European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 11, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                By Sarah Nordgren the associated press he phone is ringing two of the quadruplets Are crying a third is slowly creeping off a Blue baby Blanket on the floor and the fourth is sleeping peacefully in a bouncy chair. Three year old Amy wants to know Why the Witch on her wizard of of videotape is melting. Mother Holly Madden is smiting and Calm. She struggled for years to get Here. Madden is part of a growing group of women who believed they never would Bear children but who came Home from the Hospital with several tiny medical miracles. Someday she May sit with her feet up and enjoy five boxes of Mother s Day Candy. But on this Day in Evanston Iii., she s too Busy worrying about when the fourth automatic baby swing will arrive and who Wilt help with the afternoon  it was t what we expected but you want them so badly Quot Madden said As she jiggled a pacifier into 4-month-old Christa s Mouth. Advances in the treatment of infertility have. Dramatically increased the rate of multiple births in the United states. Since the Early 1970s, the rate of Triplet births has increased More than 2.wtimes, to 76 per 100,000 in 1991, according to the National Center for health statistics. The rate of quadruple births jumped from 1.3 per 100,000 to 4.9 per 100,000 in the same period. The surge is a result of the Way infertility to treated. Stronger Fertility drugs can stimulate More eggs a and produce More than one baby. Transplanting numerous embryos during in Vitro fertilization and other procedures can enhance the chances for one viable pregnancy a or two or More said or. Suheil Muasher director of advanced reproductive technology at the Jones Institute for reproductive Medicine in Norfolk a. Triplets quadruplets even Sext plets can be a Shock. To  patients. At one time they  they would never have kids. Now they know their experience As moms and dads will never be quite the. Same As those who have children the old fashioned Way one at a time. Quot the Joys Are multiple but the challenges also Are multiple Quot said Susan Knight a clinical social worker who runs a support group for mothers of triplets and quadruplets. Quot most of these people Are enthralled with. Having multiples but there can also be ambivalent feelings.�?�. Most infertility patients Are told they risk multiple births but learning Many babies Are coming can make a Parent to be s jaw drop. Keith and Becki Dilley of Indianapolis tried for about seven years to have children. When they switched from the Fertility drug Clor hid to the More powerful per Ganol the result was Sext plets. After the initial Shock of learning More than one baby was on the Way Becki Dilley spent much of her pregnancy in bed. Her six babies were born a year ago last month arriving More than two months Early and since have overcome Early medical problems. Now it s a simple question of 50 bottles 36 diapers and 15 jars of baby food each Day a and the Gargantuan task of keeping track of four boys and two girls intent on exploring every Corner of their Home. A Quot they re starting to crawl a said Keith Dilley 30, who cares for the babies during the Day while Becki works As a nurse. Quot if you turn your Back you Don t know where they went Quot even the crying a if you had t guessed six babies cry a lot has become routine. Quot after a while you get kind of used to it a said Dilley who managed a Burger King before the children were born Quot you try to keep them Happy but it does t bother you after a while Quot the maddens comfortable four bedroom suburban colonial became downright crowded after the quadruplets arrived. Upstairs four cribs and two changing tables Are shoehorned into a Small White bedroom. Quot we May have to change this arrangement once they re Able to crawl out of their cribs a Madden said. What once was the dining room now serves As baby Central. Three automatic swings stand end to end and baby toys Dot the floor. A Large bag of , wipes and a rubber Sheet sit ready atop the Buffet. When triplets quadruplets or More come Home parents need a Good source of support for their unique requirements said Ida Cardone who works with Knight at Evanston Hospital. Quot the initial focus of our support group was. Social Quot said Cardone director of the Hospital s perinatal family support Center. Quot it became Clear very quickly that the intensity of the need of the parents overrode the social need s of these  the women provide support and practical advice to one another As they did for one mom who said she was starting to feed her triplets solid foods setting out three bowls and three spoons. Quot everyone in the group said no no no. One bowline spoon Quot said Knight. When you have so much work already Why create More dirty dishes. Madden pulls out her electric mixer each morning to churn baby formula from powder and water. Feeding is the Only Job she won t do alone a two sets of grown up hands Are mandatory. Quot i Don t have anyone for the afternoon feeding Quot she tells her husband As he leaves. Quot Call me 7 maybe you could come  feeding grown ups also can be Tough. A Small pile of Tupperware a Madden is not certain whose a sits by the front door testament to the meals the maddens receive several times a week from neighbors. At