European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 19, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 24 the stars and stripes wednesday january 19, 1994 pain of divorcing Cheater not Worth it today s crossword dear Ann Landers this is for the woman who wrote about her Hus band s relationship with the female half of a recently divorced couple. She was concerned because the woman frequently asked her husband for help and advice. The husband insisted he was just helping an old  i have been in precisely the same situation and i Hope she will learn from my experience. When my Friend Carla was going through her divorce i talked to my husband about my suspicions and anxieties. I Felt their Friendship was too close their conversations were too personal and she leaned on him too heavily. She phoned Hihi at least five nights a week usually during dinner time. My husband said i was crazy and that my imagination was working overtime. When Garla s divorce was final however he announced that they had fallen in love and he wanted to marry her. So i gave him a divorce because i could t live with a Man who loved an other woman. He telephoned me three months later and said he had made a big mistake. I refused to take him Back. I was still paying the lawyer and was very bitter. Six Ann Landers months later he married Carla. If i had it to do Over again i would have stayed mar ried. My two children were permanently scarred by our divorce. Even though they visited their father twice a month on weekends they still suffered from not having him around. I Hope you will print my letter. It May pre vent other women from making the same mistake. Regrets in South Florida dear regrets another Case of 20-20 Hindsight. Thanks for sharing. Dear Ann Landers i read with interest your column about the fancy weekend guests who ran up a big Telephone Bill and made no attempt to reimburse the Host. My own mod est income is $30,000 a year. My friends and family have also visited and made Calls. It was t much but every one of them insisted that i accept reimburse ment. ". A. Can it be that we poor folks have better manners Portland Ore. Dear Portland it certainly can. Money has nothing to do with Man  people with lots of Money behave like slobs while those who have very Little can be very Classy. Letters to Ann Landers should to addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago 111.60611-0562. C creators Syndicate octogenarian has Wise weight advice dear Abby some time ago an item appeared in your column about an elderly lady who lost weight on a diet she composed. She lost weight on it and went i think from a size 14 to a size 6. I forgot what eating pattern she Fol Lowed. Could you let me have a copy of that program thank you Helen Mason Costa Mesa Calif. Dear Helen the letter was written by an85-year-old widow who was enjoying a new lease on life. Herein  Abby dear Abby this is in reply to enjoying life in Florida who Felt comfortable about her body even though she was heavy. I could have written that letter. When i was a Bride i was 5 feet tall and weighed 105 pounds. After 32 years of marriage i was widowed and within a year my weight had doubled. Now Here is where we part company. I would like to Tell enjoying life How i took off weight. On my 80th birthday i was a Basket Case. Arthritis was racking my Knees and other joints and i-ached1 All Over. In Addi Tion i had High blood pressure indigestion and All of the other problems that go with obesity. Then i decided quibble to do something about it. Today i m 85 i Wear a size 10 dress and even More important i am free of pain. I walk a mile in 20 min utes. I can out walk most people half my age people who know me Are astonished that i did this without help from any organized group or special diet foods. Here s my advice to people who want to do what i did. Remember you did t get fat overnight. Ease into your new habits. Never talk about what you Are doing just do it. Let others discover that you Are losing weight. First Cut Down the size of your portions then limit your meals to healthful foods such As fruits vegetables cereals lean meat and nonfat milk. Drink at least 10 glasses of liquids a Day most of it should be water. When you Cut out the fats and sweets you will be sur prised at How Good the other foods taste. Even a baked potato can be a treat. Start exercising. Begin slowly then gradually in crease the time but do it so regularly that it becomes habit. Moderation is the key to Success. Substitute common sense for bad habits. Life for me did t begin at 40. I began at 80. Happy at last in Oklahoma dear Happy what an inspirational letter too bad Well never know How Many men and women Over 50 followed your Lead. Thanks for the Wake up Call. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . 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