European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 05, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday augusts 1993 husbands want More than Roommate Ann Landers dear Ann Landers in a recent answer to housemates in the North West you said that not Many men write to complain about being rejected sexually by their wives. The reason is obvious. Look at any mag Azine or watch any to talk show. They All say men Are the problem. I also have a marriage the req Are the Best of friends and make great roommates but tends there i Don t even try to initiate sex anymore. My wife will say if you want  it let s get it Over with so icat take a  if i attempt a Little , i m told Don try anything fancy. I Don t want any of that our physical Contact amounts to a Quick kiss and hug when leaving for work in the morning. Neither of us has Ever had another partner so we can t make any comparisons but i have an idea this is not the Way  women feel about sex. My wife refuses to go for coun seling. She says we Don t have any  Well maybe she does to but i would hate to go to my grave thinking this is All there is to it. There must be other men who have this problem but you know How men Are we Don t talk about such things. Frozen out in Alaska dear Frozen maybe men Don t talk about such things but they certainly wrote about them this time. The male response to that letter was extremely heavy. Here s another one dear Ann Landers i m glad you finally printed a letter from a husband who complained about being married to an icicle. It usually women s letters that appear in your column and most of them give men a bum  the years you be made us look like sex crazed leeches or non functional wimps with dead  say our wives Are neglected or ignored because we Are too Busy too tired too self involved or too fat or would rather look at porn. In other words your column is strongly biased against men. I la bet you More women say no to their husband than the other Way around. That familiar line not to night dear i have a headache has become an Ameri can classic. Just sign me chilled out in Dubuque dear Dubuque i plead not guilty to your charges but i m Happy to give you space to air your Gripe thanks for writing. Read on dear Ann Landers i la bet i m not the Only wife who found your Colum about housemates in the Northwest on her plate at the dinner table. The letter was from a Man whose wife froze him out. I d like to Trade places with that Man s wife. She Andy husband could spend their evenings ignoring each other and i would finally have a Man who enjoys a healthy fulfilling sex life. After my husband and i had been married for a Short while it became evident that the Only affection i was going to get was when he Felt like it. Eventually i built a Wall around myself to keep from hurting. I forgot How it Felt to have Loving arms around me receive a tender kiss have my hair stroked or see smile across the room. The next thing i know my Hus band is putting your column on my plate because he feels deprived. Thanks for giving me Trie impetus to say this is it. Let s go for counselling or  deadline in Missouri dear Missouri hurray i m glad i helped. Good Luck Honey. Letters to Ann Landers should to addressed to nor at . Box 11562, Chi Cago. Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate confessions leave Bride to be uneasy dear Abby i am going to be married in a few months to a Man i love very much. He told me recently that he wanted to be totally honest withe then he launched into a series of confessions about the women he had been intimate  were literally dozens of them he said Many were one or two night flings that did t mean  am confused and disturbed not Only because he has Bee intimate with so Many women but that he is still in Contact with them and plans to invite some of them to our wedding because now they Are just  quibble dear Abby he insists that what he did before he met me has nothing to do with me but i am very uneasy about this. What Are your feelings about this now i am having second thoughts. Deeply troubled dear troubled i wonder if your future husband was confessing or bragging. In either Case Only a cad would name names. He could also be lying i think you Are Wise to have second thoughts. You be even Wiser to have third and fourth thoughts about this Man. He has shown a glaring Lack of sensitivity for your feelings. . In View of these revelations 1 Hope you will give serious thought to being tested for sexually transmitted diseases letter for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at .box 447. Mount Morris Iii. 61054. 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