European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 8, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 14 a the stars and stripes thursday August 8, 1991 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers As a child and teen Ager i was sexually molested by my father. When he came to my room at night i pretended to be asleep. I was so afraid of him i Tell anybody for fear of what he might do. My Mother knew but she was t Strong enough to confront _ him either. We just did no to talk about it. Two Days after i graduated from High school i moved out. At that time 1 despised my Fathey. 1 am an adult now and have worked through my anger. We live in the same town and 1 have a better relationship with my parents than i Ever thought possible. Now my problem i have two daughters. They love to stay overnight at grandma and grandpas House. They Are getting older and 1 am becoming worried. I done to let the girls stay overnight nearly As often As they would like nor As often As they Are invited. In be said a a not a lot this last year and the girls Haven to complained. I think they have lost interest and prefer slumber parties with their girlfriends which is just Fine. 1 done to want to withhold the children from my parents. They All love each other so much. But i done to want my father to touch them. Of course my husband does no to know about any of his. He gets along Well with my parents. If he knew it would be the end of the relationship. Is it Safe to assume that my father has changed after 30 years should i confront him should i talk to my Mother about it should i be vague about the reasons if my parents become persistent and simply say no to All overnight visits i Trust you. An uneasy Mother today s crossword dear Abby dear Abby in december 1987, i sent Christmas cards to All six of the addresses you had in your operation dear Abby 111 column. I received three responses a one was from Ken Castaneda serving on the Carrier Coral sea. When Ken received my Christmas card he was on a Mediterranean cruise and we corresponded until his ship pulled into Norfolk Van a in March of 1988. Ken went on leave to his Hometown of Brighton colo., and we talked Tor the first time when he called me in my Hometown of St. Charlesmo he decided to drive from Colorado through Missouri to meet me. To make a Long Story Short we had an awesome time together a and we have had a Long distance relationship since then. But now we Are making our dream come True As you can see from the enclosed wedding invitation. How can 1 thank you Tonja Dillon dear Tonja you just did and when this goes to press you will be or. And mrs. Kenneth Castaneda. Congratulations and ail Good wishes to you both. Dear uneasy do not permit your daughters to spend the night under the same roof with your father under any circumstances. 1 fail to understand Why you took such a risk when they were younger. Since your Mother did nothing to protect you its Safe to assume that she protect them either. 1 find it quite remarkable that you have such a Loving relationship with your parents. My hat is off to your therapist. If your parents should become persistent in their requests that the girls sleep Oveis it would be perfectly All right to spell out for them the reason you will not permit it. Once you give them chapter and verse 1 assure you they will Stop asking. _ dear Ann Landers this is in response to . Reader and carriers who outlined the negatives of being a newspaper delivery person. Id like to Tell you about the Way we do it which eliminates a lot of problems. Subscribers to the Newton Kansan pay the newspaper office in Advance and a local paper Carrier picks up the papers at a drop off Point and delivers them. The Wichita newspaper has the same system. When this system is used the carriers Are spared the Job of going around to collect and they Are assured that every paper they deliver will be paid for. M.l., Newton Kan. Dear . Thanks for enlightening me. What you have described sounds so totally sensible that i like you cannot understand Why Alt newspapers Arentt delivered this Way. Perhaps some subscribers would prefer not to pay for their papers in Advance but if the system were implemented they would have no Choice. C Creatore Syndicate inc. Dear Abby i can to believe you let the woman who did no to know whether to Tell her son that his dad is in jail get by with such flippancy about the nature of his crime. Driving drunk is a violent crime. On at least three occasions he could have killed people and if her big City is like ours Houston its unlikely that he was caught every time he broke the Law and Likely that Hewa completely Over the Edge before the police noticed. Id rather have a role Model for my child who stole to feed the family than one who takes others lives in his hands so casually and without redemption. Debra Danburg state representative Austin Texas dear is. Danburg a the Mother wrote asking whether she should Tell her 6v2-year-old son that his father was in jail for a year for driving drunk a or would it be better to say a daddy is away on business and he May be gone for a Long time i advised her to Tell Herson the truth. I did no to think it was necessary to rub Salt in her wounds by reiterating that driving drunk is a very serious crime. She already. Knows that. Of c Universal press Syndicate across 1 Gen. 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