European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 26, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday january 26. 1990 the stars and stripes Pago 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers this clipping is Well worn from years on the bulletin Board. I am a teacher in Valdosta. Ga., and it was Here when i came. Idon t know where it came from but 1 believe it deserves a larger audience. Please print it. .  it had i larger audience. It appeared in my column several years ago. Thank you for asking. Sorry. No medal for us. Kid a to can Agar came up to me and said gee Good adult Why Aren t you proud of me i be never been arrested and i m a really Good kid. It seems that no body understands  you say nobody understands you. And then you brag about How you resisted being a Bandit a dropout and a menace to society. Also you Don t smoke dope or hit your teacher. You work after school and Are a Joy to your parents. I do not go around robbing Gas stations or shooting people either. My Reward is that i Don t punch your teacher and i Don t punch my Boss. So you get an education and i gel to keep my Job. You Don t hot Rod your car and i Don t hot Rod mine. We both May live longer and thai is a pretty Nice Reward in t it you work after school. I work after work. We both get Money which is Handy when you want to buy something. And Don t forget that for Many years i have been contributing part of my paycheck to build those schools you brag about not dropping out of. Your Reward for staying in school is an education that will help you get a better Job or maybe be a doctor or a lawyer. Education can help you live a Fuller life and be a Good adult. So Stop looking for Praise for doing what you arc supposed to do. That s what you re Here for. Dear Ann Landers in response to bananas in Rochester i m in the same boat. I have been married to Jim for 20years.he s hard working honest Loyal and a wonderful father to our three children. My friends say they would kill to have a husband like Jim. So Why do i have affairs i be had three in the past 12 years because i need Romance and excitement in my life. My lovers make me feel desirable. Jim s lovemaking is humdrum and Mal Crof fact. He will not Sec a Counselor but 1 have seen two. They both Tell me to leave Jim and Start a new life but i Don t want to break up my Home. I also have a career and spend time with my Chil Dien. But i do take time out for my Lover twice a  am slim attractive and look much younger than my years. By the Way i am certain there Are no other women in Jim s life. Any solutions i need some answers. Split personality in Canada dear split p your letter proves that nut All Counselor Are terrific. As i have said before sometimes you must shop around until you find the one who is right for you. You need counselling to find out Why your level of self esteem is so Low that it needs to be pumped up twice a week by Lover. The fad that you would risk your marriage and possibly your children for this extracurricular excitement suggests that you Are not thinking  Good Counselor will help enhance your sense of personal Worth and teach you How to open Jim up. He lust might respond in a Way that May Surprise you. I Hope it happens before one of those women who would kill to have a husband like Jim senses there is trouble in Paradise and moves in on you. Los Angeles times Syndicate end creator s Syndicate civilian wants More pull at dental office a recent letter concerned a military family member who was attempting to obtain dental care for her 2 year old daughter. She said she could t obtain an appointment for her daughter for various reasons including that As a military dependent she was the lowest  for the record the lowest priorities in both the Den Tal and medical Side of the House Are civilian govern ment employees and their dependents. Not Only Are we the lowest priority but we arc also required to pay $62 per visit for this distinction. A few months ago. I had a cracked filling obviously i needed it repaired. I also could t get an appoint ment and was required to pay the $62 before i could even be placed on a waiting list. After presenting my receipt i waited three hours to be seen. I was seen then Only because a military member did not make his appointment. The dental examination confirmed the cracked filling. 1 was told they might not he Able to work on it that Day which would require me to pay an additional $62 and be seen on a space available Only basis. I opted to continue waiting and luckily. I was seen the same Day. In any Case i was required to use six hours of sick leave because i could t obtain an appointment. Having been in the military can understand the importance and privilege of free medical care for . Civilian government employees How Ever who Are transferred to overseas duty stations Are just As important to the Mission As our military counterparts. If we were getting free medical and dental care i could understand being the lowest priority. If anything we should at least have the same priority As an Active duty member and our families the same As that of military dependents. Here in Naples Italy As i m sure in other cities overseas it s not As if we have a Large Choice of compe tent medical alternatives As we do in the states. It s no wonder so Many civilian employees opt not to extend. Among other things we re treated As second class Citi Zens when it comes to Basic medical dental needs. My family is important to me. And Basic medical care overseas in my opinion is More a right than a privilege. If had a reasonable alternative i assure you i d take it rather than play the waiting game at military medical facilities. . Booth Naples Italy editor s note Navy capt. . Linman commander . Naval dental clinic Naples Italy replies first let me provide a Little background on dental care for civilians. The Federal employees benefits improvement act of 1986 extends eligibility for health benefits to All is. Citizen Federal employees including Dod school employees and their sponsored dependents at specific Remote Continental is. And overseas locations. This eligibility includes routine dental care with the provision that such care will be rendered on a space available basis defined As a period of time when no military personnel Are available or can be contacted to fill an appointment and that the patient will be charged a per diem rate. The specific Impact of this legislation As it relates to those civilians seeking denial care in the Tuple area was publicized by consolidated civilian personnel of fice Naples notice 12890 of dec. 9,1986. Despite this increase in the number of patients Eligi ble for treatment staffing Levels have in fact decreased. Remaining resources must he carefully allocated while paying heed to the priority of Active duty operational readiness. Navy and Marine corps personnel and their dependents first undergo a medical and dental screening prior to Transfer overseas to determine their mint ability for such duly assignments. Civilian employees Are formally advised of these limited health care assets and strongly urged to Complete any definitive care prior to coming abroad and Are encouraged to procure health insurance. Additionally let me add that the naval dental clinic. Naples and its Branch clinics in six european countries provide imme Diate treatment for All Bona fide emergencies for any is. Citizen. Your Case concerning a delay of three hours in being examined for a cracked filling is unfortunate and unsatisfactory under Normal circumstances. It has been referred to the command Quality Assurance committee for review and recommendation. Please be advised that patient Contact representatives Are available at each treatment facility to assist with just such concern As yours. They May be contacted in person or by Telephone and might be Able to suggest possible Slack periods during which Yon would have the Best Chance of receiving routine care. Every Effort is made to Complete treatment in a Man Ner that minimizes the required per diem charge As this additional administrative chore is equally unpleasant for us. In your letter you did not imply any shortcomings of the dental staff or in the treatment you received. While we always strive to be sensitive and caring it is some limes the level of our communication skills that deter mine How we Are perceived by you the patient. In Clos ing May i assure you thai there Are no second class citizens in the Quality of Navy Medicine. Car buyer advises a trip to the Library your Library can save you Money. My visit has Al ready paid off. I be been shopping for a new car and the prices made me uncomfortable. At first i attributed the feel ing to the fact that i d bought last Lime at 3.30 Marks editor s note we have received letters from Many people listed in our pen pal column who say they have received so Many letters that they can t respond to All of them. So. If you Don t get a reply from the pen pal of your Choice pick another and try again. To the Dollar. Then i remembered that the Abrams Complex Library carries the sunday los Angeles Tim Sand the new York times and those papers carry lots of car advertisements. That was a Good idea and a few minutes of looking gave me a partial cure for sticker Shock. Find out what your favorite american and japanese cars arc Selling for in a free Market society and take a few minutes to visit the Library. You la be surprised and you la be a More intelligent buyer. Lloyd e. Peterson Offenbach a St Germany ws.ltimt0.tvb  col Volhl c. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. 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