European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 07, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 14 a the stars and stripes sunday april 7, 1991faces a no places Ann Landers quietly weds fellow Soldier. From wire reports army spec. Melissa Rathbun Nealy the first female prisoner of  of the persian Gulf  has quietly married a fellow Soldier her family said Friday. A a Rathbun Nealy 21, had said she was going to marry 31-year-old spec. Michael Coleman in August Quot but she got tired of the publicity a said her Mother Joan Rathbun. A a that a one of the reasons they got married  Rathbun said the wedding took place March 28. She said she did not know whether the couple was married on their base at fort Bliss Texas or off base bit that a Justice of the peace presided Over the Small ceremony., Rathbun Nealy who is now using the Hant pie Man is heading Back to her transportation Mit at fort Bliss probably on monday after a few weeks off following her release March 6 from Iraq said her Mother. The couple will hot have time for a honeymoon she added. Since her return Rathbun Nealy has been showered with Book and movie contract offers interview requests and invitations to throw out the first Ball at two opening Day major league baseball games said capt. Ruth Cartagena Nutter who was assigned by the Pentagon As Rathbun scaly a a Media coordinator at fort Bliss. Gless mourns tvs. Sharon Gless of televisions Quot Rosie of Neilly and a Cagney and Lacey says that one hour to dramas have become an endangered species. A we be determined that the spotted owl and the hour drama Are becoming extinct a Gless said. The actress was critical of the networks for not following the example set by Gless a Cagney and Lacey one of the few successful hours of television featuring women in leading roles. Tyne paly starred in the show with Gless. A a it a Nice to be one of a kind but i think its a shame for television arid a shame for women portrayed in television a said Gless. A i done to know what they re afraid of.�?�. The actress currently stars in lbs tvs a the trials of Rosie of Neill a a one hour show that is produced by her soon to be husband Barney Rosenzweig. A. A a / a a Partridge denies charges Danny Bonaduce a Phoenix disc jockey whose air name of Danny Partridge recalls his acting Days on televisions a the Partridge family a has denied beating up a transvestite prostitute and said he will soft out the allegations in court. \ police released a report thursday that says Bona Duce claimed someone else was driving his car when patrol cars and a police helicopter chased it through Central Phoenix at speeds of up to 90  31, is on unpaid leave from radio station Kofr while he faces trial on charges of robbery unlawful flight from a police vehicle and assault. No trial Date has been set. Bonaduce was released on his own recognizance. A a police allege Bonaduce picked up Darius Lee Barney Early last sunday paid him $20 for a sex act and then asked to have Intercourse. After Barney refused Bonaduce allegedly began to beat him breaking his nose and ripping his clothes. The report says police found blood on Bonaduce a hands car and boots. Bonaduce said he would account for himself when the time was right. A personally 1 feel like 1 could Clear this up in two seconds a he said. A but i can to Clear it up in the papers. 1 have to Clear it up in  Suny head inaugurated ii. Patrick Swygert was formally Nauru rated Friday As the president of the state University of new York at Albany. Swygert 48, is the first Black president of a Suny Center. He took Oyer last August. For two years he was the executive vice president of Temple University in Philadelphia where he had previously been a Law professor and administrator. Bom in Philadelphia Swygert graduated from Howard University and its Law school. In 1977, he was the general counsel to the United states civil service commission. Marines expand Mission this years Leatherneck Ball held Friday night at the Sheraton Centre in new York raised Money for scholarships for children of military personnel from All the services killed in the persian Gulf . Normally the annual event provides scholarship Money for children of marines Only. Peter Haas the Marine corps scholarship foundations president estimated that about 170 children were affected. The foundation created in 1962 by retired Gen. Martin Rockmore and the late col. I. Robert Kriendler who was a co owner of the �?o21�?� club has Given 57 million in scholarships. More than 1,000 people attended the Ball which honoured j. Peter Grace the chairman of . Grace amp co., and Theodore h. Black the chairman of Ingersoll Rand co. Dear Abby please Correct me if in a wrong but Isnit it rude to shorten someone s name without his or her permission. In a so tired of introducing myself As a a Elizabeth Only to be called  this happens to me often. I have tried correcting people who do this but it does no to do any Good a they go right on calling me  i just can to understand Why so Many people believe its of to take a a shortcut Quot with someone a name can you a a a Elizabeth not Liz in Dallas dear Elizabeth most people who take a shortcut with someone s name do so in the spirit of friendliness. However it May be perceived As undue familiarity so unless he or she feels certain that it will be Well received its better to go the longer route. / no one would presume to Call Queen Elizabeth a a Liz a while mrs. Thatcher