European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 15, 2007, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tinda scene stars and stripes pages on base support centers an help i dont even know where to temporary duty pay and every Start Ever since my husband and riling else you can think of when i have been married Ive always i confront him about any of Mem worked and never depended on he said Meres no such thing As his Money but he always pays cola and the la amount was the Bills we have Sepa just enough to pay some rate Bank accounts ills so if s already weve been overseas for gone if by any Chance just a few weeks and it spous6 chs Hes checking his account has been the worst experience of my married life since we got Here All of the Money we spent was deducted from my Bank account which included paying for billeting Pur chasing a vehicle and insurance eating out and much More now i have less than in my account in other words in broke Back in the states i was making a Good salary and now in making nothing heres the problem he has cleaned out All my Money but dont have Access to any of his Money whatsoever not his Bank account Check Book or atm Hes been hiding and lying Terri Barnes us online and i walk by he immediately closes it i left my family my friends and my own life to come Here Only to get treated like nobody weve been arguing and not talking for weeks my family has offered to me some come Back to the states i have been thinking about going Back to Start All Over again but definitely can not afford the airline tickets for myself and my kids even if i do go Back i have no place to live half of my furniture is Here and the other half is in storage i really dont want to go Back Home because it would be too Enbar about his base pay la cola passing please please help be cause i dont think i can live like that any longer name and location withheld help is available to you right where you Are so dont give up you have options and resources on your base or Post to get you through this difficult time and improve your circumstances your husband has a responsibility to support those he claims As his dependents you and your children and the Mili tary takes that responsibility very serious y if you need necessities in an urgent situation you May be Able to get help from a family readiness or support Cen Ter on your installation in the various military branches these Are called Navy Fleet and family support Center airman family readiness Center or army Community and family support Center these organizations provide help in situations like yours on a Caseb Case basis your letter does not say if your Hus band is refusing to provide food or necessities for you and the children if that is the Case or for other reasons these agencies can also direct you to More sources of help possibly to family advocacy Legal or to your husbands Chain of command you can also get help counselling and guidance from a chaplain any of these sources will be an advocate for you and you do not need your husbands approval to go to any of them As far As your husbands financial information you can find pay charts for All ranks in All services at at that site you can also find information about All types of military pay and allowances you can find a cola calculator at this web address Type in your location spouses rank dates no name or pin is required the calculator will guide you Click exe cute and you will get the per Day cola amount now you Are armed with information and support you Are not alone your family can get through this and there Are people on your base to help you i Hope that when you do get through this that you and your husband will seek counselling and learn to manage your military life and your finances As a team Terri Barnes is a military spouse and Mother of three she and her family live in Germany where her husband is stationed at Ramstein a coveting the Middle Orange Roll my sons have been arguing stays the same that Middle roil is the Over who gets to eat the Middle Orange one each boy wants for himself Roll since they were old enough to eat solid food there old enough now that the Battle seems like its been going on forever by Orange Rolls in talking about those refrigerated Rolls that come in a can with Frost ing one slam against the Kitchen counter and voila you have pre rolled buns just waiting to go into the oven the Roll in the Middle is soft All the Way around which somehow makes it the Best no hard edges Ron has explained to me sometimes i make cinnamon Rolls or Horn front Why dont they simply take turns that sounds a lot easier thing even on school Days the boys dont get up at the same time because Jimmy has to get on the bus an hour earlier than his Brothers on those mornings he helps himself to the Middle Roll a Side Roli and any left Over frosting he can spot on the Pate by the time the Rolls i i make their Way to a Yawn my Ronnie i will have managed to rearrange them on a new dish so he wont complain about being served warm Dover Rolls giant Cinna Ronesque Rolls but the Issue Theattle can get pretty ugly on week Jenny ends however when All three boys sit Down at the table at the same time Tommy is usually the first to say hey you got it last time no you did Jimmy responds Ronnie didst Jimmy get the Middle Roll last time mama aaa Tommy wont give up until i somehow come up with a Way All three of them can eat Orange Rolls without trying to kill each other we try very hard in this family to at least wait until after breakfast to Start knocking the daylights out of each other just kidding sometimes the boys dont hit each other until lunchtime the biweekly argument Over who gets the Middle Orange Roll is one of thou Sands of tiny ways the boys compete with one another and make sure in treating them equally Ive heard daughters can be just As competitive especially if they Are close in age for now in going to Hope the three of them grow out of it or learn to Channel that drive to get the Best Orange Roll into something More positive such As getting the Best grades still they drive me nuts sometimes with the constant Effort to outdo one another yesterday i heard Tommy say the follow ing to Ronnie As they headed out the door to meet the school bus guess How much the tooth fairy brought me last night i closed the door before the two of them started comparing the going rate for Teeth these Days a Mother of three boys Parr Zich has moved eight times in 16 years of marriage to her Marine corps husband they have been stationed in various locations including Okinawa California Texas and their current Home in Springfield a email her at or find the Zichos online at  he would stand outside with a pad of paper calculators our financial ruin every time i came out with a full this is our from did you two shop a lot there aka the worlds largest China Cabinet i had to fill this thins now that what i Call a souvenir Jenny is drawn by Julie Negron of Kadena air base Okinawa her web site is 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