European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 8, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Miss m a i is dear miss manners last july on the Day of my bridal Shower and my Fiance s Bachelor party the minister cancelled a a week before the wed Ding. The replacement we found wanted us to go through premarital counselling so we postponed the wedding. My Fiance says he still wants a july wedding on his fathers birthday his father is deceased in remembrance of him so he suggests we wait until next july. 1 done to have a problem with that although we have been together 4 /2 years living together three years and we have a 19-month-old son and a 5-month-old daughter. The problem is that i have received Shower gifts and one wedding gift. Should i return them gentle Reader miss manners is glad you done to have a problem with the wedding Date. This saves her the difficulty of weighing your Fiance a idea of duty to his fathers memory against what she would imagine to be his duty to his children. Shower and wedding presents need to be returned Only when a wedding is cancelled. As yours has been merely postponed you do not need to worry about them. Dear miss manners at a dinner party we gave my husband and i noticed that one woman kept bringing the conversation around to herself. If we tried asking questions of other guests for example it seemed that with ease and fluency she was Able to treat these questions As vehicles a aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 it s a Good Day to share your knowledge and resources with other people you will gain from the experience. Pisces feb 19-March 20 time to expand your appreciation of the arts. It May give you insight into other areas of your life. Aries March 21-april 19 work is on the forefront. Focus on keeping balanced plan fun activities for the evenings. Taurus april 20-May 20 spark Romance into your old relationship. Surprise your mate with a night on the town. Take risks gemini May 21-june 20 you May need to readjust your plans in achieving goals at work. Don t let them interfere with your Domestic life. Cancer june 21-july 22 communication for talking about her thoughts and experiences. As my husband said ruefully after the guests left a we were up against a  we would appreciate any tips you May offer to keep such a person from monopolizing our evening. Gentle Reader what you have encountered is generally known As a bore a and one who seems to know her business As your husband has pointed out. Rest assured that nearly everyone who refuses to resort to outright rudeness can be victimized by a determined bore. Nevertheless one must fight Back if Only for the Sake of the other guests. Practice saying politely a just a second Lola a we Haven t heard Gary a answer yet and a excuse me a but done to you want to hear what Angie has to say about that a miss manners wishes you Luck. The Only sure  Deal with bores is to identify them and then strike them from your guest list. Dear miss manners when using your knife during a meal is it proper after you Cut something to run the knife along the Side of the Fork to clean it before you place it on your plate i Hope this is proper because i do it and will no doubt continue to even if its wrong. I can to stand to see a knife with food on it. Gentle Reader but Forks arc All right since you have announced that you do not plan to listen to miss manners advice if it is contrary to the Rule you invented she does t know Why she is bothering to speak up. Or Why she even got up this morning. Maybe it is to urge you to be inconspicuous about your eccentricity there is nothing wrong with food clinging to a knife during dinner but there is a lot wrong with having to listen to someone scrape utensils at the table. Dear miss manners my daughter takes a ballroom dance class at which All the girls Wear White gloves but the boys done to. Why is it this Way gentle Reader miss manners doubts that it is rampant sexism so it must be ignorance. The custom of dancing gloved which has fallen on sad times applies equally to ladies and gentlemen. Is at a High. Now is the time to present new ideas. Take an interesting class. Leo july 23-aug. 22 shop for things that will improve your image or your Home. Resist going overboard. Virgo aug 23-sept. 22 you Are More emotional than usual however you also have intensified willpower. It s a Good time for self improvement. Lima sept. 23-oct. 22 focus is on privacy and introspection. Take the time to look at your values and listen to your dreams Scorpio oct. 23-nov. 21 discuss your Hopes and wishes with others. Friends can help you achieve your goals Copley news service married 35 years and his routine still irritates me want to know the thought that ran through my mind As i Knelt beside my new husband on our wedding Day and stared into his eyes i thought Quot first we re going to let his hair grow  god i hated that Burr. It made him look like a shag Rug that had just been vacuumed. In a couple of months he  look like the same Man. At the reception As i watched him with his poker playing buddies across the room i thought a say goodbye to the single life. From Here on in its just the two of us watching sunsets and holding hands at the movies. No More tour group dating. All that is about to  at dinner that night i smiled in anticipation of How his eating habits were going to change. I came from a family that considered Gravy a beverage. He loved vegetables that i consider decorative garbage. I  imagine spending the rest of my life with a Man who had never had Dunt Lings for breakfast. In the weeks that followed i knew my work was Cut out for me. He was slow and precise. This drove me crazy. 1 would have to figure out a Way to step up the Carburettor of his metabolism. Sometimes i would wait in the car for 10 or 15 minutes while he cleaned out the Medicine Chest and re locked the doors. I would fix that. His personal habits needed work. He had never put the Cap on a ballpoint pen in his life. So they always dried out and had to be discarded. And the phone. Not Only was he left handed so he Hung up the phone backward but he also had an annoying habit of answering it and talking for hours and never telling me whom he was talking to or what was said. 1 always had to beg for gossip. But 1 would change that. In the years that followed i never rested. There was the matter of his wardrobe. Winter and summer he never packed anything away. I had to make him understand that changing clothes with the seasons was As traditional As Apple pie and the Buzzards returning to Hinckley Ohio. Then i had to make him More aggressive and to get excited Over something when i got excited. That Wasny tasking too much. The stubborn Streak had to go. I could make him Cave in by crying and saying he was insensitive to my feelings. Piece of cake. Or was it i told him the other night that after 55 years of dedication and perseverance he still has every mannerism habit and personality trait that drives me crazy. I have changed absolutely nothing. He said of so i wont Wear the seersucker suit next  i can to believe id marry a wimp Universal press Syndicate United feature syndic Teik it it s i s Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 discover your hidden strengths and utilize those talents to gain Success in your career. Capricorn dec. 21-Jan. 19 you May be focusing on travel but wait a month to plan. Look at the philosophical Side of  sunday december 8, 1991