the i i Leys House babies Brenna Julian Quinn Claire Ian and Adrian most often look to dad alone to answer their needs. But occasional help surfaces. Sometimes from unlikely sources. Quot the people Becki works with will come out a Dilley said. Quot the doctor who helped get her pregnant came out. And helped watch them one  the logistics of being inside the House Are Only slightly less difficult than the  going outside. Quot if we re going someplace a like the paediatrician a one will dress them one runs to the Van Dilley said. Quot one carries kids a Acland Forth. Once we re in the Van it s great. It s getting unpacked and  perhaps the most poignant conflict for parents of multiples is finding a quiet moment to enjoy the babies they worked so hard to have. / it 1 hip Yaj j Vaju j y having babies in Bunches keeps parents hands and hearts full besides feeding diapering and bathing there Are always the Little extras a such As trimming 60 fingernails and 60 toenails. Somehow these parents say they manage and manage to know each child Well. Quot we have introverts extroverts then you have some that will crawl off and play All by themselves Quot said Becki Dilley ticking off the wide array of personalities that now occupy her world. Multiple moms say even their kind of mothering is a vast improvement Over the years spent taking Fertility drugs waiting for ultrasounds blood tests and other invasive procedures never knowing if a pregnancy would occur. Quot not Only Are you a Little hormonal through the whole thing because of the drugs you re so obsessed with. Success a and you re Lucky if you re successful 20 percent of the time Quot said Madden who tried for three years before conceiving 3-year-old Amy and underwent a fertilization procedure that led to the birth of her quads. Quot sometimes it feels like putting your Hope in something hopeless Quot she said. When the hopeless have their Hopes fulfil led their houses and hearts fill up As Well. Quot child free living just was t for us a said Becki Dilley Quot a lot of the things i used to do As hobbies were just to fill the space. Quot every morning when you get up and go in there and see All those grins it really is very very fulfilling. People still will catch me in there in the Middle of the night just watching  at left Becki Dilley keeps an Eye on her six 1-Ycar-Olds at their Home in Indianapolis from left Quinn Julian Adrian Brenna Claire and Ian. Above John and Holly Madden stretch out with their 3-year-old daughter Amy and their 4-month-ofd quadruplets in Evanston Iii. More moms a 1 in coaches Box by Carin Rubinstein the new York times  recent Spring evening Laurel. / Schliftman  the i Larvey school a rink in Katonah n.y., wearing several. Layers of sweaters. It was 40 minutes before game time and Sechli Fernan was with her sons Matt 15, an experienced ice hockey player who is helping her coach the Hickory Hill Spring league hockey team and Tim 11, who is on the team. A passionate hockey fan who fully supports her children s obsession with the ice Schliftman 43, makes at least five trips a week to the hangar like skating rink a All year Long. During games she stands in sturdy sneakers on top of Blade roughened wooden benches and sends in line after line of 10 and 11-year-Olds, offering each child gentle Praise and softly murmuring advice into helmeted ears. All Over the United states a and wherever else americans conduct youth sports leagues a More and More mothers Are demonstrating their dedication to their children s teams not in their traditional spot standing on a the sidelines with cheers of encouragement Ami cups of Ca Torado but by becoming coaches. A. A. A the National youth sports coaches association in West Palm Beach fla., a nonprofit organization for Parent coaches tracks a dozen team sports played by children after school including baseball softball basketball and ice hockey in those 12 sports about 15 percent of the 135,000 members Are women almost All of them mothers a number that has doubled in the past four years said Mike Pfahl the group s executive director a the number of women who coach is higher in sports like soccer that Are newly popular in the United states because men Are less Likely to have played those sports when they were growing up Pfahl said. And for that reason they Are More Likely to be welcomed As coaches because men feel less territorial about sports they Haven t played and know less about indeed the american youth soccer organization estimates hat 37 percent of its 50,000 coaches Are mothers said John Ouellette the group director of coaching. Women often make better coaches than men because Quot they Are More concerned with the child s welfare and development As opposed to winning the game Quot Ouellette said. Women who coach Aren t As Likely As men to scream at children especially when the team loses and they often make a greater Effort to learn to coach since they May never have actually played the sport said or. Jody Brylinsky an assistant professor of sports studies at Western Michigan University in Kalamazoo and vice president for coaching at the National association for girls and women in sports in Reston a. Quot women coaches Are More willing to emphasize fun and Effort Quot she said but Quot men coaches bring an adult Model of sport Quot to children s Gaines in which their overriding goal is w inning