European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 20, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after Reading the letter from the woman who had two miscarriages in eight years i had to write. During the past year in be had three miscarriages. It has been a year of grieving Over the death of these children. Yet i found As your correspondent did that most people done to understand. In a not writing out of bitterness. I just want to help those who done to know what to say to a woman who has miscarried. Say a a in a sorry. I know it must have been very difficult for you. Would you like to talk about it a done to say a it was gods  or a you can have another one. At least you did no to get attached to  or a a it a better this Way. It was probably deformed or  the subject of babies is a difficult one for us. We done to want to hear about How Many pregnant people you know nor do we want to see pictures of your own healthy babies. Showers and nurseries Are battlefields for us. If you notice that we avoid these places please understand. I know this letter makes us sound fragile and weak but we really do need a lot of support and just writing to you has made me feel. Better. Hoping and hurting in St Louis dear St. Louis thank you for a letter that Many people will learn from. So often folks who mean Well say the wrong thing because dear Abby dear Abby recently in be noticed How much i have been lying to people about Little things when the lie does not in any Way Benefit me. For instance if i am asked what in be been doing i will lie even though the answer is no More glamorous than the truth. Yesterday i told someone i had to Stop and get Gas before going Home even though i knew i was going straight Home. I once heard someone who had been abused As a child say that she started lying about everything in order to feel that she was in control of the situation. Abby i have never been abused and i done to know Why i lie so much. In a sure the people i lie to know that i am lying so Why do i feel so powerless to Stop could this have anything to do with the fact that i am in an unhappy relationship and want out chronic liar dear chronic liar your last sentence could be a clue. You Are not Happy with things the Way they Are so even though that which you lie about is of no consequence at least its not reality which you dislike. Saturday july 20, 1991 they just done to know any better. Well a they do now dear Ann Landers Maimonides the great jewish philosopher who lived in the 12th Century was As current As the 1990s when he described the eight Levels of Charity. As you read these words ask yourself How Many people measure up to these lofty standards. Going from the lowest level of Charity to the highest Here Are the eight Levels 1. He who gives unwillingly. 2. He who gives cheerfully but not enough. 3. He who gives enough but not until he is asked. 4. He who gives before being asked but gives directly to the poor Man. 5. The poor Man knows from whom he takes but the giver does not know who is receiving. 6. The giver knows to whom he gives but the receiver does not know the giver. 7. The giver docs not know to whom he gives nor does the poor Man know from whom he receives. 8. The highest form of Charity is to strengthen the hand of the poor Man by giving him a loan joining him in partnership or training him out of his poverty to help him establish himself. If possible Ann please print this. It contains some genuine Wisdom. Cincinnati dear Cincinnati far be it from me to argue with Maimonides but the professional fund raisers of today would have a Tough time with nos. 5,6 and 7. Thanks for writing. C creators Syndicate inc. A psychotherapist could help you get to the Root of this. Dear Abby i am a 22-year-old College student with plans to graduate in december. I have been dating the same Guy for almost five years. He is out of College now and has a steady Job. My problem is that i want to get married. I would even Settle for an engagement ring or some sort of Promise of marriage after i graduate from College. My Boyfriend is 27 and keeps saying Well get married someday when i bring it up otherwise he never mentions it. He says it would be Fine if we just lived together because we need to be a soul mates first. I used to believe that living together was a Good idea but i done to think so anymore. I truly love this Man and want to be his wife. Am i wasting my time he says he feels As if in a pressuring him. What should i do running in place dear running when a Man tells you that he feels As if you re pressuring him a Trust me you Are pressuring him. Back off. Then Tell him you think it might be a Good idea if you two cooled it for a while and maybe if you dated other people you could get a better perspective. 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