European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 9, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Children Are experts at laying on guilt a ids done to change. I realized that when i read a Story recently about Theresa a Grentz from Rutgers University who Al a was nominated to be the . Women a basketball coach for the 1992 summer olympics. / her older son reacted with Joy and Pride that his Mother had been singled out for the Honor of a lifetime. Her Small son however wanted to know a am i going a. My mind went Back to 25 years ago when my typewriter was in my bedroom resting on a piece of plywood supported on either Side by Cement blocks i received a letter from my Mentor Glenn Thompson then editor of the Dayton Ohio journal Herald who informed me that at his suggestion new Day Syndicate had picked up my column to be distributed throughout the country. My husband was thrilled for me the boys were stunned but my daughter thought a minute and said a a who a going to drive me to scouts on tues a a a a a Days a a. A a v a. You  believe the guilt that a Small human being capable of walking under a Coffee table can Lay on you. With one look he can get the Candy bar you were saying for yourself or get you to take the Bent Fork or the egg with the broken Yolk. A a Quot y a quote y parents set themselves up for guilt. From the moment children Are born we elevate them to the Center of the universe. Schedules Are readjusted lifestyles change sacrifices become a Way of life. Nothing is going to get in the Way of our children so a a happiness. A y. By y a a a we tend to operate under a double Standard. If a Mother locks herself in the bathroom Reading the morning paper in peace and a child interrupts she yells through the door a a in a  if. She is on the phone talking to an editor and a child demands her attention she Calls the editor Back. A y a a a by Quot  if dinner is late because she met Grace in aisle 3 and got to talking no big Deal. If dinner is late because her plane was on the ground at of Hare shed better arrive Home with a new Nintendo game As a peace offering. It has always been. It makes you wonder if the a. Sons of Sandra Day o Connor had been Small when she was named to the supreme court would they have lamented a you go to washing _ ton we re not leaving Pur  were Carol r burnetts daughters Ever in tears because their _ Mother Hadnot washed their favorite sweater As she was going out the door to make millions. Laugh did the utile Kennedy kids hang around the Knees of their first parents As they prepared to leave the White House and whine Quot you Guys _ a going out again a mothers guilt. Done to even think of leaving. Home without  Vanderpool Gormley o a acc upon a time most of our Ancus tors were known Only by their Given name. Later to distinguish a person the name of his or her father was added. Tim naming system is known As patronymic. Only when a name became hereditary did it become what we know As surnames that is when John the son of Carl Peterson son of Pete became John Peterson and not John Carlson Carlos sordid a family name become fixed. In some countries patronymic were used until fairly recently and for scandinavians researching their roots understanding patronymic is Paramount for one is faced with a name change in every generation. Scandinavian  further complicated because very few Given names were used. In Denmark As late As 1787 approximately is male Given names were used by 90 percent of the male population. Many swedish researchers discover patronymic names were changed by ancestors when they entered military service. In searching norwegian records you must be aware that they often identify with a locality name instead of the surname. This locality or farm name identification normally is not the actual surname in Norway but changed As the family. Moved to another locality with a different name. This is True in Northern Germany also where Many surnames arc from a a farm name Quot Many american surnames derived from patronymic arc from popular teutonic a Ken names like Robert Richard William and Henry the four sons of William the conqueror or from Well known biblical names which were popular nil Over Europe and even in Many parts of Asia. William became the most common Given name in England just before the period when surnames became fixed family names which accounts for it being such a popular surname today. Williams Williams son is the third most popular surname in the United slates. It appears in Many forms Willis Wicks Wilcox Wilkes Wilkins willing and Mcwilliams from the scots and Irish. John became a popular Given name by the 17th Century. Johnson a a popular surname in England and the scandinavian countries a has become the second most popular surname in America with the Welsh Jones son of John fifth. The Welsh also produced Upjohn from no John meaning son of John Jenkins Johns and Jonas. German family names developed from the Given name of John arc Hans Hon Schul and Jankuc. Dutch forms Are Jans and Jansen. From Sweden Norway and Denmark come Evensen Hansen Hanson Jensen Johanson and Jonsson. Italy contributed Giannini and i Giovanni. The polish versions a Janicki Jankowski Jonn Wica a Are found often in America. Ivanov is the common russian form of John and is the most popular surname in Russia. From Czechoslovakia come Jana Janas and Vanek from Hungary Jan Yosfi and from Lithuania Janis and Jonikas Myra Vanderpool Gorlay a former Stara and stripes employee. Write for the los Angeles time Syndicate. For the week of dec. 9 Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 join friends for a country Outing. Visit a favorite resort for fun and relaxation. Put your mind on cruise control and daydream about the Good old Days. Capricorn Deo. 21-Jan. 19 stay on track with current obligations. Set goals for 1991. However Don t drive yourself toward exhaustion. Balance work and play. Put More zip into your sports schedule. A Yyi by y in aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 put away your Crystal Ball for now. Its Cloudy where the future is concerned. Deal with Day to Day challenges. Nothing is humdrum where humanistic water bearer is concerned. By Quot / by Pisces feb. 19-March 20 Don t let neptunian dreams sweep you into make believe. Trust intuition and avoid signing contracts shield your self from invasions of privacy. Explore artistic hobbies or . Aries March 21-april 19 begin your March to better health. Aerobic exercise and sensible diet keep you healthy wealthy and Wise try new hairstyle or shopping spree. Express yourself. Taurus april 20-May 20 stay decisive. Seize control of your financial destiny. Sign papers after checking with experts. The love boat enters your port of Call. Sound the whistle gemini May 21-june-20 be a pleasure seeker. Inaugurate bold plans. Show off your fancy footwork in career matters. Perseverance and hard work pay off through year s end. Cancer june 21-july 22 be sensitive to relatives on the skids. Your words of Comfort can be antidote for pain. Stock your personal Library expand mental horizons with new classes. Leo july 23-aug. 22 catch up on your Reading and writing. Friends bring business plan out of Mothballs. Efficiency and order especially needed. Reopen communication channels with relatives. 1 Virgo sept. 23-oct 22 Don t forget your ideals in the mad dash for material gain. Dreams can be anchored in Concrete reality. Donate funds for a worthy cause Wear heart on your sleeve for a change. _ _ _ v Libra sept. 23-oct, 22 bottling up your emotions is dangerous say what you re feeling and Don t be ashamed. Cast worries overboard. Add artistic touches to Home and Hearth. Scorpio oct. 23-nov, 21 remain optimistic about career changes re evaluate Long Range aspirations but Don t abandon them. 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