European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 03, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Is Effle Bathen Many parents Are cutting Back on alcohol because they Don t think drinking is a Good example for their kids. Parents drinking less for the kids7 Sake by Carin Rubenstein the new York times t first Tricia Swanson was delighted that she her husband and their two Young children had an invitation for a four Day weekend at a sumptuous lakefront Home along with two other families. But soon after they arrived Swanson a 40-year-old _ substitute teacher from Mill Valley calif., realized with horror that she had not taken her daughters Layne 5, and Karin 3, on the Brady Bunch vacation she had imagined. " r ."r-.", several adults spent the Day drinking Gin fizzes at breakfast martinis at mid morning afternoon Beers pre dinner rnai Tais wine with dinner. And each evening she said at least one grown up passed out on the Couch in front of All nine children. It s very much a part of their summer weekend lifestyle Swanson said but it was t the kind of example i wanted for my  partly As a consequence of that weekend last year Swanson has nearly stopped drinking. Increasingly it seems parents across the country Are becoming More judicious about How much they drink. Parents Are much More conservative now than in the past about drinking around children said or. Raul Caetano an epidemiologist and the _ 1. Director of the alcohol research group at the University of California at Berkeley who conducts National surveys on american drinking habits and attitudes. There is an overwhelming consensus that if parents drink when children Are present it should be very Light  saturday december 3,1994 in an analysis of unpublished data researchers at the new York state office of alcoholism and substance abuse services in Buffalo found that women Are Likely to Cut Back on drinking after they have children Jne researchers _ have been following 647 couples interviewing them when they obtained their marriage licenses a year after their marriages and again after three years. As newlyweds 30 percent of the women said they usually had at least two drinks a week after they became mothers Only 17 percent still had that much to drink said or. Kenneth Leonard a senior research scientist at Arents Are much More conservative no than in the past about drinking around \ .children.1 or. Raul Caetano director of of Coriol research group the research Institute on addictions which is part of the state Agency. In addition before having a child about one woman in 10 said she got drunk at least once a month but none did afterwards he said. _ _.-. The Era when parents happily combined cocktails and babies is apparently Over mirroring the nationwide drop in drinking by adults. People Are now drinking less a d Are More concerned about the effects of drinking than they were 10 years ago Caetano said. Many parents say they can see this shift in their own families. My parents generation was much More Liberal about drinking in front of children said Sally wolfish 39, a Dallas lawyer who said her parents used to have several cocktails every night before dinner. My Mother was Home with us All Day and by 5 o clock she needed a drink v wolfish who has two sons,,10and David 8, said she has Pney one or,." two drinks a month. My sons think drinking is bad she said. My older son has drug education at school and the teachers talk to the children about alcohol being a  the new parental puritanism about alcohol particularly social drinking is not Universal. In France and Italy Tor example Many adults drink a Glass or two of wine at lunch and dinner Caetano said. Parents there have a much More lax attitude Todrin Lorig and their children observe More of it he said. It May in " fact be better to have a culture that views alcohol As part of daily life than one that prohibits it he added because forbidding children to have any _ experience with alcohol May leave them unable to control  drinking As teen agers. As a result More of them will drink and drive crash and die he. Said. " t ". So should parents avoid alcohol _ _ completely for the Sake of the children not if they would prefer to be drinking said or. Michael Schulman a psychologist in Manhattan who co wrote bringing up a moral child. Abstention gives children the message that drinking is l