European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 9, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Anri Laha is dear Ann Landers i am Desper it. My Pood Friend has terminal cancer. Through the years i rive Given her col Lector s plan pcs for Christmas naturally they have in creased in Vanluc. I Don t know the Best Way to ask her for them. Hurry to your answer since she Cun l live much longer sincerely sentimental dear . Sentimental you could hate footed me. Gifts a climb of he person to whom you rave them. You have no right la ask that they be returned. To do so would be in credibly Gross. Consider the possibility that your Friend Muy have promised those places to � daughter or grandchild. I u Ray oat thing for you you came of with problem i hid never heard before in ill the years of writing this column. I be run brio nil kinds of people in this space but few As calculating crass and vulgar As you dear Ann Landers i am 22 years old and t have been going with a 25-year-old Man who i la cat Steve for eight months. He asked me to marry him. Steve is intelligent generous and very attractive. I want very much to be his wife. The problem is this three years Apo he fathered a child by a woman he went with in College know Little about their relationship except that she was in love with him and wanted to get married. Steve did not. His Parent Are very close to the woman and Are helping her raise their grandchild. Steve is supporting his daughter but Sel Dom ices her. If i or a questions about the child or her Mother he becomes upset and says he. Does t want to talk about it. Ann 1 love the Man but this Side of his character disturbs me. It pains me to see him turning his Back on his own Little girl. I cannot help but wonder what kind of father he will be look children. I am trying u decide if 1 should go see the Mother of his child. Much As i want to marry Steve i feel too Many tilings Are unresolved. Can you help me sort this Oal Call me Sharon no City or state please dear Sharon i a nothing in be gained by calling of the Young woman. In feet it might Tia her a Good Deal of pain and i suspect she has had enough already. Give Ike  a Lily of tune be fore a Mike final decision. Urge Sim to kit a  Kas not come to terms Eltah  Towitz the child nod prob a Tytus i Good Deil of guilt a he former sweetheart. Unless resolved tins problems could Louse tip your pm triage. Dear Ann Landers your Eipert 8�v Jou bum Tulud a response to the question which surgeon general determined that cigarette Mok Ine b hazardous to our health her question dealt with the warning on. . The surgeon general fio deserves the credit Luther Terry who served from 1961 to 1965. In the interest of accuracy an Las a matter of fairness please Iet the record straight. Publisher. Lexington Herald Leader thursday january 9, 19b6 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters Dodds replies to concerns about locked fire exits safety l isl or Security first is the Choice. Apparently Dodds chooses Secu Rity Over safety. I am concerned about Dodds practice of Chain Locking or pad Locking fire exits in schools when the buildings arc in use after Normal school hours. 1 know that last year at inks hello elementary school All the doors except the main Entrance were Chain locked at 3 p.m., even though after school activities were being held. I have been Laid that the same practice continues this school year. Here in Heidelberg at the Patrick Henry elementary school the fire exits Are pad locked in the evenings and on sundays when the building ii in use. There Are about 200 protestant children in the building far sunday Church school. The Only Entrance i tin t ii unlocked is the main front door. This is also True at a Liesheim except the number of children is smaller. I believe fires can occur on sundays As Well As any other Day. Would you knowingly Send your children to a movie theater where the fire exits were padlocked i think not. Since the above practice ii True in the two school thai i am familiar with i would presume that the practice occurs in other Dodds schools in Germany. If we were in the states the fire marshal would require immediate compliance with existing regulations. Hence the purpose of this letter is to Alert Parent advisory committees about the above and to suggest that each committee obtain a copy of the Usa eur general purpose fire prevention checklist which covers 19 items for dependent schools kindergartens and Nur Sery schools. With this list each Pac can Check its school for compliance. Some examples Are have tire drills been held the prescribed number of times arc desks or supplies stared in the hallways having been a principal for sit years i know a lot of things Are done As cof a dicots or limply overlooked. The Pac can Point out deficiencies to the principal for correction. Remember safety is everyone s Busi Ness. Walter w. Duncan Heidelberg editor s note . Lacks Lead director Dod office of dependents schools Germany Region replies the office of dependent school issued is regulation 4800.1, school safety program dated sept. 3, 1985, la All re Gions throughout the worldwide Dodds system. This regulation established Gener Al policy Dud responsibility for ensuring Safe and healthy educational and work he comments on alcohol Issue i have been living in the Ansbach area for to t than a year now and have followed with interest the seasonal radio spots celebrate sober and summer  while i do not advocate Drunken driving i can t help but wonder Why the armed forces in Europe persist in hiding their Heads in the Sand. Recent studies have stated