European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 16, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday december 16, 1992 infant s death puts Strain on marriage dear Ann Landers. Several months ago our 2-month-old son died of sudden infant death syndrome or Side. Since that tragedy my husband and i seem hopelessly alienated from each other. We have been married for Only two years. J i have asked a a Lenny to go for counselling with me or attend a meeting of the compassionate friends which i read about in your column but he refuses. He never mentions our songs name and when i try to talk about our shared loss he changes the subject. Our sex life is almost nonexistent. Lenny never touches me unless i touch him first. Ann i truly love this Man but i feel like his Roommate instead of his wife. In be toyed with the idea of having an affair but i would feel too awkward and guilty. Neither one of us knows what causes Side and we have no information on it. I know our marriage is in trouble but i done to know what to do. Please give me some advice As Well As some information about ids lost in Maryland dear Maryland one would assume that the death of a child would bring couples closer together but strangely enough it often does the opposite. Your husband is in desperate need of grief therapy. He needs to accept his loss and go through the mourning process. Side is one of life a cruel St blows. For information Send a self addressed stamped envelope to Side Alliance 10500 Little a Tuxen Parkway suite 420, Columbia my. 21044, or phone 1-800-221-sids. My condolences to you both. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers my wife a sister divorced her husband two years ago after 35 years of marriage and now she has moved into our lives totally. Prior to their split we saw them maybe once every couple of years or so. They previously lived eight hours away and near their own married daughter and grandson. A a Floral now lives five Miles from us and shows up at our House every weekend unannounced like clockwork. Sometimes she is at our front door before my wife is out of bed in the morning. When we recently announced our plans to move Flora said she would also move in order to be close to us. It is Clear that she plans to continue this dependence on my wife and me. The unbridled nerve of this woman is affecting our already strained marriage. In a not saying that i want her completely out of our lives. I just want her to Slack off with the clockwork visits. Am i out of line or what fed up in Calif. Dear fed the missing Factor in this equation is your wife. How docs she feel about Floral a intrusive Ness if she resents the too Early too Fri Quant visits its up to her to set her sister straight. If on the other hand she has no objections there just might be something in your marriage that needs fixing. Dear readers this Anonymous contribution made me laugh. You. Too never drive with a doctor or a nun. Doctors arc lost in dreams of medicaid heaven and average 17 Miles an hour on the open Highway. Nuns arc dreaming of the conventional heaven and because they arc All presumably in a state of Grace they go 92 Mph on City streets and nothing Ever happens to them. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to Hor at . Box 11562 Chicago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate Don t leave baby alone with dogs dear Abby our daughter is married to a Fine Man and they have recently blessed us with a Beautiful grandchild who is now 4 months old. The problem our daughter and son in Law Are animal lovers and have acquired three Large dogs who have total run of the House a including Access to the baby. Sometimes the dogs snap at each other right next to the baby a face putting the baby in danger of being bitten. If any dear Abby More precious than a child also the dogs sometimes quibble do Wou Juoh met eve Eft time Twat 146 come out Molte Kle lost one says anything or attempts to keep the dogs off the baby both parents act As if the poor dogs feelings had been Hurt. Abby since when did dogs become lick the baby a face.  that present a health Hazard or Are we foolish for worrying about it concerned grandparents dear concerned i consulted my animal expert veterinarian or. Erwin David. He said a dogs should never be left alone with a 4-month-old baby. The baby could be inadvertently Hurt should the three Large dogs engage in playful rough housing with each other near the baby. As for the danger involved in the dogs Licking the baby s face a or. Michael Steinberg is an authority. Consult  i spoke with or. Steinberg who said he did not recommend allowing a dog to lick an infants face but if the dog is healthy it wont Hurt the baby. However he too stressed that a 4-month-old baby should never be left alone with three Large dogs in the House. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447 mount Morris Iii. 61054. C Universal press Syndicate the stars and stripes today a crossword Page 19 across 1 mimic 4 Loman portrayed 8 snatch 12 fond due. 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