European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 4, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                A Glass t Friday january 4, 1991 the stars and stripes % 43< a Page 11 Lette Quot dear Ann Landers will you please look in the files and find your definition of maturity it has been at least 16 years since you be printed it. I want my nieces and nephews to read it in the paper. I believe it will  effective than if i handed them the old clipping. Please done to worry about being repetitive. Every 15 years you v have a new audience. Thanks so much. Alma Sorenson Newark . Dear Alma i appreciate your encouragement. Here it is maturity. Maturity is the ability to control anger and Settle Dif Terence without violence or destruction. A maturity is patience. It is the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of Long term gain. Maturity is perseverance the ability to sweat out a project or a situation in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging setbacks. Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration discomfort and defeat without complaint or collapse. Maturity is humility. It is being big enough to say a i was  and when right the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying a a i told you  maturity is the ability to make a decision and follow through. The immature spend their lives exploring endless possibilities and then do  Means dependability keeping ones word and coming through in a crisis. The immature Are masters of the Alibi. They Are conflicted and disorganized. Their lives Are a Maze of broken promises former friends unfinished business and Good intentions that never materialize. Maturity is the Art of living in peace with what we cannot change the courage to change what we know should be changed and the Wisdom to know the differ-ence.�. A.  a. Dear Ann Landers _ four years ago after 11 years of marriage and two children i Learned of my husbands six month affair with his Secretary. She was 26, in her third marriage and had a 2-year-old son. _ since then i have divorced my husband been Able to support my two children and become engaged to a wonderful caring Man. The Secretary a third husband divorced her. She married my sex husband and now my children Are with them every other weekend. I despise this Home wrecker. She has no morals no conscience and no sense of decency. Her record proves that she is a no Good tramp. So far i have successfully avoided meeting the Trollop but i know that eventually my Luck will run out and we will come face to face. Here a where i need your advice. Should i ignore her when that time comes i would like to handle the situation tactfully gracefully and with real dignity. But i can to imagine myself treating her with kindness after what she did to me and my children. Please advise. Jacksonville Fla. Dear Jacksonville rest assured this woman is less eager to meet you than you Are to meet her. If you really want to handle the situation with class be a lady. Show no Trace of hostility. Do it for the children. They be had enough turmoil and ambivalence in their lives. They done to need anymore. A . Cheated on wives invariably Label the other woman  what do they Call their husbands. C creators Syndicate letters to Ann Landers May be addressed in care of the stars and stripes Apo new York 09211, and they will be forwarded to her. A a a Reader says bund Estehr can help maps departure of . Forces from Home stations in Germany for participation in operation desert shield has resulted in a problem with providing soldiers to act As unit police up. Several bases and caverns throughout Germany will have All or most of their soldiers a cps Art ing leaving behind Only Small rear detachments. The rear detachment personnel will already be burdened by a their unit and family member care responsibilities and would be Overly burdened by trying to fulfil up duties As Well. Several communities Are investigating the possibility of hiring contract civilian guards to perform up duties. This could Cost the army millions of dollars and the communities would have to Transfer funds from other programs to cover this a financed requirement. My idea is to use German soldiers Frore the bundles Wehr to guard our caverns. Germany a Constitution prohibits deployment of combat forces outside its own Borders. German army troops Are therefore prohibited from direct participation in the deployment of Allied forces to the persian Gulf Region. The German people however Are receiving the benefits of a stabilized world situation and Oil prices kept in Check the result of Allied deployment to the Region. The German government could show its appreciation and Solidarity with its allies efforts by doing what it can to assist the forces remaining in Germany. Deployment of specific German army units to specific communities and caverns would facilitate command and control of the German soldiers acting As guards empty Barracks space could be used to House the visiting German soldiers. Interaction with remaining . Forces personnel on each of these bases would provide a Good Opportunity for interoperability training from the higher staff level All  Down to the privates. Implementation of such a plan would require a great Deal of planning and coordination Between the american and German governments their Milit Aries and state departments. It might therefore encounter resistance by various staffs unwilling to work to implement it. But the amount of Money that could be saved by such a plan should be enough of a driving Force to help get it implemented. A a a a the direct costs of implementation would be Small consisting of the costs of transporting soldiers and equipment to the various caverns throughout the amen ican sectors. The salaries rations medical care and other employment costs for the German soldiers Are already being paid for by the German government. The savings on the other hand would he tremendous. For every German Soldier used As a up one less contract civilian guard would need to be hired. A capt. Thomas l. Mcclellan Lanau Germany a writer lists reasons for poor shield morale i want to address morale in desert shield. The prob Ichih has been addressed in the Media and commanders say there is no problem. Wrong the facts Are quite the contrary a the increase in number of incidences of Dis Cipione problems reported and unreported. The reasons Are Many but can be narrowed to a few prime ones. The first is the Lack of a real and published rotation policy or time Frame which a Soldier Sailor is Here. Next the Lack of ramp a service in theater or we Are working on that. Right a. The mail service has continued to be a major morale Factor and has not significantly changed in three months. The food a some units have a wide variety of meals others just have res or t rations which give the Soldier the idea no one really cares. Finally the commanders up in Headquarters Are out of real touch Wil the Soldier Sailor sweating and toiling in the desert. A flies May  the truth but it is the perception. So As far As he a concerned its True. A chief warrant officer j Ronald Scott operation desert shield r a a a it s Nice to know people care Soldier says As a combat Soldier serving in the Middle East i feel America deserves a big thank you for her support of desert shield forces. In a a Veteran of 17 years of Active service and never before have i Felt such Strong support by the civilian Community. I think the american people care greatly about the sons and daughters serving on Active duty in the Gulf. Aside from family and Community support numerous organizations and businesses have contributed to Mak ing our stay in the Gulf a Little Morg pleasant. Its Nice to know America cares. It really does no Ike a difference to a Soldier like me. V.  to perform my duties As dictated to me by my leaders if my Job requires sacrifice then so be it but this is not Blind allegiance just a Soldier doing his Job. To the people of America 1 give a big Salute. God bless you All. A staff sgt. Ray c. Wheeler operation desert shield. A negotiate Oil Deal with saudis writer says i have a suggestion to make. While the United states still has considerable leverage with the saudis and other Friendly Gulf arabs Why done to we negotiate a new two tiered Price Structure for Oil to take effect once the current crisis is resolved those countries that contributed troops to the Resolution of the conflict would pay lets say $15 a barrel. Those countries that did not like Germany and Japan would pay Between two and three times that amount. They were apparently prepared to accept prices at that level anyway so Why disappoint them in the Case of the uni Ted states reasonably priced Oil would go a Long Way toward easing our economic problems. It sounds Lair to me. A David Owen / a Vaihinger Germany Quot. European edition _ circulation 200,000a a a a col Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa r Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. Contents of the stars and stripes Are riot necessarily the official views of or endorsed by the . Government the department of defense or the . European command. The appearance of advertising in this publication including inserts or supplements does not constitute endorsement by the department of defense or the stars and stripes of the products or services advertised. 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