that More than one third of High school students have admitted to a drinking problem. These Are the ones who Are honestly an swering the Survey. How Many rationalized their problem away and did t answer honestly now. Unless the armed forces have a special reservation of Bright eyed Intelli gent physically fit and non addicted Young men and women where arc the privates seamen recruits and airmen of the next decade coming from yet the image of the two it Slid hard charging hard drinking Soldier Sailor airman and Marine persists All around us witness the Leader who stands in front of the formation and tells of his monumental drinking bouts and the company parties with one cose of soda and 20 cases of Beer. The average Young service person took around and sees that drinking is condoned. They soon realize that if you work hard you can party Hearty and no one will say anything to you. There is the danger and the criminal neglect that endangers the morale and spirit of any unit in this year of army leadership Many leaders of All the services Are let Ting their people Down. The Leader who would t hesitate to pull his subordinate from a burning vehicle loaded with am munition lacks the courage to confront that same subordinate with the fact his drinking ii making him her late to for mation and is affecting work performance. The Leader ignores the problem and Lew his other subordinates make up for tic lost Effort. The Leader who would pull a wounded subordinate to safety while under fire will not Tell that subordinate that he made an ass of i Imseis at the last unit party and he should t drink. The Leader that would order and if necessary physically evacuate an injured subordinate 10 a dispensary will not accompany one of his people to acc or an alcoholics Anonymous meeting. The Leader who will take correspondence courses on his military occupational specially in his off duly time to improve his professional skills who goes out of his her Way to find and study the Best ways to employ subordinates skills in combat does t know the simple Indica tors of alcoholism How to get u Man into treatment for an alcohol problem or even if there is a meeting of alcoholics Anonymous in the area. The proverbial message is on the bulk head. One third of the potential recruits of the armed forces already has a drink ing problem. Statistics show that 1 in 7 drinkers is a potential alcoholic thanks to celebrate sober and summer sense we Don t have to worry about them on he roads just in our work spaces recreation areas Day rooms Barracks and in combat. Ronald d. Jacob Auch Germany More on being fit and smoking thank you for publishing the recent opposition to the tobacco companies bondage Topoor health. Indeed slavery Lute exists in this country. It s merely 8 different form addiction to chemicals which must be bought. Wonder if one Branch of the armed forces has the guts to step out 10 years ahead of Socky and direct its members to Stop smoking or get out or do sen. Jesse Helms . And his tobacco Farmer friends have Loo much influence any organization whose Mission is to fight has the obligation to require Maxi mum health and stamina in All its Mem Bers the Dod currently take this Liberty and each service Branch enforces weight and aerobics standards to main Tain an image of fitness. But a bigger bang for inc Buck in conserving inc fighting strength is to eliminate smoking or does t anyone listen to the surgeon general let s Slop being hypocritical by saying fat or fit Oul of one Side of our Mouths and then take u drag Wilu the other. Sub stance abuse is also nicotine and alcohol addiction and not just marijuana or co Caine use. In withheld Brindi Italy environments for dodos students and personnel. The fire prevention Section of inc regu lation includes a stipulation that an in spec Linn of exits will be made in ensure the doom Are not chained during occupancy. To hosting school hours school Princi pals ire responsible for ensuring that All exits Are properly secured. The activity sponsors of evening and weekend events Are responsible for coordination of Security arrangements with local official to assure that the futility u secure after the event is finished i agree with the writer hat safety is everyone s business however precautions hive to be taken to protect valuable government property. The ill Eshelm school is scheduled to receive improved doors that will eliminate chaining them after school hours. Mean while other users of the building have been provided keys to inc padlocks and advised to Munior the opening and closing of the doors for safely und Security. The Heidelberg schools have Hcan us vied to coordinate with local safely fire and Secu Rity officials regarding the writer s con Cerns. Dodds will review ibis Issue Al All school a Siulin to provide school advis Ory committees a copy of the Dodds safety regulation. They will also receive guidance to ensure coordination with the local military officials concern Iii any Spe Cial safety lire or Security circumstances Al inc schools. Community personnel should be urged la bring this matter to the attention of inc Loca Schaul and installation advisory committees. European edit Ion up Dale k. Patty Ken. Us Edillor la cum Cmor Jeffrey i 1akem, us of pull Zedilar in Chin . Lackwell m. Nocum in. Nude Thott Rve Dualon Mem she Manalih f4 Orin Altal minor Tel a must ii an Ault. Mam bars 0 r4 mall mar tar. Ovar Hai. Wilt a of tha Stan and sir bit Art Rul Man adv he of Cal nit of or Andoria no in . Mute Manl Irta Duparl nil of of line or a . European command. 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