European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 30, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday july 30, 1994 the stars and stripes Page 21 permissive parents have lots to learn today s crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers Why is it that Many highly intelligent people let their children run their lives i have a Good Friend who has a graduate degree and is considered very Bright. This Young woman has three children under the age of 7, and it is obvious that they Rule the Roost. I spoke to a a Shirley on the phone last night and All three kids were still awake at 11 pm. Shirley interrupted our conversation several times to plead with the kids to go to bed but it was apparent that they were ignoring her. They had Learned from experience that if they waited Long enough they would Wear her Down. It was Clear that Shirley desperately wanted her kids to go to bed but she was unable to put up with their temporary unhappiness Long enough to enforce a Standard bedtime. If this Mother can to get her kids to obey when they Are .7,4 and 2, How is she going to maintain control when they Are 17, 14 and 12? Wise parents know they must establish rules and standards of behaviour Early. Ignoring a screaming child who is throwing a Tantrum in the supermarket while everyone is staring is a lot harder than giving in so the child wont cause a scene. Too Many parents put up with obnoxious behaviour because they feel powerless to change it. Please Tell your readers there Are excellent classes on parenting offered by school districts and Pat associations. Lenexa Kan. Dear Lenexa there Are also classes at some local Yucas and Community centers. What too Many parents done Tun do stand is that children want discipline even though they appear to resist it. They need the feeling of Security that comes with knowing someone Wiser and More experienced is in control. Parents do their children no favors when they allow them total Freedom to do As they please. A dear Ann Landers i was disturbed by a television program i saw in which a child was choking and the Mother in the program applied Mouth to Mouth respiration. As a result the pea that had been caught in the child a Throat passed into the lung. When 1 was a teen Ager my 3-year-old Niece choked on a Cracker. A nurse who was visiting grabbed my. Niece by the Ankles turned her upside Down and gave a slight Jerk. The Cracker popped out and my Niece began to breathe normally. On two occasions i have followed this procedure  one instance the child was choking on food and in the other a Marble was caught in the child a Throat. In both cases the parents were frantic and i became a hero. In another instance a child had an Eraser caught in his Throat and his teacher followed this procedure with immediate Success. I wonder How Many people know about this. If the Mother in that television program had used my method the pea would have popped out before getting into the child s lung. Thomas Payne Arkansas dear Thomas Payne for older children and adults the Heimlich Man Euver is the Best Way to prevent choking. For infants and toddlers a modified Heimlich Man Euver taught in car classes is Best. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . To 11562. Chicago Iii. 60611-0562. A. C creators Syndicate worried about antics of cat Rabbit dear Abby i am a grown woman with children and i feel like a fool asking this question. Last easter a Friend gave our 6-year-old daughter a live Rabbit. We named it  we were Given instructions on what to feed her and How to care for her which was relatively simple. We have had a cat for about three years. She was Given to us when she was a tiny Kitten and we just assumed it was a female so. We named her Kitty sue. We Learned that Kitty sue was a male so we dropped the sue and called him kit. Kit and Bunny seemed to get along very Well then we noticed that kit was trying a Success a. Fully to have sex with Bunny. Abby i need to know if it is possible for a cat to impregnate a Rabbit. Mrs. . In St. Paul Minn. Dear Abby dear mrs.  no but you can to fault kit for trying. Dear Abby i am a 36-year-Oid woman who fell in love with a Man my age. He was bom in a foreign country and Speaks very Little English but there is a very Strong physical attraction Between us. When he makes love to me my heart pounds and i am in heaven. His inability to speak English is somewhat frustrating but he knows How to make a woman feel thoroughly loved. Should i consider marrying him debating dear debating its easier to teach a Man to speak English than to teach him How to make a woman feel thoroughly loved. But keep in mind that real love encompasses More than just a physical relationship. He sounds like a Good catch to me. Letters or this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . To 447, mount Morris ill. 61054., a. C Universal press Syndicate. Across 1 Rosten. 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