European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 19, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday december 19, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 15 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers my Beautiful 19-year-old son was murdered by two hoodlums who stole his car. He is buried in a cemetery in North Hollywood. I recently visited his grave. Soon after. I wrote a letter of complaint to the cemetery about a situation i find appalling. And now am writing to you. Because 1 value your opinion and need to know if 1 have a legitimate complaint. Quot More and More people Are using the cemetery to jog walk Bike and learn to drive. Young children play in the water Fountain. Some folks bring lunches and picnic there. I received a response from the cemetery agreeing that people should not use the grounds to learn to drive and kids should not be playing in the Fountain. But it said Quot we Don t believe All activities Are inappropriate. We feel that the Park is for the living As Well As the dead and we Don t think peaceful quiet activities such As walking and jogging demean those who Are buried  i always thought a cemetery was a place to Hury loved ones a place of Beauty for quiet meditation not a multipurpose piece of real estate. I realize Thal most people feel that once a person is dead he is dead and cemeteries Aren t important. I Felt that Way Loo before this horrible loss. Had i known the place was like an amusement Park. I would not have buried my son there. It upsets me that i do not have the funds to move his grave to another cemetery. Please Ann advise your readers to Check out the cemetery in Advance. They should ask a do you allow the Public to use the grounds for exercising and recreational purposes a i today a crossword dear Abby dear Abby our daughter a Naomi Quot who is s years old has been taking piano lessons for three years. In recent months she seems to have lost interest in the piano and it s a struggle to gel her to practice i usually lose my temper and she ends up in tears. I finally gave up trying to Force her to practice. My theory is that unless she is motivated by her own desire to learn it s not Worth the hassle. My husband disagrees. He thinks we should make Naomi practice no matter How much she hates it. I should also mention Thal our son a David Quot who is now 13, was allowed to quit taking violin lessons three months ago because of his Many school obligations plus making the football team a which his father wholeheartedly approved of. Naomi is angry. She can to understand Why we let her brother quit his music lessons but we Are not allowing her to quit. What do you think Abby fighting in Florida Teel strongly that Parks Are the appropriate places for jogging bicycling and laughing children. Am i wrong 1 grieving Parent North Hollywood c Alif. Dear Parent i can understand Why you Are upset. Your letter Points up the importance of checking out the cemetery in Advance. A since there is nothing you can do about this situation please consider using your place of worship to meditate and find peace. Dear Ann Landers it has taken me a Long time to write this response to Quot Florida wreck Quot whose husband ran off with an old flame lie met at their High school reunion. My Story is similar except we had been married 30 years when my husband developed a full blown ease of the Middle aged crazies. After i quit trying to figure out what i had done wrong. I slatted to heal but my self esteem was Zero. When my husband left me. I had never held a full time Job. Thankfully my children were grown so the Only emotional wreck i had to Deal with was myself. After twin years of counselling two years of College nine years of employment Many prayers and the support of friends and family i am leading a productive life. I am nothing like the 47-year-old w Reck i was when i thought life held nothing for me. In a now nearly 60 and have a Good life. If i can do it anyone can. So i want to say to a Florida wreck Quot take whatever Steps Are necessary to work through the pain and god bless you. Single and Happy in Missouri dear Missouri the most supportive letters come from survivors. Thank you for a message that is sure to help. Ltd creators Syndicate. Inc. Dear fighting assuming that David started taking violin lessons when he was 5, he has had eight years of music lessons. In order to treat both children equally Naomi should take music lessons for another five years. Don t give up so easily. Tell Naomi she May quit when she s 13, if she wants to. Dear Abby thank you for suggesting that Licking envelopes and postage Stamps is unsanitary then recommending a Damp sponge instead. Many years ago when i was living in a College dormitory i noticed that my postage Stamps were not clicking to the envelopes no matter How much i licked them. Then i discovered that cockroaches were eating the glue off the Stamps now that i have my own Home and am confident that it is free of hugs 1 lick without worrying. John Wayland Waco Texas dear John better keep your Tongue in your Mouth. I Learned the hard Way that storing those Crown paper grocery sacks is not a Good idea. The glue on the sacks attracts not Only cockroaches but mice and rats too. C Universal press Syndicate. 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