European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 9, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 Ann Landers the stars and stripes dear Ann Landers i am responding to the lady who objected to people jogging and children playing at the cemetery where her son is buried. We live next to a Beautiful cemetery and go for walks there often. The peaceful surroundings the occasional Jogger the squirrels the dogs and yes even the children make it a pleasant place to be. If the residents could talk in a sure they would want us to be there knowing How much we enjoy it. My wife and i have had Many wonderful conversations in that cemetery while admiring the fall leaves Spring Flowers and fountains in summer. We often read the headstones and speculate about the deceased and their families. Last halloween we shared the warm feelings one family must have had for its Mother when we found a pumpkin placed on a grave with the message a we miss you mom a signed with the children a names. I miss my mom too but her grave is 1,500 Miles away. I came away feeling closer to her that Day. Dave in Seattle dear Dave what a Beautiful letter. Hundreds of readers wrote to share their thoughts about cemeteries. 1 was amazed at the interest. Here they Are from Miami. My brother died in 1968 in a motorcycle Accident at the age of 28. He was buried in a Small cemetery in Jackson Tenn. When i go to Jackson i always enjoy visiting my brother a grave because there is life there a the cemetery is the children a favorite playground it seems. Their happiness Lightens my grief. Name of City withheld to take a Chance scared to death of get i work in a Large cemetery and it is a lot safer to walk in these peaceful surroundings than a on this City s streets where in a scare _ Ting mugged or hit by a drunk Driver. This cemetery is a Garden of Eden by comparison. Dear Abby dear Abby you said Quot once a gift is Given it belongs to the  i disagree. Eighteen years ago our oldest son married a girl we liked very much a and i still do. Ill Call her sue. Six years ago i gave sue an 18-Karat Wristwatch. It was appraised at $3,000. The following Christmas i bought a Fine antique necklace at an auction. It came from the estate of one of our finest families. I gave it to sue for her 40th birthday. Two weeks later my son informed me that he and sue were getting a divorce and that he had already moved out this came As a blow As i had no idea they had a troubled marriage. Abby sue must have known when i gave her that necklace that she was getting a divorce a yet she accepted the necklace and said nothing. T the divorce was  i defended sue and m monday March 9, 1992 Silver Springs Myland today is too valuable to be used for burial grounds. I plan to be cremated and then have the ashes mixed with soil in which geraniums will be planted and Given to my friends. Charleston . In a one who is guilty of using a cemetery for purposes other than visiting the deceased. I bicycle through a cemetery because it is a Safe and Beautiful place. During an unsettled time in my life i found peace there that i could not find in a place of worship because i am not a member of any particular Faith. Irvine Calif t i would much rather be buried where there is laughter than grief. I Hope people will enjoy themselves when they visit my grave. Fort Myers Beach Fla my father was in the Monument business. His workplace was opposite the cemetery. It was such a peaceful place that we As children loved playing there. Now 60 years later we still love it. Buffalo . I come from a family of funeral directors. We Seldom went to a cemetery. My husbands family was the opposite. I Hope when i die that people will picnic on my grave and bring their kids. If some youngsters Frisbee hits my Stone i Hope he takes a second look and sees my name. Bloomington ind i grew up in Sioux City Iowa and the cemetery there was the favorite spot for High school necking. There were no cops shining spotlights on us like there Are today according to my grandchildren. A yes there was a lot of life in that Sioux City cemetery. Do you remember it that Way Ann dear Bloom no i done to. We did oar necking at the end of Jackson Street. But then we lived on the North Side. The West Side teen agers went to Stone Park to neck. I wonder if this is still the Way it is. C creators Syndicate inc. Curved the Wrath of our son. I tried in the ensuing years to visit her an hour s drive but she found excuses and continued to avoid me. I should mention that sue and our son had children a my Only grandchildren a whom i adore and we All get together at family affairs and Are most cordial. However i have never seen sue Wear the watch or necklace i gave her. A few months ago i asked sue to please return the watch and necklace because i wanted them to remain in the family As heirlooms. She flatly refused. I know that i would have returned them had i been in her circumstances. Please Tell me was i wrong to ask sue to return those items and was she right to refuse no name please dear no name i think you were wrong to have asked sue to return the gifts you had Given her. Whether she chose to return them or keep them was entirely her prerogative. She had no obligation to do so. 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