responds Good Nat redly when she a called  i would not recommend calling Henry Kissinger a thank a but Hank Greenberg would be puzzled were he to be called  although for dear Abby Mer California gov. Browne a name is really a Edmund Gerald a everyone Calls him a a path for Short and he  have it any other Way. I have heard from Many barbaras who detest being called a a Barb and Richards who do not care for  a Bottom line its always Wise when meeting a person to ask a and what shall i Call you a dear Abby my grandson and his wife have two Darling children whom i love dearly. They live out of state every birthday and Christmas Shower them with loads of gifts but i have never had a word of thanks nor even heard whether they received the packages. In a not looking to be thanked but 1 think the least they can do is let me know my gifts were received How can i politely Tell them id appreciate a Call or a note telling me they received the gifts i sent bugged grandma dear grandma you done to say How old your great grandchildren Are but if they Are old enough to hold a Pencil by Crayon they Are old enough to scrawl a  Don t blame them a its the fault of their parents in dear Ann Landers. I feel compelled to respond to dome iia c. Renshaw ., professor of psychiatry and director of the sexual dysfunction program at Loyola University her credentials Are impressive but she is typical of the medical Community a too Quick to prescribe drugs for whatever Nils you. \ i j c4. Millions of people involved in groups modelled after alcoholics Anonymous 12-step program especially thyself proclaimed sex addicts would beg to differ with or. Renshaw. Shoving medication at people who Are using alcohol pills and sex to fill the holes in their souls is not very different from the Parent who shoves food into a child a Mouth rather than encourage that child to face up to what is bothering him. V a a a my brother was severely abused As a child. He became a manic depressive and was put on medication. Those drugs drastically altered his personality. Thanks to a 12-step program and a Fine therapist he is off medication and doing  a a a a a. We now know that certain psychotic disorders such As schizophrenia respond Well to medication but the symptoms or. Renshaw Speaks of Are Clear indications of compulsive behaviour. Drugs Are not the answer so please Tell the medical Community to Stop pushing More chemicals on a society that already has too Many prescriptions for everything. Survivor in Middlesex mass. Dear survivor v. A a thank you for sharing your views. Dozens of other wrote in a similar vein and i shared those letters with or. Renshaw. Here is her response dear Ann Landers the Stream of mail generated by your column came to me from All Over the country. A my daughter is a compulsive  a my Mother is a compulsive shop a  a my father is a  a i am compulsively attracted to  so Many people want help. Educational material can be useful but the Man who. Wrote heeded psychiatric evaluation. The social worker in a Community Hospital would be a Good person to rec Ormend a competent psychiatrist. A 12-step program can change maladaptive behaviour but it can be dangerous As a one fits ally therapy because it does not meet the needs of those who have major psychiatric problems. For example a mild diabetic can get along Well on a careful diet but an Insu  diabetic will die  doses of inject Able insulin Are Given. Similarly manic depressive illness also caled bipolar disorder is very real and it runs in families. This condition changes the brains chemistry and today is As treatable As diabetes. It would be unthinkable to use a 12-step program when medication is available that will Calm the hyperactive exhausting behaviour or lift the depression. Sex a a addiction is really compulsive behaviour that often masks an underlying psychiatric disorder. Also a a survivor should be aware that putting several sexually impulsive and compulsive people together could invite trouble. However Many people do Benefit from self help group therapy they grow learn to use their inner strength meditate Pray and Cope with the Many potholes of life. Doreena c. Renshaw  Gem of the Day 1 have lived in this world just Long enough to look carefully for the second time into things i was most certain of the first time. A Josh Billings. C creators Syndicate _ a who have failed to guide their Little hands to the task. Tell your grandson or his wife what you have told me. It would be a kindness. Dear Abby please Tell your readers that any female employee who gets involved with her Boss is out of her mind. I speak from  i was 23 and he was. 48,1 was married at the time and so was he. He told me he loved me. I was pretty and Blond a 5 foot 4, 36-25-36. He said i was a perfect a but when my measurements changed so did he. This is All ancient history now and thanks to heaven and an understanding husband my life was not ruined. I had an abortion but that a another Story Abby please Tell those Young girls who Are tempted to have an affair with their Bosses to Back off. Its never a secret. Their wives eventually find out and its a Nowin situation but i suppose its Etter to have. Loved and lost dear l. And a with All due respect to Alfred lord Tennyson when it comes to adulterous affairs it s not better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at All. Thank you Wise lady for sharing your costly and painful experience. _ a c Universal press Syndicate