European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 26, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Daily / appears some men Are finding cooking to be relaxing after a hard Day at the office. Ore men move to the Kitchen great Cook 43, together tall fit attractive divorced male professional with Youthful Outlook toward life in search of attractive Classy fun Loving female. The Washington an december 1989 by Marian Burros new York times men who advertise in personal columns arc invariably handsome athletic and  and  but what s this cooking business for every woman who touted her cooking skills in advertisements irom Washington to Chicago to new York to Seattle there were at least twice As Many men who thought their ability to Cook was Worth mentioning. A recent informal Survey of personal columns showed does this mean that men who do the cooking Are slowly replacing men who come Home and holler what s Lor dinner " before rejoicing at these glimmering of role reversal remember that the number of men who say they Cook is still infinitesimal compared to the number who list working out As a favorite pastime but something is going on in the november and december issues of the Wash tonian a Magazine there were 12 men who said they liked to Cook in the dec 25 Issue of new York Magazine there were three including one who said he liked to Cook chinese food and another who. Even though he May not Cook appeared to have the right moves he said in his and that he enjoyed among other things helping mom and even doing the dishes the de13 Issue of the Seattle weekly offered a Man who was willing if not Able he wrote i want to learn gourmet cooking " for Tad Reid an Active Man seeking an athletic woman in the Seattle weekly common interest was the overriding reason he listed cooking among his favorite things i on of eating he said and i m looking for a woman who also enjoys eating slender women arc slender either because they diet or because they exercise and i m looking for the latter there Are a lol of slender women out there who Don t eat very much they sort of subsist you take Thorn out for a fancy meal and they Aren t interested " Reid a machinery designer who also likes skiing climbing cycling cats and cozy evenings in front of the lava lamp said i m not using it to impress a woman but eating is right up there with sex not quite As far. But right up there " Ann Wood owner of Ann Wood the matchmaker a dating service in Washington. . Said a surprising number of men in their mid-30s know How to Cook there s a generation Gap that runs through the 40s somewhere Wood Oaid. Older men May know How to Cook but will leave it to others because of the Way they were raised at least half of the men under 35 Cook roles Are just not As rigid As they used to to " psychologists have fancier ways of describing what is happening it s a relatively Low Cost Way to portray oneself As being  said or Richard Eisler professor of psychology at Virginia polytechnic Institute and slate University in Blacksburg. A it says i represent the new male the one that supports feminist objectives caring emotional this and that there Are certain things that violate the male gender role Norm like running from a fight not standing up for one s country. Cooking is not that kind of violation. It fits the female gender role but it s not a major violation of the male things to  but even Eisner reduced the cosmic View to a More personal one. When i was divorced about 10 years  he said one of the Host things i discovered was that i could Cook. I was pretty Good at it and now that i m married again i Cook about two or three nights a week i have certain things i Hove perfected thai Only i can  another psychologist or Herb Goldberg. Irom los Angeles is also the author of several books about men. Including the inner male new american Library. 1988 he talked about food and cooking As having intimacy  As a Icren of seduction and As a Way for men to rid themselves of the Macho image. I think most sophisticated and aware men these Days know that women respond Well to men who Don t have a Macho Imago he said that most women still have a fantasy of meeting or. Perfect the surgeon who makes $300,000 a year in a very aggressive profession and comes Homo and Cooks " Goldberg said he has found that food 1 neutralizes men and makes them  his experiences have taken place in the elevator in his office building. Women will not look at me or talk to me in the elevator unless i am carrying food he said especially if it s something that has a smell or color. Then they Start a conversation they ask me if they can have a bite they comment on Iho food unconsciously most women Lear men especially strange a non " Friday. January 26, 1990 the stars and stripes Page 13