European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 25, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Sgt. 1 St class Herb Ruflin 40, a also assigned ,6th. Area support group,.said Hea. Believes military men with wives in Region Are better equipped to handle of waiting than. Civilian spouses. A Quot a. Quot but i m sure some Guys Are going behind closed doors and shedding tears Quot he added. A ruffing 33-year-old wife sgt. Gail Ruffin was sent to saudi Arabia with a Reserve medical unit from new a York recently. I s attending in the slates when her deployment orders came. She was Only five months Short i competing course work to become a licensed practice Murse atthe time Ruffin. Said. A a a a. Quot she was quite disappointed As far As not being Able a to finish school but Papua to be called upon a he said. Ruffin a Square jaw Eclex infantryman who looks like. He was carved from a Block of Granite said he a confident his wife will be Safe in the Field Quot i have. A Confidence in today s technology and she s Well protected Quot he said. ,. Mike Arnold a civilian Mai room worker at Vii corps Headquarters in Stuttgart in t so cocksure about his wife s situation. He said he sometimes worries that his wife of 19 months sgt Karen Arnold of the 31 St combat support Hospital will be haunted by memories of seeing seriously wounded soldiers. A Quot i Don t think any Man would want his wife to experience those he. Said Quot if there Are casualties and a lot of them Shell see that it has to a have an a Impact on a a \ Ruffin though said his military background makes it easier for Hirr to believe that his wife will be unruffled by Quot Quot the sights and sounds of a combat Hospital. A a Quot i be seen death in Vietnam. I be been in hospitals wounded. I be talked with people who have lost their legs and arms. I was Able to pick up and move. he said. Quot it s basically a question of a person being Able to be Strong Quot a a a a a a a a a a Arnold Ruffin and Schute said they Haven . Any meetings designed solely up to this Point but they dont feel they be missed1 much by Schute said he a started to open up More about his feelings anyway out of a desire to help his colleagues a and himself Cope with the War. A the Captain who is in charge of notifying Stuttgart area spouses about casualties in the Gulf Region said he is talking with co workers More often and trying to lend moral support. \ a a a a a a a a a Arnold 34, said he and military wives at his office Are holding up Well Topaz no one is so distressed War in the Gulf Point Thal they re going to fall apart a he said a. Arnold s biggest adjustment so far has been sending his 13-year-Olqj Stepson Christopher to his. A grandparents House in so Louis shortly after the War. Started. Quot we d Only been in Germany a few months and it a Quot was too much to ask him to adjust to a new country and no mom a Arnold said. Quot he has family and friends Back in the states to keep his spirits . A Gill who a Learned from experience. Suggests a other husbands with the War step Forward he said he s willing to talk things Over with anyone Quot it takes time to develop a Friendship and Trust Quot he said. Quot it s not like turning on a Light switch it takes time to be understood and to understand Quot. Still one sign that All is not Normal yet in the Gill household is the fact that Gill continues to spend his nights on a Small folding bed in his living Doorn Quot to done to sleep in my bedroom Quot he said Quot when my wife a gone that part of the House gets shut off our Beds too big and too empty without her Quot Quot in a playing the role of or. Mom Quot says capt. Fred Schute who cares for his 20-month-old daughter while his wife is in saudi Arabia. 7 was so depressed and upset about what was going on that i did no to feel like doing anything Quot says Bernie Gill. His wife capt. Marjorie Cox Gilt is a logistics officer in the desert. Rumary 25, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 15
