European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 10, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday Dace or 10, 1987 the stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann Landers although i am sure a great Many people have had his prob Lem i have never seen it in your column. I am sure it is because it is difficult to express in printable language. We have three children 7. 5, and 3 years of age. We spend a great Deal or time with them and there ii no reason for them to feel neglected. They Are Alt in bed by 8 o clock. My wife and i turn in about 10 30. When we want to make love we lock the door. Starting about a year ago the two older ones who share a room started pounding on our door. They say they Don t feel Well or they arc lonesome or they had a bad dream. Since our bedroom door ii usually shut but not locked they demand to know what we an doing and Why the door is locked. My wire insists thai we open the door and attend to their needs. I believe she should not do this and have told her so. It is frustrating and annoying to be interrupted like that and we never Are Able to pick up where we left off because 1 am out of sorts. I never dreamed that i would end up writing to Ann Landrix but Here i am with a problem 1 am unable to handle alone. Please help. Anonymous in Racine wis. Dew radius Yor Obj men a Laming How to gel Whit they Wutt by being Minlo litre and demanding. There trill be More of till tort of thing it you and your wife Don t put a end id it lit once. The children should be told that your bedroom is a toy private place and when the door is tacked it Means Prunte to Hittig is gobs on Ltd they not Welcome. Explain that you respect their right not to be barged i on and that they should a pct yours. Mike it Plain that a the Home is on Tat m they me really sick you want them to Knock Bat if they Fly to fool you the punishment will be Swift and St Mac then keep your Ward. Dear Ann Landers i have a Friend who is charming and intelligent but extremely obese Over 300 pounds. Several weeks ago she broke one of my very Good dining room Chain. It was very embarrassing. She never said a word about being Sony nor did she mention paying for a replace ment. The chair was beyond repair i need to know How to prevent her from breaking other chairs in my Home without coming right out and saying sorry you can t sit  tact is of the utmost importance. She is a dear person and i would t Hurt her for the world. Thanks for your help. Without a clue in Bloomsburg a. Der Wilmont Dedde in Iannce which chair ills Friend will sit in. The moment she Uri ires Lead tur to the chair of your Cook. Should she be a dinner guest Yoo need nol feel uncomfortable about having a special chair on hand. Far belter to subject her to Tel null embarrassment than to allow her to risk the Chance of falling through a second chair in your Home. Dear Ann Landers what should be done when an invitation is received for a 50th wedding anniversary party and in says no gifts please and then someone starts a Money tree the Host and hostess Are Well fined financially and they do not need gifts at this stage of life. Please advise. Florida question dear Florida Hety decline the uni tation to participate in the j tree and forget it no explanation is necessary. Page 11 letters writer wants to help neglected baby i admit it i am guilty of the Faux Pas of lava dropping on the conversation of Chi pc Kuis in front of do in the Bank line today rut after 15 minutes of the topic of this conversation i earned it further and put my two cents in. What were the parties discussing they were Dis cussing a Mutual Friend and her treatment of her 2 month old baby who this Mother hits decided is worthy of spanking Why does she spank her 2-Monihold? because he cries Loo much. Why does he cry Loo much Well these two women attributed Illo the fact that the baby must have  As i further listened to the conversation it was Clear to me that More than Likely the baby was crying due to the fact that he was hungry. I will not claim to be an expert in the medical Field but i would say that if a baby weighs 8 a or 9 pounds at birth according to these women and two months later weighs Only 6 pounds also according to these women something is powerfully wrong. These women went on to discuss How improperly she feeds the baby and How she does t really keep enough food on hand for him. This Friend they were discussing is the Mother of two other children both under the age of four so we cannot discount this Mal treatment of the baby due to inexperience. This is the Point where i could no longer bile my Tongue. I spoke up excusing myself for eavesdropping and asked the women who is this person i mean what she is doing is wrong you have got to Icil some one she won t necessarily have the child Lakin away from her if she needs help they la help Here. You can t just nol do anything. Suppose something happens to that baby How would you feel knowing that you could pc slopped it the a time n briefly acknowledged i was right and resumed to their conversation the same subject you can feel thai baby s nos when Yuu hold  this went on for another five Minics before i broke in again. Please i said "1 cannot tolerate this. Give me her name i la r port it if you re afraid i Don l mind having my name on some report if that s what you re warned  More Blank acknowledgement. Needless to say these iwo women were very Loyal to their Friend they did nol divulge her name. And so another child Dies slowly As a result of fear. I would t want to have my name come  maybe it la All get belter  gee i d lose a  All great excuses huh there was some information 1 gathered As turned on the radar cars the baby is scheduled for his two month writ baby Check up net week. According to one of the Loyal friends she does t plan to Lake him in because she has no transportation though there is a shuttle bus she could ride yep that baby s last Hope shot Down. I went immediately to acs and reported All thai i had heard More than i should write he but still there is no pertinent information that could pinpoint the identities of this woman and her poor baby. The feasibility of checking up on every baby who does t show up that morning for his appointment could be far fetched if even five babies Don t show up. A Friend i spoke to Aboul in later said Shell have to take him in sooner or later to have shots or they won t let him go Back to the slates. At this rate Don t think that child will make in 0 Lacr and i m getting doubtful about  name withheld German personnel changes worry civil servant As a career civil service employee and an american i am dismayed with the trends that arc currently under Way within personnel administration Over the past year 1. The establishment of a new retirement system that requires greater employee contributions to obtain the same retirement pay As the ensling civil service retirement. 2. The new retirement system will not offer Cost of living adjustments until age 65 and then at 1 percent less than the Cost of living Index. 3. The plan to apply social Security and medicaid withholding against an allowance intended to reimburse actual costs for overseas housing but simultaneously disallowing the social Security withholding for retirement credit social Security is the Cornerstone of the new retirement system 4. Just announced is the elimination of within Grade step increases. In Light of our government s irresponsible fiscal poli cies Cost cutting is def Inilda the order of the Day. As explained in the new Federal employee retirement brochure the Beauty of the new retirement system is thai you Don t have to remain with the Federal govern ment to get a retirement with social Security which pen pals Tau Hiim h a or in a a Menfi or Hotuj a a Twig Mimi Kitong Law yid. It Tyne Tomid w urd Gunt. Pm two. Pm in it and to i in 31 Vafi old. I won a Terr Etc hmm w Row Taeu Council i in to i oui Uji Amin Tomci Syntta a Natl a Krkuti too twi your imm Voo Eri writ u in m pm or Tom Bun and step. Apo 09211. Us. Emi hot London pays full benefits Al starting age 67 what is shocking is he Speed at which our government has attacked allowances for social Security lanes with no Isle lion of providing corresponding retirement credits. It is a taste of things to come. Ort a far greater scale it is interesting to Nale that our government s plans for future austerity Call for a reduced Standard of living for our citizens through the devaluation of the Dollar higher taxes and reduced benefits . Cuts in social Security. Is it really necessary to pay for fiscal mismanage ment through a lower Standard of living is it nol pos sible to look Al some of the major causes of our Federal deficit and Trade imbalance for example our policy of the direct Transfer of billions of taxpayer dollars annually to foreign govern ments and private foreign firms for the sole purpose of permanently supporting our military overseas should be re Eva Luald. 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