European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 17, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday november 17, 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letters dear Ann Landers i laughed when i read that old column you ran on wedded Bliss to show How times have changed. I humbly submit a version for the 1980s. I d love to Sec it in print. 1. If you Aren i j. Going to be Home for f dinner Telephone and let him know. 2. If you come in late throw your Brief Case in first. If it comes Back to you go to your Mother s. 3. Make him keep his clothes in his own closet. 4. Keep him in working condition. The male is really the weaker sex 5. Tell the kids to ask their father. 6. Be understanding when he has a head ache. 7. Ask him what s for dinner or arc we fasting 8. If you happen to buy identical suits Don t Wear them when you re out together. It looks Tacky. With it in Michigan dear Michigan thanks for a Breezy reminder of Bow limes have changed. Dear Ann Landers i spoke to my psychiatrist and told him i wanted to write to you. He said go ahead. Can t Hurt. Might  i am 28 years old. Seven years ago i developed chronic depression. After four years of agony i was Given medication and began to pull out of it. During my depression i tried suicide three times in one month and was committed to a state mental Hospital. They let me out after four weeks i am no longer suicidal according to my psychiatrist and am doing quite Well. My psychiatrist advised me not to re turn to my former occupation. It pays 2vi times As much As i am now earning. He claims that if i Lake on Loo much responsibility i will fall apart. I am extremely shy have an inferiority Complex and hate the Job i have. I have never Felt loved by anyone except one girl and that was several years ago. I m female and straight my Mother father Sisters and Brothers deserted me when i was ill. My cousins and friends snubbed me. In addition to feeling alone and abandoned i went through hell being depressed. I asked my psychiatrist to Tell me the truth about my mental illness. He said if i avoid pressure situations and continue to take my medication faithfully i May Lead fairly Normal life. Should i believe him Ann meanwhile b it Worth it to slav ii a Job i despise please let me hear from you. I read you everyday. Cliftn Gutof the darkness it Newark Drar Dunmor it to tit a if to i Are la the hands of a uhly cow Al it doctor. Please Bitta to urn. Reach out for Friendship. I m Are you Hare Tot to give and there Are so Many Fob who he you Are lonely. Look b the phone Book for Reco Ery he. If few attend the meetings. Re Cottery numbers share problems similar to your. The emotional support they go on another b phenomenal. Your Nee an be belter but you mat Suke an Effort to help yourself. Others hate made it and you can Loo. Good Luck Sag cod bless. Reminder All letter to the editor must cantata Ike full printed name and address of the writer and must be signed. We do not read stand Letton but we will withhold your name of request and protect your privacy. All letters Are subject to editing. A few thoughts on commissary stocking policies seen a lot of negative comments about commissaries and i be been guilty of some griping myself but i think it s time to re verse the trend. True commissaries arc behind in the health foods lineup but they Stock what Sells. In other words if the diet ice Cream turns cruddy while the Baskin Robbins stuff Sells they re going to remove the diet ice Cream from their Stock. They d be fool ish not to if it does t sell. So if you want he he sixth fix items buy them when they re stocked. They la sell faster and will be kept on i he shelves. The sad fact is most military families have atrocious eating habits preferring sugar Laden foods to healthier items. We can t sit in judgment of our commissaries for not providing what Many people would t buy anyway. Changing your bad citing habits is hard believe me i know and not having a Good selection of he ally foods can make in rough Oul you can manage and you can work with your commissary via suggestions and support to change the current practices. In other words if inc sugary stuff does t sell they la remove in from i he shelves. The customers share the responsibility for what the commissaries Stock. In closing let me express my thanks and appreciation for our commissary Al r.a.i-. Edzell Scotland. They have crammed an incredible variety into a Small space and the senior chief has been very helpful to those of us who have sought help in fighting bad eating habits. Sugar free items have been stocked on a trial basis and Kepi if they sell. Senior chief Bohannon deserves our appreciation. Being a commissary officer is nol an easy Job and in is very thankless sort of like being a House spouse. And you critics out there All Over the world Stop and think does t inc Man or woman who runs a tour commissary deserve a thank you for what s been done right instead of constant negative nitpicking criticism . The same can be said for our Mili tary exchanges bul  s another let Ter. . Clouse Raf Khz cell. Scotland club owner offers advice for american patrons this letter will make some people angry sad and hostile but i feel it is something that needs to be said. I have been in Germany for 10 years eight of them accounted for by being in the army. I was stationed in Frankfurt Gies sen Bamburg and Berlin. After hearing on an thai 99 percent of americans know How to