European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 17, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday october 17, 1991 the stars and stripes Page 15 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i need an objective opinion about a problem in a having with my husband. A a Mark so Mother never accepted our relationship. She told him that i am a vulgar Low class woman and that she wants nothing to do with me. We married quietly last year and i gave birth to a baby girl shortly after. My Mother in Law has yet to acknowledge me or the baby and continues to speak of me in an insulting Way. Within a few weeks Mark s Cousin is getting married. Mark has been asked to be in the wedding party. I have never met the rest of his family and had hoped to do so at this wedding. His Mother however has demanded that he attend alone since my presence would upset her. Mark has agreed to go to the wedding without me. I should Tell you that this woman is an obsessive social climber and has manipulated Mark All of his life. Meanwhile i feel betrayed and humiliated especially since Mark has been promising to take the baby to visit his Mother without me of course and has never done so. I am 28 years old and a lawyer. I speak four languages and am considered attractive. I have never been called a a vulgar or a flow class by anyone else that i know of. To be fair i should Tell you that my Mother in Law has run Down All of Marks previous relationships. Incidentally my husband is 35, attractive and does Well in his chosen profession. 1 done to know what to do about this problem Ann. Please help me see things More clearly. Head spinning in Montreal dear spinning head Marks treatment of you is abominable. Why you tolerate such emotional abuse is something that you ought today a crossword dear Abby dear Abby when i read the letter in your column from the pizza delivery truck Driver i had to write. I also work for a National pizza Chain As an inside person taking Telephone orders. Our goal is to take the order make the pizza and deliver it within 30 minutes the same parents who allow 3-and 4-year-Olds to pay for the pizzas also put them on the phone to order them. 1 have to keep four adults on hold while trying to decipher the speech of a toddler. Meanwhile the parents Are in the background coaching him or her As to what to order the address Etc. These parents obviously think this performance is incredibly cute. I have also had 5 and 6-year-Olds placing orders As late As 10 and 11 . Abby please allow me to Point out a few tips for readers who order pizza a decide what you want to order before you Call. We May have people on hold while you Are conferring with each other As to what size to order what toppings Etc. A have the person who knows the address order the pizza. A have your Money ready for the Driver since he May have several pizzas to deliver within 30 minutes. To look into with the help of a Counselor. As for your wimpy husband he sounds like a pathetic Case of arrested development. It would probably take years of intensive therapy to Rescue him from his mothers clutches. My advice is to get some professional help and Stop trying to push yourself and your child into a family setup where you Are clearly unwelcome. Dear Ann Landers. A a. I was touched by �?oj.w., Burnsville  whose father slept at the Hospital while her Mother was a patient there. I have a similar Story with a different ending. It raises a question that perhaps you can answer. Is it possible to die from a broken heart my parents were married for More than 50 years. My Mother has alzheimer a. We had to put her into a nursing Home because it was apparent that dad was completely worn out taking care of her. On the Day i drove mom there my father asked if they would allow him to move in with her so they could be together As they had been for 50 years. I explained that he was not ready to be in a nursing Home but he could visit her As often As he wanted to. I then moved him into my Home. Four Days later dad was in the Hospital. He died within a couple of weeks. He had been in fairly Good health until then. It is my belief that he died of a broken heart. Is that possible an opinion from Minnesota dear Minnesota its not Only possible its More than Likely. The will to live can be a vital Factor in recovery. When that Force is not present it is entirely possible that a person can die. 1 have always believed that there is a great Deal of Validity in the body mind connection. C creators Syndicate a please be on the Lookout for your pizza once its ordered. Turn on a Light so your address is visible at night. Have an adult present to pay for the pizza. Also lock up your Doberman pit Bull terrier German Shepherd Etc. Elaine in Baltimore dear Elaine Grazie for the suggestions. Dear Abby i was Happy to Sec that piece in your column warning your readers about bringing valuables jewelry when they Check into a Hospital a even for an overnight stay. In be been an in for 12 years and i am still amazed at the stuff people lug into a Hospital. Some come in with loads of suitcases for a weeks stay. One woman brought All her diamonds and hid them in a Pillowcase which almost got thrown into a hamper. Only last month a Man brought his life a savings of $100,000 in Cash. Luckily an observant employee spotted the stash and called Security to place it in the vault for safekeeping elderly and confused patients Are most vulnerable. I have seen patients throw wedding rings and hearing aids in the trash cans. 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