European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 24, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes a Page 11ann Landers dear Ann Landers can you stand another letter about affairs in the workplace i Hope so because i am desperate for help. I read your column every Day and was stunned by the letter from the woman who had carried on with her Boss for 40 years. I. Could see myself doing the same thing although i am in my Early 30s and have been a faithful husband a so far letters from your readers called the woman a tramp the wife an ice cube and the Man a sleaze bag. None of these titles fit us. We Are just Ordinary people trapped in a difficult situation. A a Joyce and i have been happily married for 14 years. Ann she is a fabulous wife. Behave three love if. Been _. _ and is extremely competent. Debbie makes it a pleasure to come to work. We have fallen in love and in a not sure How Long we can keep this relationship under control. It May sound crazy but i want them both. Sometimes i secretly wish Joyce would find this letter and kick me out. I am considering asking my wife for permission to spend one night a week with Debbie. Frankly if the roles were reversed and Joyce asked me if she could spend one night a week with another Man i would be furious but at this moment it seems like a logical solution. Counselling is out. This is a Small town and All the Counselor Are friends of ours. Please help me Ann. No City please. A storm brewing in the Pacific dear storm Welcome to the club. Another Man wants to have his cake and eat it too. Sorry Buster you get no Green Light from me. A husband who would ask his wife to of such an arrangement is grossly immature and a wife who would agree to it is crazy. If a Counselor is out consider a member of the clergy or a trusted Friend. You need to talk to someone who can make you see that your relationship with Debbie is a Keg of dynamite that could blow up the lives of seven people. I realize that what i suggest will be painful but the alternative would be worse. Encourage Debbie to find another Job out of town if possible. Dear Ann Landers a while Back you had some advice for a woman who had twins. One twin was larger and livelier than the other. Strangers on the Street kept making comparisons and the Mother was beside herself with anxiety about what this would do to the smaller and less charismatic twin. Please say something that might help my sister. A few months ago she gave birth to triplets. Strangers have made her feel like a Freak. One woman saw Melissa Wheeling the Carriage for three in the mall and shrieked a ooh my god you poor thing a others have asked intimate questions about Fertility drugs frequency of sex Etc. Melissa is thrilled to have these Darling children but the questions make her crazy. What do you suggest a Dublin Calif. Dear dub your sister does no to owe those knuckleheads any answers. She should simply smile say something like a i feel very Lucky a and keep walking. _ Gem of the Day this card was phoned in to a Florist thank you for just being you. The year you were Cleopatra you were a mess. C creators Syndicate european edition col. Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col. Suzanne l. Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor one or Mcter it production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. Contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views of or endorsed by the . Government the department of defense or the . European command. The appearance of advertising in this publication including inserts or supplements does not constitute endorsement by the department of defense or the stars and stripes of the products or services advertised. Everything advertised in this publication shall be made available for Purchase use or patronage without regard to it race a Mission first in defense cuts writer says its time for the High level military planners naive budget cutters and incompetent military leaders to get with the program. The current plans for defense reduction Are so out of touch with reality and the scope of genuine military necessity that its frightening. So frightening in fact that the futility of these proposals is rivalled Only by the current misguided goals of Many present military leaders. If these current trends continue unchecked today a peacetime military will soon find itself ill suited for actual combat. Yes there is a definite need for substantial cutbacks in military spending. However the Way to attain these results is not through cutting army divisions Here and fighter wings there. These types of eliminations May get positive press coverage for their initiators yet they Only result in minor Dollar savings relative to the drastic number of a trigger pullers that will be sacrificed. Instead the fat on the military budget needs to be trimmed from the almost intangible bureaucratic and civilian labor infrastructure and not from the trenches. To put it simply if someone receives a monthly paycheck from the department of defense yet they re not deployable get rid of them. Its time for policy makers to make the Tough Choice of effectively cutting unnecessary fixed costs and overhead within the military without needlessly cutting the amount of troops or bombers we could deploy into Battle. Our current a tooth to Tail ratio based on the total number of support personnel needed to Field one combat troop is an embarrassment. Its an embarrassment that can Only be reformed through the decisions of military and non military administrators. Decisions which cannot be influenced or clouded by powerful constituents or personal interest and aspirations. These decisions must be made objectively and must be in keeping with the True Mission of the Overall military. As far As the goals of Many of our present military leaders this is another area of serious concern. Today a milita7 and military leaders have become so caught up with automation useless statistics and Public image that we be lost the real vision of our intended purpose. I glance around my office and see expensive computer plotters and printers yet i can to relate this equipment to combat readiness or Victory on the Battlefield. The concern for creating the image of the army As a professional employment Agency has severely diluted our ability to fight. This is directly related to the problem that although the defense business is no place for a it i Ticiano there Are few leaders who make decisions it ased on the Good of the Overall military rather than etting their decisions be influenced by personal career interests. Its a shameful environment when decisions Are made that weigh possible career backlash More heavily than the needs of the troops. The Bottom line is that the military has grown into an organization riddled with unnecessary civilian bureaucracy and incompetent politically minded leaders. If effective defense spending cuts Are to be made we must take a step Back and objectively re examine the Cut and dried purpose of the military. To the displeasure of the politicians and Media the potential and capability of an effective military is not pretty. The military can to be tied with a Pink ribbon and be marketed like a children a toy. To be successful our military must be completely devoted to the basics of total mobilization and unlimited response. This can Only be achieved by making cuts in the real waste of the defense budget through honest re evaluation of the military a goal As a whole. Unfortunately for National Security however its easier and More convenient for the leaders to talk numbers and Cut troops rather than break through the red tape and make the cuts that the military really needs. �?1st it. David r. Frazer Pir Masens West Germany a Price of evian bottled water discussed this letter is a result of a fest recent policy to use Only Glass containers for its bottled water As directed by West German Law. I recently made a comparison Between cafes and the French econ mat in Speyer for evian bottled water and discovered a significant difference in the prices As Well As the service. Currently cafes charges $9.25 for a Case of 12 one liter bottles which Are not returnable to cafes. The econ mat charges 2.50 francs for each one liter bottle. This is about $5.45 for the same 12-bottle cases for which cafes charges $9.25. There is an additional charge of 1.40 francs for each returnable bottle and 12 francs for each Case which is refundable exchangeable each time you Purchase additional water a Ana they do take the bottles in return. Why is cafes charging $3.78 More per Case of evian water they will not accept or sell returnable bottles because they supposedly done to have the storage space nor will the distributor pick up the empty cases. Similar distributors pick up and resupply cases of Beer and soft drinks. Why is evian water different cafes should provide better service. An explanation by cafes would be greatly appreciated. A maj. John Davis Heidelberg West Germany editors note a master sgt. Dayton p. Strick main office switchboard 06155-6010. Ets 348-5741 or 5823. For departments dial 06155-801 plus Extension or ets 348-8 plus the Extension. 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