European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 19, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse Wednesday february 19, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 17 Ann Landers it ear Ann Landers i am 41 and a a Judy is 45. We Lave been Good friends for several years. About six months ago Judy sailed to say her Mother was sick with pneumonia i had never met her Mother. I Only knew that she had been in a nursing Home for 10 years with alzheimer a. Judy never visited her Mother even though she lived in the same town. She said that her Mother did no to recognize her and that it was too depressing to stare into those vacant eyes and get absolutely no response. The nursing Home put her Mother in the Hospital when she came Down with pneumonia and Judy went to see her once. When i asked her if she at least called the Hospital to see How her Mother was getting along Judy said it had never occurred to her. Even after i mentioned it she never called to Check. Two months ago Judy called me crying and sobbing As if she had lost her Best Friend. She told me that her Mother had died and that the funeral was to be held the following Day at 1 . In order to attend i would have had to take time off from work. I made a con today a crossword dear Abby dear Abby i am indebted to the new York times Jan. 29 for this thought provoking Tongue in Cheek verse a when the phone is out of order and the roof has sprung a leak a when the Money in your paycheck barely gets you through the week a when the baby has the Colic and your dog is full of fleas a a done to complain to Washington a just blame the japanese. A when the Crooks Are running rampant and the judges Are too lax a when letters from the irs demand some extra tax a when your son is quitting College and your daughters getting Dos a just do what Iacocca does a and curse the japanese. A when your taxes keep on rising while your Bank Book starts to shrink a when pollution Clouds your City so the air begins to stink a when the temperature is falling and your pipes Are sure to freeze a Call upon your congressman to Bash the japanese. A when everyone around you is complaining of the news a and some condemn Arabia while others blast the jews a then stiffen up your lip my son and never Bend scions decision not to go for two reasons first i had never met Judy smother and second 1 Felt that if Judy take the time to visit her Mother Why should she expect me to i sent a Large donation to the alzheimer a association in memory of Judy smother. A month later i asked Judy if she had received an acknowledgement from the alzheimer a association about my donation. She said she had but it would have meant More if i had gone to the funeral. She never did thank me. Our Friendship has not been the same since. I feel that she must be a very selfish and cold person to have ignored her Mother All those years. She thinks i m not a Good Friend because 1 did no to go to the funeral. Please Tell me who is right. Our Friendship now seems lost. Sue in Connecticut dear sue funerals serve a dual purpose a to show respect for the deceased and to give emotional support to the living. Even though you did no to know Judy s Mother you could have gone to the funeral to Comfort your Friend. Obviously you miss Judy a great Deal. I suggest that you give her a Call and apologize. If the Friendship was a solid one she will be Happy to hear from you and things will get Back on track. I wish you Luck. C creators Syndicate your Knees a a just be a True american and blame the George Dawson emeritus professor of economics Empire state College the state University of new York dear Abby i am 19 years old and was a Virgin up until april 1991. Since then i have been with three men All of whom were one night stands. One was married and away from his wife at the time. He was very Nice but in a sorry i gave in to temptation and have asked god to forgive me and i feel As if he has. Then it happened again with my manager at work. I was always attracted to him and knew that he was to me too. He told me that he was getting a divorce so we got together and it happened again. Will god forgive me for the second time i really do wan Quot to serve the lord More than anything else. I Pray that god will give me the strength to resist temptation. I am not even going to Tell you about the third Guy. I done to even know his last name. It happened so fast and i am ashamed. Ashamed to sign my name dear ashamed god cannot keep you from resisting temptation without your help. Begin by avoiding situations that could Lead you into temptation. You said your last slip happened so fast you did no to even know his last name so i assume you used no Protection. If you Are not afraid of aids you have much to learn. Pick up a phone and Call the aids hot line. Its toll free and the number is 800 342-aids. 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