act 1 want to address an Issue that the remaining 1 percent should hear. If this letter makes you angry then it is not directed to you but if the shoe fits Wear it. I work As a civilian during the Day but Dur ing the night i own a Small interest in a club in Sachsenhause. The name is not important because i m nol plugging the club for Busi Ness. The Issue at hand is the conduct of some of our american custom cars. You know the cover charge is 10 Marks. Why do you always have to argue cuss and Insull the Doorman it s not Nec Essary by Ause of want to come in. Please show some respect. Please Don t Wear your Doo rags and Tennis shoes. Dress properly and show the germans Hal you have some class. They Are nol laughing with you icy Are laughing at you if a German woman does t want to dance Wilh you Don l Call her a Bitch or another View of South Africa my opinion is based on factual evidence instead of emotional Appeal so i doubt in will be presented but i Felt i should write it anyway. Apartheid is really ethnic socialism meaning slate interference in the Economy and not a combination of fascism and right Wing oppression. I thought i should stale some facts so that the so called spokesmen on South Africa including Bishop Desmond Tutu and Nelson Mande la could contemplate them. Blacks immigrate at an annual rate of 500,000 a year to South Africa not away from it. It produces 75 percent of the Gross National product for the entire continent. It also produces 87 percent of the Platinum 77 percent of the Gold and 32 percent of the diamonds Hal the non communist world produces. Chief Mango Sulla who represents 5.5 million zulus and a million member organization called inkatha is never mentioned in the press. He said the aspirations of Black South africans predispose Ihm to Opi for inc free Enterprise  he is in Sharp con rail to the leftist Afri can National Congress whose president Oliver Tambo stated Long live inc communist party of the soviet  what did Bishop Tutu stale about Tambo he said he is a person Wilh Christian convict  liberals who want imprisoned terrorists like Mandela released should first read his pamphlet How to be a Good com  in conclusion do we want South Africa to end up like Cuba Iran and Nicaragua these Are cases where pro United slates governments with some human rights prob lems were abandoned by the West and con sequently were replaced by Fidel Castro Ayatollah Khomeini and Daniel Onega a threesome whose human rights reforms Are along the lines of the holocaust. Pfc. Sletten Jones Wertheim Germany prayer for mothers says it air a prayer for Cross mothers of god i was so Cross to the Chil Dren today forgive me. I was discouraged and tired and look in out on them. Forgive my bad temper my impatience and most of All my Yelling. I am so ashamed As i think of it. I want to Kneel Down by each of their Beds Wake them up and ask them to forgive me. Bul 1 can t. Aids policy the department of defense dependents schools takes exception to the oct. 26 stars and stripes article with the headline guidelines on aids victims issued by Dodds  a Union does nol establish policy for schools to follow Wilh regard to acquired immune deficiency syndrome. The Dodds system it a component of the department of defense. Therefore when a Dod wide policy on aids is issued Dodds will adhere to that policy. Beth Stephens . Director Dodds Alexandria a. They would l understand. I must go on Liv ing with the memory of this awful Day of my unjust tirades. Hours later. I can still see the fear in their eyes As icy scurried around trying to appease me thinking my anger and maniacal raving was their fault. Of god the pathetic helplessness of children their innocence before inc awful Monsier the enraged adult and How forgiving they Are hugging me so  Al bedtime kissing me goodnight. All i can do is straighten a cover touch a Small head burrowed in a i i Tow and Hope with All my heart Hal they will forgive me. Lord in failing these Little ones whom you have Pul in my keeping i am failing you. Please Lei your infinite panic acc and goodness replenish me for  i do not know the author but i think this says it All. Name withheld  Germany pen pals say she s prejudiced. She does t want to be with you and you must accept thai. You would not say Hal to your Mother or sister so please show some respect. If you break a Glass or bottle  let somebody know so we can clean it up so the next person has a Nice place to Sii. As i started before if this letter makes you angry then it was nol addressed to you. If on the other hand. Show some sense. Remember common sense is nol common. . Remember Vou enlisted in the army because you Are a proud american. Show some re specs and remember you Are in Germany nol new York City. Keith c. Washington Frankfurt i a 21 Var old Ai would Ilki pen  a. Meriot Llanga Lupon Davao Oriental Philippines 9607 european edition cart Dale k. Patterson us editor in chief cmdr Jeffrey s. Ioakem. Us Deputy editor in pm . Black will m. Pii Octor do. Mcdermott production manager managing de. Circulation Manater thl newspaper it on author i led unofficial publication Tor member of if military Terv Icet Over Teav Content of int Slart and so Vloet Ore nol Nten Welty the official View of. Or endorsed by the us. Government the department of detente or inc u s european command the appearance Al add Liting in thit publication. Including Inte rtt or Tupp Lemeli. 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