European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 8, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 letters a e. Germans recall visit with . Famil Yann Landers dear Ann Landers id like 10 second the negative opinion expressed by one of your readers regarding dating services. I think they arc highly questionable even though they May be considered a respectable Way to meet people these Days. The Quot selective ones prey on High Hopes and loneliness Tor which they charge very High fees. The cheapest plan offered by the service i joined was slightly More than si.000 for 12 referrals. They did t make Mueh of an Effort to match me with a compatible person. I met Only one Man out of the 12 Wilh whom i could Converse easily and whom i considered attractive. I discovered several weeks later that he was married. So Mueh for the screening process the Counselor and brochures arc very Clever at building your expectations White quietly cautioning you lobe Quot realistic Quot if i had managed to meet even one Good Friend through this Agency. I would not be complaining. I wonder what is the failure rate of these dating services in proportion to their successes these services arc used by thousands of lonely single people. Id like to hear from your readers. What experiences have they had will you please ask them a still single and looking in Hartford dear Hartford ill ask pm. How about it. Readers lets hear from those of you who Hare gone this route. What happened did you get your Money a Worth did you feel cheated we want in know. Dear Ann Landers i am a 37-year-old Man who has been married to the same wonderful woman for 15 years. We have four sons 6 to 14 years old. For 11 years. 1 was the sole support of my family. Then 1 was diagnosed As diabetic. My doctor said i had la find less strenuous work or risk a stroke or a heart attack. Unfortunately less strenuous work also meant less pay. We ended up on welfare. My wife decided to go out and find a Job. She was Lucky enough to gel a position with a Fine company and has risen rapidly through the ranks Over the last four years. She now makes More Money than 1 Ever did. Meanwhile. I worked various part time jobs hat barely paid for the household help. Last february. I was Laid off and decided to stay at Home and be a hous husband this was Fine with my wife because she never particularly liked housework. I do All the cooking cleaning laundry and marketing. I enjoy being at Home and my wife likes the fact that she never has to life a Finger around the House. The problem my family seems to think i am a Lazy bum. My father phoned me the other morning and Tola me Thal i should take any kind Ojo Busl to get Oul of the House. He seems to think that being a housekeeper is not work. This makes me wonder if he thought my Mother was Lazy All the years she stayed hum raising us kids 1 was offended by my father s Call and would like your advice on How to respond to him. Frankly when he called i did no to say much. Please advise. A ticked off in Texas dear ticked Linuse husband Are not All that rare these Days. Your father needs to gel current. Where has he been the last 15 years since this arrangement suits you and your family Whit business is it of his i done to encourage disrespect to parents so i la give him the message mind your own business. Dad a lot Angeles times Syndicate and creators Syndicate i am sure you will be surprised to get a letter from Dessau in East Germany. But it has a special reason. We both Beatrice and Jens Dunn bail live Here in Dessau a we Are both 27 years old a and had the Chance of celebrating Christmas time together with a Host family at a Limburg. We have spent three Beautiful Days together with Nancy and Alonzo Henderson who had invited us according to your Call in the stars and stripes on dec. 15, seeking Holiday hosts for East germans. Family Henderson was immediately willing to Host two persons of East Germany during Christmas Lime. So we arrived at Nurnberg on dec 25 by car our Quot famous Quot East German trabant. And we were Given a very warm Welcome by our Host family. But first we were very surprised to have been invited by an american family and not by a German one because it was a Campaign of the West German government a live together celebrate together. But i think we could not nil it belter than with the hendersons. We soon made Good acquaintance with each other. And there was no language problem because mrs. Henderson could speak a Good German and we could apply our seven years of school English. So we had an interesting time together during the three Days. We talked about ail of nowadays life and problems such As the new situation in East Germany in Romania and Czechoslovakia and others. Naturally could anyone in Usa eur Headquarters explain to me Why department of defense Dod civilians employed m West Germany arc not permitted to travel by bus or train from West Germany to West Berlin this prohibition seems like a relic of the cold War. In t it time this prohibition was lifted Why  Dod civilians be Able to take advantage of the cheap rail and bus fares to West Berlin any american not connected to the . Forces can take advantage of these cheap fares. The red tape and Advance planning make the duly train almost impossible to use. I have also heard of Dod civilians being bumped at the last moment. The Only other alternative is an expensive Light or a Long drive. For Over 15 years we have had diplomatic relations with the government of the German Damn Bialic Republic East Germany. The lifting of the ban on commercial surface transportation Tor Dod civilians is Long overdue. A name and inca Liun withheld we were a very interested audience when the hendersons talked about their native country the manners and customs in the United Stales. On the second Day we had a Beautiful sightseeing tour in Nurnberg under the leadership of our Host family. We walked together downtown to the shopping Center then along the River Peg Nilz with its Nice old but very Good preserved Bridges. Afterwards we went for a walk across the Market place up to the Nalmberg Castle. Having a Good weather we had a wonderful View from the Castle Tower around the whole City and its surroundings. As a final Point of our City tour we just visited the to lower. On our third Day we made a Little shopping and in the afternoon we had to leave for Dessau. That is Why we wanted to thank family Henderson in this Way for their kind hospitality and for giving us the possibility to spend some Days at Beautiful Nalmberg. Furthermore we also want to thank you. Your newspaper and the Frankfurt military Community for the Active contribution to enable us and maybe a lot of other East germans a stay in West Germany during christmastime. Please excuse my sometimes bad English. I Promise to improve it step by step. We wish you and All your readers a Happy new year. A Beatrice and Jens Dunn Belt Dessau East Germany editor s note a Marty Podkalicki chief. Travel Section personnel services support directorate 1st personnel come i in Usa eur. Replies we appreciate the Opportunity to clarify policy regarding travel to Berlin the writer s interest in lifting the ban an commercial surface transportation for Dod civilians employed in Germany travelling to and from Berlin is commendable. However agreements in Force prevent the . Forces from lifting this ban. The Berlin travel rules Are to preserve Allied rights on the land Access routes and the Allied position an the stale of Berlin. I he rules Are based on the Allied quadripartite agreements commonly called the four Powers agreements Between the United Stales great Britain France and the soviet Union. The German democratic Republic is not a negotiating party of the agreements. We have been recently informed by officials in Berlin that there Are no forthcoming changes id the present policies or  pals i m 38 years Del and my Hobby Are volleyball and listening it music a Lourdes a ook Jwj Sarangay Wambui. 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