European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 29, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday november 29, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers our youngest son recently informed us that he and his wife have separated and plan to divorce. To make matters worse our Dauthier in Law is planning to move Back to her Hometown with their three children Ages 10 through 16. My wife and i will be married 50 years in april. We believe marriage should be forever and Are heartsick about this breakup. This is not the Way our children were brought up. Please talk some sense into their Heads. Parents . Dear parents it s hard to a talk sense into their Heads Quot when 1 have no idea what the problem is and no one wants to discuss it. I can understand your sadness but i suggest that you mob about the divorce and concentrate on staying close to the grandchildren. They la need your support. Dear Ann Landers i got a kick out of the letter from the Young woman who said she had read your Booklet sex and the teenager and it helped her decide not to have sex with her Boyfriend. In a glad for her but 1 am somewhat embarrassed to admit that in a 45 years of age and have the same problem. _ after separating from my husband last october today a crossword dear Abby dear readers five years ago today Cary Grant died a just seven weeks before his 83rd birthday. Not a bad score. He could t have written a better ending himself. Cary Grant was a superstar in every sense of the word. He wore his stardom with Grace and dignity and for All his Fame and adulation he remained incredibly unspoiled. In his later years he made occasional appearances in Heaters around the country billed simply As a conversation with Cary Grant. He did t need much advertising one Small and would appear in the local newspaper and the House was immediately sold out. Everywhere he appeared he received a standing ovation simply for walking out on the stage. He had no routine he just sat perched on a Long legged Stool in the Center of the stage with a spotlight beamed on his famous face and for two hours he answered random questions from the audience. They loved it. And so did he. He closed his a conversation Quot with a piece he called a meditation saying he did no to know who wrote it but it expressed his own sentiments about growing older. It also expresses mine. And Here it is now lord you be known me a Long time. You know me better than i know myself. You know that each Day after 22 years of marriage in be been approached by several men who have had some fascinating lines. One made me laugh another made me cry but none got me into bed until i fell for an irresistible ploy. It came from a married Friend who told me that he had been in love with me for years. After a few weeks his romantic approach and my raging hormones finally wore me Down. Now several months later he has no time for me. At least i did t lose my virginity but i did lose a lot of self respect. Worse yet i feel ashamed and guilty around his wife and i have lost his Friendship. He avoids me whenever possible and that really hurts. Perhaps you should consider writing a Booklet for older women who Are returning to the dating scene and can t seem to make the right choices. We Are already hurting from the breakup of our marriages and Are not Able to say no even though we know we should. Positive reinforcement from you would help. I Don t intend to beat up on myself forever and i am moving on. Thanks for allowing me to say this. Learned the hard Way in n y. Dear new York life can be a cruel teacher but most of us need to get the lumps along with the lesson in order to make it stick. You sound like a great Gal with a delightful sense of humor. Please done to feel foolish. Some of the advice in that Booklet applies to females of All Ages. I wish you the Best of Luck and Hope you find or. Right no. 2 a if that a what you want. Not All divorced women do. C creators Syndicate i am growing older and someday May even be very old so meanwhile please keep me from the habit of thinking i must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from trying to straighten out everyone s affairs. Make me thoughtful but not Moody helpful but not overbearing. I be a certain amount of knowledge to share still it would be very Nice to have a few friends who at the end recognized and forgave the knowledge i lacked. Keep my Tongue free from the recital of endless details. Seal my lips on my aches and pains they increase daily and the need to speak of them becomes almost a compulsion. I ask for Grace enough to listen to the retelling of others afflictions and to be helped to endure them with patience. I would like to have improved memory but i la Settle for growing humility and an ability to capitulate when my memory clashes with the memory of others teach me the glorious lesson that on some occasions i May be mistaken. Keep me reasonably kind in be never aspired to be a Saint. Saints must be rather difficult to live with. Yet on the other hand an embittered old person is a constant Burden. Please give me the ability to see Good in unlikely places and talents in unexpected people. And give me the Grace to Tell them so dear lord. C Universal press Syndicate _ across 41 put to 2 Palin 1 ersatz work Romic chocolate 43 Corvine name 6 mischief comment 3 july 4th maker 44 Stoltz or props 9 fre Bogosian 4 Wood Quentlyn 45 czech s wind 12 Pueblo neighbor 5 author material 47 they hold Stephen 13 extinct pictures Vincent new 49 regions 6 Block Sealander 52 St. 7 Othello. 14 Al 53 shirt leg. 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