European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 17, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                R Page 10 the stars and stripes religion saturday september 17,1994 priest has common Bond with couples he counsels Atlanta a the Rev. David Dye has an advantage Over other Catholic priests who counsel engaged couples he can fall Back on his own experience As a husband for the past 22 years. As a married priest i can give couples a different perspective than a celibate priest. Not necessarily a better perspective but different Dye said. Dye 50, was an episcopal priest until 1988, when he converted to catholicism. He was ordained in the Catholic Church in 1992 under an exemption allowing priests from anglican churches to be ordained As Cath Olics and remain married. He and his wife Chantal have three children Ages 13 through20, there Are about 80 married Catholic priests in the United states All of them former episcopal priests. Besides serving As chaplain at Georgia state univer sity in Atlanta Dye says mass once a week at a Church in Lilburn and counsels couples during a Daylong sem Inar on marriage required by the Church for engaged couples. The Atlanta  did t select Dye for the Job because he s married but it did t Hurt. Various priests have been involved in that position and obviously none of them have been married said the Rev. Peter Dora spokesman for the archdiocese. But we Are very Happy that he can bring his perspective to the  i Felt it brought a whole new dimension to marriage preparation said Lynn Crutchfield who has worked with Dye in the remarriage program. I thought he shared beautifully his relationship with his wife and. Children. Then again it can be confusing to some. It s new for us and it s very surprising to some  Dye said his marriage is sometimes a disadvantage in counselling. What if i have an argument with my wife and then i leave the House to counsel a couple he said. Tell me what Side i m going to be on if they re having a Dis agreement. I May be biased and Side with the Man while a celibate priest would be More  James Davidson a sociologist at Indiana s Purdue University who studies catholicism said Riany couples May be More Apt to accept counselling from a married  Rev. David Dye is a married Catholic priest who counsels engaged couples for the Atlanta archdiocese. My sense is that there Are a number of people who May have marital difficulties and be reluctant to go to a celibate priest because they would expect that he does not understand their problems Davidson said. If it works out i think you might see the Church putting a lot More married priests in those positions but Richard Lamanna a sociology professor at the University of notre Dame also in Indiana said mos couples Don t mind being counselled by a celibate priest  you Don t have to be sick to treat an illness and you Don t have to be married to be a marriage counsel or Lamanna said. To Cap or not churchgoers debating emotion is decorum by Judy Tarjanyi Toledo Blade in a Church fortunate enough to have both a magnificent Organ and gifted hands to play it an awkward silence sometimes hangs in the rafters after the performance of a particularly soul stirring piece. Emotion argues with decorum As congregation Mem Bers ask themselves should we applaud in churches where tradition tames the urge to applaud the answer usually has been absolutely  but in a growing number of congregations even those with formal liturgies hand clapping is being tolerated and even encouraged. It seems it is at the More formal european born protestant churches where it re Mains suspect. Eric Dickey director of music and organist at Zoar lutheran Church in Perrysburg Ohio said occasional rounds of applause have been breaking out at the Church for the last five to 10 years although Many people still Are Uncertain whether they should clap and if so when. After pondering the subject and listening to discussions of it at summer music and theology conferences Dickey has concluded that applause in Church is most appropriate when it is a spontaneous gesture inspired by a move of the spirit. But if you have to Stop and  it or wait to see if someone else is going to Start then maybe it s just As Well to wait until after the service and show your appreciation  much of course depends on the Church s tradition said Dickey an Episcopalian who has worked in lutheran churches for the last decade. L or example he said some lutheran music directors consider applause inappropriate because the purpose of Church music is to glorify god not the musicians. But Dickey said spontaneous applause in response to a particularly moving Solo or choral work can be a Way for the congregation to affirm what they have just heard. It s like yes that s what we wanted to say the congregation feels the need to participate even if it s a choir or an Organ Anthem. It s not that they re applaud ing the person but they want to share in that offering it s the same As saying amen during the Sermon income  at Cornerstone Christian Center a pentecostal Church amens Are considered appropriate during the Sermon and applause and hand clapping Are practically expected during the service. The Way we look at it says Derick Thomas min ister of music clapping is a form of Praise so it s not Praise necessarily for the people that Are doing some thing. We re clapping in Honor of  no thanks says James Metzler organist and choir master at Trinity episcopal Church in downtown Tole do Ohio. " applause to me is a secular Type thing not a sacred thing. I Haven t Ever really tried to think through what bothers me. In part it s because i m a traditionalist and that s the Way i grew up. Applause was not allowed.". To Metzler the insertion of a round of applause into a sacred worship service takes away from whatever spirituality has been building in the service. It s almost like slapping someone in the face and taking him out of a  distributed by Scripps Howard news service Catholic prelate urges halt to use of Bingo gambling from the associated press win Nav Minn. A roman Catholic Bishop in Southern Minnesota has called on churches and parochial schools to Stop using Bingo and other forms of gambling to raise Money. We consider gambling As a regular source of Church income to be inappropriate Bishop John Vlazny says in a letter published in the september edition n of the diocese of Iriona s  on gambling As a regular fund raising activity detracts from the spiritual blessings received from sacrificial giving he wrote. The Winona diocese includes 20 counties spanning the Width of Southern Minnesota. New mormon Temple Orlando Fla. Jam s Ihrie and her family tired to drive nine hours to the closest mormon Temple in Atlanta now the Tampa Mother of six is looking Forward to a change in her hectic schedule with the opening of the Orlando Florida Temple which will serve 172,000 mormons in Florida Southern Georgia and the Caribbean. My husband and i have this goal to drive Over to the Temple every Friday night for Date night she said. This is our spiritual Refuge. It will be our special time  the $15.5 million Orlando Temple opened earlier this month. It is the 46th facility worldwide for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of latter Day saints and the Only one in the Southeast besides Atlanta s. Sex rams Star aids youth Dayton Ohio former los Angeles rams football Star Roosevelt Grier has urged a Church congregation to work together to make a difference in the Community. Grier recently visited the Salem Church of god in suburban Clayton to help Start a Home building project with habitat for humanity. He played the guitar Sang and told stories to youngsters. Grier 62, has worked with gang members across the nation. They Don t want to be bad. If they had an alternative they d be doing something else Grier told the 2,000 people attending. Yet we want to keep putting Down these  assisted suicides opposed Portland Ore roman Catholic priests in Oregon plan to preach against a ballot measure that would allow doctor assisted suicide and then to pass around the collection plate to get Money to defeat the initiative. Archbishop William  of the diocese of Portland and Bishop Thomas j. Connolly of the diocese of Baker have instructed their priests to take these actions against ballot measure 16. In 1992, California catholics gave $1.6 million in special collections to defeat a similar assisted suicide measure. Measure 16, on the nov. 8 ballot would allow terminally ill patients to take prescriptions to end their lives. The Law would be the first of its kind inthe country. United Effort urged Memphis Tenn. Police can do Only so much so Black churches must try harder at working together totem the growth of gangs and violence on american streets says a group of Memphis  the crime Bills All the school uniform policies All the speeches in the world will not reach into the Homes and hearts the churches need to do that said the Rev. Kenneth Robinson organizer of an anti crime meeting of Memphis ministers. More than 70 leaders of Black churches fro throughout the City were invited to the meeting at St Andrew african methodist episcopal Church. The idea is to coordinate efforts among the churches to direct their social programs toward reaching Young people headed for trouble. Churches working independently stand a smaller Hance of making an Impact the meeting organizers s by. Grier