European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 07, 1995, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 10 the stars and stripes saturday january 7,1995 widow should Stop griping get out today s crossword dear Ann Landers i am a senior citizen and a widow. My husband was an act Vic and beloved member of the Community. His funeral last year was one of the Best attended in Bur town. I received a great Deal of attention and piles of letters of condolence. When the holidays rolled around these same people had their parties and get together. Did they remember to include me no they did not. It seems if a woman does t have a Hus a band she is considered excess baggage. I notice this is not True of widowers. They appear to be very much in demand please print my letter Ann. It might remind your millions of readers that those of us who no longer have mates would dearly love to be included. Thanks for getting the word put. Forgotten and lonely dear forgotten and lonely the word has been out for quite some time dear. I surprised it has t reached you. Unfortunately the world is not very kind to widows. This is an old Story. As 1 have said Many times Don t expect to be included or entertained. It rarely happens. Plant your own Garden. Get involved in Community activities. Be visible. Do Volunteer work. Look for ways to be of service. The list of organizations that need help is endless when you think in terms of giving rather than receiving you will be much happier. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers recently i played the Good Samaritan to an injured Cockatiel i found in the Back Yard of my building. I took the Bird to the county animal clinic to see if it could be. I was told the Bird s wounds were superficial and it was suggested that i leave the Bird overnight and phone in the morning to Check its Progress. I m a senior Citi zen living on a fixed income but i scraped up $50 for the Deposit for the Bird s medical treatment. I just could t leave it there to die. V. When i called the following morning i was told the wounds were not superficial after All and that the Bird also had an injured Back. The clinic suggested x rays surgery and injections for Lead poisoning. I told the doctor i was sorry but i could not assume any fur ther financial responsibility for the Bird. The clinic is now harassing me for an additional $85, which it claims is due please advise.,. " a x i -. I Lucy in by. You should not be held responsible for a diagnostic error. Had the veterinarian told you up front that the Bird would need additional care and treatment you could have made a informed decision. In my opinion under the circumstances you do not owe anything /more.-. ,. A a Xiv. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562,Cago. Lit. 60611 -0562.  \ .1 c creators Syndicate. ". Waif Rig room ideas lady see Pear Abby j perhaps there s a doctor somewhere who will try one of my great ideas. For example having writing tablets with a Clever Letterhead saying while waiting in or. Feelgood s outer office i thought i d drop you a line Abby everybody owes some body a letter and patients in a waiting room would use these tablets in a minute also some exercise equip ment such As a stationary Bike or a Treadmill in the waiting room would really make the time go quickly. Some patients might appreciate the Opportunity to exercise. I can t be the Only person who can t find time for writing letters or exercising. What do you think Abby  full of ideas dear full if people steal magazines that arc 6 months old How Long do you think or. Feelgood s Clever stationery would last also i doubt if people waiting to Sec a Doc dear Abby Tor arc up to expending the Energy to exercise. Further i have yet to Sec the waiting room of a doctor or dentist that could accommodate exercise equipment. My husband died several months ago. Is it proper for me to continue wearing my wedding ring i Nave worn it for 36 years. I hesitate to remove it but i Don t want to look foolish to others. Is there some Rule of thumb concerning this perplexed in Pennsylvania dear perplexed. A i / it is a very personal decision. There is no timetable for the length of time a widow should continue to Wear her wedding ring but those who Wear theirs May give the impression that they have no interest in dating again. In a previous column i have said a widow who has no interest in looking for another mate May continue to Wear her wedding ring on the third Finger of her left hand it will serve As a very effective Stop sign should a single Man find her attractive. A widow who wants to Date again will wisely switch her wedding band to her other hand or retire it to the jewelry Box. 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