European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 27, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday february 27, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 15 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers can i interest you in one More a a cause you have championed waitresses firefighters and teach ers. Now would you speak out on behalf of children a photographers today i received a letter of complaint from a woman who accused me of being mean to her child. This woman kept ordering her 6-year-old son to smile with his Mouth closed. All i could get were silly looking smirks. I tried to convince the Mother that the boy should be allowed to smile naturally but after several minutes of trying everything under the Sun she stepped in and threatened the boy until he was in tears. I worked with this Little boy for a very Long time and took the Best pictures i could. In her letter this Mother accused me of giving her child a Short shrift and quitting Halfway through the Job. Ann please do thousands of children a photographers a favor and give parents some pointers. 1. Done to Tell your child to smile unless you want him or her to look stiff and unnatural. Children will either exaggerate the smile or lock their Mouths shut. 2. It is not the photographers fault if your child misbehaves. We must expect a 2-year-old to behave like a 2-year-old. 3. At $14.95 or any Price under $100 you Are not paying for an unlimited amount of time. There is Seldom any Point in going Over 10 minutes. The Best pictures happen quickly. 4. When anyone other than the photographer talks to the child it is a distraction. I am a professional wit today s crossword dear Abby dear Abby our attractive divorced Middle aged daughter a ill Call her Nora a was involved with an older not so attractive Man for about five years. During their relationship Leo not his real name beat her burned her with cigarettes held a loaded gun to her head and put her in other life threatening situations. He insulted her family and friends. Nora a therapist urged her to end the relationship saying the Man is a Sociopath and a sadist. Nora finally came to her senses left this monster and started seeing other men. Much to our Relief she found a Fine caring Man and they seemed very much in love. A few months later Leo called Nora saying that he had a found god a and that god had told him that they should be together again. She told Leo that she was in a committed relationship and did not want to see him. He persisted telling her that god told him not to give up a so she foolishly agreed to see him. Now she a Back under his spell again and has rejected the Fine Man with whom she was in love. Leo is a psychotherapist and knows All the tricks. He has Complete control Over her. Nora told us that he seduces his own clients and has affairs with them in his 50,000 sittings to my credit. Please let me do my Job. Make your suggestions at the outset a then stay out of my Way. Every photographer has a horror Story. One Mother jerked her 4-year-old to his feet spanked him slammed him Back Down and said a now smile a 5. There is no need to blame anyone if you done to like the pictures. All photographers do their Best and some children photograph better than others. Love kids sick of parents dear love thanks for giving us a realistic picture of a professionals problems that we Seldom hear about. Your letter was quite an exposure if you la forgive the Pun. Dear Ann Landers i wonder what your readers would think of a son in Law who brings along a bathroom scale on a five Day trip. I was led to believe this Beer drinking Man was monitoring his own weight. It turns out the Scales Are an intimidation tactic toward my daughter who must watch everything she eats. In a baffled. Is this just a method of control i done to know How i raised a daughter who is so subservient. Growing up Linda was very Independent. I wonder what went wrong. Baffled in West Virginia dear baffled the Man sounds like a control Freak. The fact that Linda permits herself to be treated like this indicates enormous insecurity. Your daughter needs professional counselling but the Best thing you can do is stay out of it. The problem is Between Linda and her husband. C pm atoms Syndicate office. She says she never really loved him but he has some kind of Power Over her. We simply cannot understand this a its All so illogical and we actually fear for our daughters life. Where do we go from Here Nora a concerned parents dear concerned parents you say Leo is a psychotherapist Nora should report him to the governing body of his professional society. And if she does no to you should. This Man should not be practising psychotherapy. He needs psychotherapy. He is clearly disturbed and Nora should be psychiatric ally examined. Dear Abby your advice to a keeping my Mouth shut a the individual who needed dental care but could not afford to go to the dentist was right on the Mark May i add to your advice while dental school clinics Are an excellent source of dental care any patient who feels that he cannot go to the family dentist because of financial problems should speak frankly about it to his dentist. As a dentist i have always tried to work out a solution with my patients regarding financial problems whether it involved reducing my fee or allowing the patient to pay what he can afford Over a period of time. Jeffrey m. Gold dds new York c Universal press Syndicate across 1 Jupiter a . 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