. The Only problem is his Mother. She is not an easy person to get along with but i have managed to steer Clear of her Sharp Tongue and avoid a confrontation. But now i am faced with a situation i can to handle. A few weeks ago Rusty s Mother started to have trouble with dog fleas. Her neighbor told her that if she put Mothballs All Over the House the fleas would disappear. Well it worked. The fleas wont come into her House anymore and neither will i. The entire House smells like one big Mothball. When Rusty goes to see her he comes Home smelling like Mothballs. The food she Cooks and sends Over Here smells like Mothballs. I can to eat it. Rusty says he does no to know what in a talking about. He does no to smell a thing. In a sure he thinks i am just picking on his Mother. He does no to insist that i go Over there anymore which is a Good thing because it makes me ill. What i am wondering about is How Long my Mother in Laws House is going to smell like that. I can to stay away forever. A Louzianna dear Loo if your Mother in Law keeps putting fresh Mothballs All Over the place the smell could last forever. In the interest of family Harmony however you ought to show up for just a couple of minutes decline any food and be As gracious As possible. Dear Ann Landers please print my letter. Maybe it will help a screw Loose in Iowa a the woman who was addicted to Richard. I went through the same mental and emotional torture a few years ago. My a a Richard dragged me through the mud time and time again. He was possessive and abusive a  even allow me to have lunch with my Mother. I was so hooked on him i moved into his place knowing it was the wrong thing to do. I lost my family and All my friends. After nearly three years he walked out on me. 1 cried for Days on end had the shakes stayed in bed lost my Job and became an alcoholic. Eventually i had a nervous breakdown. Done to do this to yourself  no Man is Worth it. This Isnit the end of the world. Get counselling and begin a new life. It took me a Long time to get straightened out but thank god i did. I now have a wonderful husband and a baby on the Way. My life could never have been this Good if i had stayed with that Kook. A . Love addict dear . Advice from someone who has been there is by far the most effective. Thanks for telling your Story. Dear Ann Landers i have been divorced for two years and am dating a Man who is also divorced. I am almost certain that we Are headed for marriage but i have a major concern. We Are both Catholic. In be heard that it could be a problem for two divorced people to remarry and have the marriage blessed by the Catholic Faith. We done to want a Large wedding we just want our marriage to be valid in the eyes of the Catholic Church. Is this possible npib1 a new Orleans dear new Orleans Werey a both previously married in the Catholic Church. If so you will need to apply for annulments. If you were not married in the Catholic Church your first marriage was not valid in the eyes of the Church and All that is needed is a baptismal record. Letters writer fears service member will pay Price its frustrating and confusing to read about the pending military budget cuts. Every faction has a different version of what should stay and what should go. The numbers shift and change with every statement made by our Public officials. We read that because $850 million Wasny to correctly budgeted Back in november 60,000 service members May be out of a Job by september. But since the Pentagon already announced planned cuts of 92,000 service members Over the next two years it makes one wonder Why the insistence on 60,000 by september its obvious that this is Power playing and headline grabbing. Its a personality politics at its Best. It s Congress is. Defense or Republican is. Democrat or some such nonsense. It has nothing to do with what s Good for the military or the country or defense. Granted none of us common citizens could possibly comprehend this budget squabble in any conventional manner As much As we try. Wed have to understand a pork barrel politics and a a Boondoggle and myriad other terms before making any sense of it. A senator says a close bases a but not in my  the Pentagon budget makers say a a we la keep this Jane or tank or missile even though it will take xxx billion dollars and xxx years before it la Ever work and Well Ever use it if  in the meantime the Soldier Sailor airman is wondering a a what a going to happen to my Job my family my future my life i did my Job and committed myself so now what happens to my life whereas my country a commitment to me a this is the one thing we All know it will be the service member who will end up paying the Cost of 11 ways cutters floor and those remaining wifi suffer because of it. The United states will have a military full of costly underutilized posts and bases a lot of High tech expensive obsolete weaponry and a scanty Force of service members who Are underpaid overworked poorly trained and totally disillusioned. A Marie r. Maes Baum older West Germany any budget cuts. Haven to they always too Many dedicated capable people will end up on the budget a Reader says East offers democracy lesson there is a great Deal that we americans can learn from the recent events happening in Eastern Europe. The majority of us take something for granted a something greater than life to those who sacrificed themselves. That is Freedom. If you done to think so then read the papers. Then ask this question a when did i vote last time a the East germans recently got their Chance and an astounding 85 percent of the population turned out to cast their ballots. Quite a significant number if you compare it to the average turnout of 30 percent to 40 percent for the United states. Maybe we have become too comfortable in the fact that we have a secure society. Who knows we should also give a thought to All who still cannot vote. History is perceived by Many As a sequence of events that teach us. Lets look at the chalkboard again and get Back to the basics. One vote for every citizen. Many of us feel that our vote does no to count. It does no to especially if our Only Choice is that we choose not to. Want to see change want to see history in the making want to make a difference then vote. The East germans did. And so should you. There san american saying that goes something like this a a done to Gripe about the politicians or policies if you did no to bother to  right now in a sure the East germans Are not griping. A tech. Sgt. Ben Van Dordrecht Rhein main a West Germany a Rose photo for americans in Madingley As you know Only too Well each year on memorial Day at Madingley a service is held. While there 1 overheard two people talking and the woman said if Only mom could be Here at this time. This started me thinking of All those Back Home in the United states who would like to be Here on this Day to be that much nearer to their loved one s but for one reason or another it was not possible. I then wrote to the 2nd air div. Association and the heritage league of which i am a member and asked them to publish my message if anyone who has or knows of someone buried at Madingley american cemetery Cambridge All they have to do is let me have information about them and a Rose will be placed on the graveside on memorial Day. This will be done at no Cost. This they agreed to do and requests started to come in. This year the children of Madingley Village school said that they would be honoured to place the roses. A photograph will be taken of each child and sent to those that have made the request. Also an officer and two cos of the Harlow air training corps Are placing a Rose Wreath against the Wall of remembrance for ladies of Lakenheath who have been so generous to the fund. A David Saltzer 36 Brockles Mead Harlow Essex pm 19 4pt England pen pals i m a 19-year-old secretarial student. My hobbies Are cooking singing dancing Reading swimming baking and of course eating. A Antionette Cura 344 Jasmin St. Mac Central compound san Carlos City Negros Occidental 6127 Philippines i am 31 years old and i like to read write Cook and Crochet. I also enjoy working with animals and appreciate nature. A Karri l. Bitter Rod Gasse 5 8801 Bur Bernheim West Germany i am 22 years old. My hobbies Are volleyball Reading Ana watching to. A Charity Gubuan Hofilena subdivision. Silay City Negros Occidental Philippines 6116 i am a 22-year-old jamaican male studying agriculture. My hobbies Are Reading sports and making International friends. A Earl Brown Ebony Park heart Academy Tollgate . Clarendon Jamaica West indies video games and Mak and write both English i am indies 12 years old. My hobbies Are drawing listening to music ing friends. I speak Rea it and German. A Toi James Blasier Rod Gasse 5 8801 Bur Bernheim. West Germany i am an 11-year-old boy who is fanatical about aircraft. I would like to become an Raf officer some Day. 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