European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 1, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                R wednesday August 1, 1990 the stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers your column about a the other woman Quot has been nagging at me All week. What All the cheated on wives say about the other woman is absolutely True. 1 Ali on of them and Here a a letter i wrote to his wife. _ dear wife of my Lover 1 have gone against All my own beliefs walked away from my marriage confused my children confused myself and become totally  everything except whatever it is that your husband wants or needs. I have lost All self respect because 1 have Hurt my family and i have Hurt you. If he can lie to you so easily i m sure he can do the same to me. I have been tempted Many times to Call you on the phone and ask what the hell we arc doing with this poor excuse for a Man. Everyone including me knows i am a fool but i keep seeing him spending Money on him and Loving him. All the while i know that he will walk away from me one of these Days. I am envious of y6u because you Are the one he goes Home to. You represent stability and Comfort. You have the Legal rights and social acceptance that i never will have. Meanwhile pm giving up everything including myself. Its not easy on this Side of the Fence and i feel guilty because i Don t have the right to complain. What i am doing is strictly out of Bounds. Well the Bottom line is i asked for it and boy am i getting it. A not proud of myself in Orlando dear not proud you understand the situation intellectually but you Are hooked emotionally. There is Only one Way to go if you want to Salvage your self respect and get some peace of mind counselling. You need to find out Why you Are indulging in this no win self destructive behaviour. I Hope you will get the help you need before you do further damage. M dear Ann Landers / you be printed several letters from readers who complain that we Are losing out to the japanese. I have devoted the better part of my adult life to studying japanese culture language and business practices i lived in Japan for 2 i years and taught in their schools. I now run a Small business that services japanese living in new York. I too have been trying to come up with an explanation for Why we can to compete. The experts can write think pieces on japanese management techniques until they Are Blue in the face and the commentators can continue to Harp on the super Orfey of the japanese school system from now till doomsday but the answer is simply this the japanese Are raised with a totally different set of priorities. First and Foremost is a sense of loyalty and commitment to the group. This holds True whether the a group Quot is the company they work for or their country. Americans Are brought up to believe in a every Man for  unless we take a Page out of their Book a a and soon a we be had it. Wake up America before the japanese turn out the lights. A a m.w., Scarsdale . Dear .its hard to argue with Success but the jury is still out insofar As Japan is concerned. Their competitiveness is causing some Western Type problems a stress ulcers Etc., Etc. Thanks for writing. It a Gem of the Day done to worry about avoiding temptation. As you get older it will avoid you. It a Salors Syndicate a cafes explains music selection process question. Is cafes musically biased answer. Yes in the snack bar Here in Kirch Gons they have a video Jukebox that plays both audio and video selections. Great idea except that 99 percent of the time the music is so one sided heavy Metal Rock pop or soul rap that those of us who listen to country music have no Chance of hearing the latest songs or seeing the latest videos. They change the videos about every five weeks. With the exception of a 10-Day period where they had All country music videos i can count on one hand the number of videos that have been available. The audio selection is not much belter. Out of the 160 selections available a and b Sid Only 28 a and b Side country songs Are listed. That is less than 10 percent of the music. Of those 14 a a Quot Side songs the ones generally released As singles Only two Are currently on the billboard top country 40 Chart and some of the others Are More than four years old. Is cafes saying that it can to get the latest country singles videos which i would find almost impossible to believe or that they just done to want to get them in the first place if they can to get them Why Are they Able to obtain the latest on the other charts if they can get them but done to want to Why not a Gerard a. Fortier Kirch guns West Germany editor note a master sgt. Dayton p. Strickland customer relations he cafes Europe replies make no mistake about it we really want to please your musical tastes but things just ainu to that simple. This is sort of a Long sad tale not unlike some country music songs so hang on partner and ill give you the full  music configuration on the videotape is designed by the Jukebox manufacturer. The manufacturer offers a Choice of three Standard videotapes Rock pop Urban soul and country Western. As stateside commercial