European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 16, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday november 16, 1990 the stars and stripes misunderstandings the lord mayor of the City of Erlanger 1 am fixed a. _. Y says Page 11 Ann Landers As the lord mayor of the City of Erlanger i am filled with consternation by your article a housing Short Ger mans Hail Gulf  6 w the phrase a in Erlanger Germany an aide to lord mayor Dietmar Hahlweg actually squealed with Delight gives the impression that the officers of Erlanger City Council Are delighted with the news that the  units stationed in our town Are supposed to be sent to the Gulf. This misunderstanding was caused by the reaction of a Secretary in my outer office. Only by the phone Call from the stars and stripes office did the Young lady learn that there Are plans for a withdrawal of troops 3,1 that he Desti Quot Atiz Quot of he thav Terfeh died piss t0 put Spe Ial emphasis on the fact wished that t concerned and never imagined or my win Wirot is would be withdrawn from Erlanger heir Mic Teply concerned about the soldiers crisis area fifth the def a pent in the Middle East conflict Wal has a a peace we d0 Hope the conflict will be resolved without any bloodshed misunderstanding6 a his i Quot "0t a More a or. Dietmar Hahlweg lord mayor Erlanger Germany a tips for travelling in Italy Are offered or Hans this is a Nonh Timo tax i Quot perhaps this is a Good time to reiterate How super important Security and personal attention to ones own Security is when travelling a especially in Italy recently several first class non sleeping compartments were entered on the a a Michelangelo a the German railroads eur City train from Munich and Rome Naples. With Only women in these compartments at 4 a.m., men simply rifled the personal belongings a or ripped the bag purse from under the head of a sleeping victim. V 6 the rapid Ness of the theft and the doors being held closed by an accomplice allowed the robber s to escape undetected minutes later when the train stopped at a major station in Northern Italy. Only valuable Small items were stolen from the bags e.g., Cash credit cards ids jewelry Etc. Despite the response by train officials and italian police it was too late. Even though we speak pretty Good German perfect italian would have been required to describe the suspects and the police asked that we file the theft report at our destination Naples. My husband who had been an officer in an air Force Security Type unit assessed the following As the major precautions to be taken a never be in a night train compartment alone Espe a Anions 1 a 3 compartment with any male com a when travelling with other women one must stay awake and Alert a preferably have a Mace Type Spray in a disperse your valuables. That is done to have All your valuables in one purse or Fanny Pouch which should always be worn in the front preferably under your to shirt jacket Etc. J a take along a copy of All ids passports train plane tickets credit cards Etc. Keep it in a suitcase Etc., not a camera bag a keep your Cash in a Money Belt next to your body. A pay attention to people very close to you or casing your person compartment bag Etc. Especially people including kids who run bump into you. Wear strapped bags Over your head not on your shoulder. A name withheld Las vegas Nev. Army dress regulations called unfair a 670-1 prohibits male soldiers from carrying umbrellas while in uniform but allows females to do so. Is this not discrimination or the old a double Standard a the male Soldier should be allowed to carry an umbrella Black of course while in the class a a a or class o uniform. It Only makes sense that if a Soldier spends. E be and Effort to make himself and his uniform look their Best that he be allowed to carry an umbrella in inclement weather to prevent All his efforts from being a washed  yes the Good old Black Raincoat is always there but it does not prevent the rain from soaking your Garrison Cap or trickling Down the Back of your neck to your class a a a jacket. The  stresses having a neat appearance and wants its soldiers looking Good so Why does no to the  attorn you the Means to do this . Tyler Mannheim Germany editors note a it. Col. Terry m. Hulin chief Soldier policy Branch office of the Deputy chief of staff for personnel department of the  replies on several occasions formal recommendations have been made to permit male soldiers to carry an umbrella while wearing the class a or b uniform. The  leadership has reviewed the