establishments normally focus on specific clientele one of these tapes normally meets their needs for instance you re not going to hear Quot Nasty As they Wanna be at your local Honky Tonk. We tested All three tapes. The Rock pop and the Urban soul tape were equally popular while the country Western tape placed a Distant third. This was not surprising As it substantiates statistics from billboard Magazine and our own retail store sales that show country music accounts for approximately 15 percent of the prerecorded music bought. A after our tests we requested the development of a specially designed tape for our diverse customer Miv. Although faced with various constraints the manufacturer has cooperated fully. The new mix tape which is replaced monthly. Is basically a mix of Rock pop and Urban soul. Favourable consideration is Given to popular crossover artists who Appeal to dance latin or country fans. In the Case of country music normally new Breed artists such As Alabama and Kenny Rogers who enjoy a Broad popularity base have the Best Chance of appearing on the mix tape. #. M. In summary while the mix tape format is continually revised individual music selections depend on the Overall popularity of the song As Well As the manufacturing constraints related to the mixing of existing tapes. We will continue to Monitor customer feedback and sales popularity trends in order to improve the customer popularity of the tape. O As for record jukeboxes 10 records Are obtained each month. The Basic european pack  five pop two soul two country and one latin record. These sets can be modified depending on customer and experience input. We believe this package mix matches our customer mix. Like i said this is a Long tale but i wanted you to know we done to go about these things blindly and without consideration for and input from our customers. Picture of smoking sergeant told too much they say a picture is Worth a thousand words and a recent stars and stripes newspaper certainly added credence to this old quip. There was a very Short article titled a Mission lost and found consisting of three pictures and 10 lines of text. The Story was about a staff sergeant beginning a land navigation course at a Ranger Camp in West Ger Many. One of the pictures was a close up shot of the staff sergeants Compass in his hand and guess what else the hand also had a smoking cigarette in it i was shocked and very disappointed that this Type of nonverbal message would be permitted on the pages of the stars and stripes. In september 1987, the department of the army published pamphlet 600-63-7 titled Quot anti tobacco  this publication was a Joey component of an army wide initiative called the army health promotion program. A critical goal for the anti tobacco use program was to a significantly reduce the use of All tobacco products and to meet the National goal to reduce smoking to 25 percent by the year 1990.�?� responsibilities for achieving goals were specified. Commanders were Given  of implementation and accomplishment of the programs objectives the chief of Public affairs was Given staff responsibility for publicizing the anti tobacco use program to internal and external audiences. If 1 were asked How the army a score card looked when measured for achieving this goal i would have to respond a we have a Long Way to  As a Public health professional i understand the complexities of getting people to adopt healthier life styles by giving up potentially lethal Behaviours. Cigarette smoking is the leading cause of preventable premature death in the United Stales and accounts for Over 390,000 deaths each  surgeon general a 1989 report on reducing the health consequences of smoking identify military personnel As a specific population with a High smoking Proval pc in need of cessation interventions. Intervention strategies include Degl amortizing tobacco usage and creating a More positive a tobacco free a image As desirable. _ the Many hours and resources necessary to implement a successful tobacco cessation program can he undermined and made impotent by a seemingly harmless picture of a dedicated Soldier doing his Job on a land navigation course. What docs this picture say hard working soldiers need cigarettes to do a great Job. Cigarettes Are Macho. Good soldiers smoke. 1 thought this Type of negative advertising had become extinct along with the once popular Quot smoke Mem if you got Mem and cigarettes in c rations. I Hope the stars and stripes will prevent this Type of glamorized tobacco publicity in future articles. Those of us working in health promotion and disease prevention areas of health care would he Ever so grateful and by the Way done to you folks Ever read what you publish on the top of Page 6 in the same edition was the heading a passive smokers a a yearly toll set at 50,000.&Quot a it. Col. Jane l. Bell chief Community health nurse shape Belgium the a Riande Fries a Quot Quot european edition col. Gene e. Townsend. Usan command of editor in chiral it. Col. Suzanne l. Phillips. Usan Deputy com Nander Eduora in chief _ Marie Kominicki me it Proctor Deane b. 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