recommendation and has determined that the current policy is in keeping with the  a Long standing tradition that male soldiers do not carry umbrellas while in uniform. The  has established Basic appearance standards for men and women soldiers. Identical appearance standards Are not always in the Best interest of the .pen pals Ina ?notha/hrsi51 Enid a keeping fit and watch snap a Tavonte 9r� Are soul ii soul and a Rachael Revelle 5 Wayne close Lowestoft. Suffolk England nr32 4sx �?ook"�?T0 Road Side District Ewarton ., St. Catherine Jamaica West indies i like to listen to Whitney Houston Anita Baker Lionel Richie and Diana Ross. I am 17 years old. I also like sports and dancing. A delite Appolonia Navassa Martin 13 Waterloo Road Ewarton ., St. Catherine Jamaica West indies i am 20 years old and enjoy dancing and cooking. A Nancy p. Sell ado hawaiian Central Silay City Negros Occidental Philippines i would enjoy writing to people 45 years of age or older. I am 46. A mrs. T. Amos 46 Nayland Road mile end Colchester Essex c04 5en, England dear Ann Landers i am 21 years old a nursing student mature and totally trustworthy. I had a terrific Boyfriend for four years. A a Jedi is 27. We recently broke up and this is Why in a writing. Jed and i started As pals. Our Friendship grew into a wonderful Loving relationship. Our families were close and they always hoped that one Day we would marry. We talked about marriage and children and were planning a life together. Then something happened to change my life. I was raped by a lifelong Friend who was like a brother to me. The Shock was devastating. Jed is having an extremely difficult time dealing with this. He now thinks less of me and it has ruined our relationship. I be been examined and tested for venereal disease and the his virus. So far nothing has shown up. In be had a lot of counselling but it Hasni to made me feel any better. I want my life Back the by it was before. What happened to me was not my fault. In a sick at heart that this terrible Nightmare has ruined what was a perfect relationship. Although Jed Hasni to said so i have a terrible feeling that he thinks i encouraged the attack. Please Ann Tell me what to do. Miserable in Wisconsin dear Wisconsin i m under the impression that you did not prosecute the rapist. If you did no to you should have. Prosecuting the perpetrator often helps the victim recover More quickly. Time is your Best ally dear. Find another Counselor and stick with it. If the second one does no to help you seek a third. Meanwhile lets Hope that Jed develops a better understanding of Date rape and comes Back to you. In a betting that he will. Please let me know when it happens. Dear Ann Landers i am not a student at Yale. I have a real problem with a real person. It is my stepdaughter. She lives 100 Miles from her father and me and comes uninvited almost every weekend. A a Gladys is the dispatcher for a Small town police department. When she and her 10-year-old son Are Here my life is just hell. Gladys weighs at least 300 pounds. I now have a broken Spring in my 3-year-old Couch. She has cracked two chairs and the sofa sags in the Middle. We never know when she is coming because she always Calls at the last minute. This stepdaughter is 28 years old healthy As a horse and Able to do for herself but when she comes to our place she never lifts a Finger. Just picking up wet towels and dirty clothes from the bathroom floor is too much for her. The girl is a bore. The Only thing she can talk about is who was arrested for what who ran a Stop sign and who is cheating on his wife. Her father is a Sweet Guy and he does no to see any of this. I have no problems with my husbands other children. They Are wonderful guests and i enjoy them. But Gladys is one Royal pain in the neck. Please Tell me what to do. Sweating it out in Beaumont dear sweating it _ Tell Gladys father a that Sweet Guy a that you want him to go with you to a marriage Counselor. It is unfair of him to permit his daughter to impose on you this Way and he needs to hear it from a professional unbiased third party. The majority of second marriages that fail Are wrecked by stepchildren. Your Story is one i have heard All too often. Show this column to your husband and Good Luck. Gem of the Day a lot of people love their jobs. Its the work they hate. C creators  european edition circulation 190,000 col Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander editor in chief est Winicki Bob Wicker Deane b. 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